Too embarressed to see her again?!
Question: ok its no secret that i have been depressed my close mates no and my gf knows but it really got me the other night and i broke down into tears driving her home i havnt been able to face her since. i dont want to get drugs or ought i just dont wanna feel depressed. its hardly manly to cry is it! bin with her 2 years i no she should understand but its not her problem i should just end it so she aint got me to deal with
Answers: ok its no secret that i have been depressed my close mates no and my gf knows but it really got me the other night and i broke down into tears driving her home i havnt been able to face her since. i dont want to get drugs or ought i just dont wanna feel depressed. its hardly manly to cry is it! bin with her 2 years i no she should understand but its not her problem i should just end it so she aint got me to deal with
You've got some assumptions there that can do nothing but lead you into a downward spiral.
1. You don't want drugs. I assume you mean legal pharmaceuticals. I never used to want them, either, but after a long period of time, I realize that they do help my mood, and I'm glad that I get them. I'm fortunate that the ones I take don't mess me up with unpleasant physical side effects. Try them. If one doesn't work, try another. There's probably something out there that will work for you.
2. "...hardly manly to cry is it!" Since when? I admit I never saw my father cry, but he was an assshole in so many ways. I cry when I need to cry. Lots of guys do. It's not fun, it's not supposed to be, but it happens. There's no reason to feel shame about it.
3. "...it's not her problem..." I think we choose the people we associate with, and if we love them, we accept that, like most people, they will have problems from time to time. Let her call the shots on this. I'm sure she knows her own mind.
4. "I should just end it." Well that's certainly going to make everyone feel better, isn't it? Having had loved ones in my family who've committed suicide, I can tell you that they leave wounds in the living that never quite go away. Don't do it. You are loved and needed.
In summary, you need to change your perspective. Medications and therapy can help. Please avail yourself of them.
If she loves you she will want to help you!
Tell her you had a bit muck in your eyes.
go to the doctors i did, and don't feel embarrassed about it, it's not ur fault its an illness just get some help maybe counselling that helps too.
Don't be silly. You've been with your gf for 2 years so she's no doubt going to want to be there for you. It doesn't matter that you're a guy and cried...everyone all feel like that sometimes. It'll probably do you good to lean on your gf for support and talk to her about how you feel - you'll be surprised by how much it will help to share your problems with someone who cares about you! I hope things get better for you.
you should get some help
Sometimes you DO NEED to take the prescribed drugs mate!!
Hi. We have a male friend that is bi polar and he sometimes breaks, but I know its easier said than done, don't worry. But you have got to go and see someone, even if it is just a counsellor. Could be something bothering you and you just need to break the spiral. With regard to your girlfriend, she should understand and support you, if she doesn't, got to ask yourself if she if right for you!
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You shouldn't end it because you don't want to be an inconvience to her. If she felt that way she'd have left you so just let her be there for you! If your depression is really effecting your life though you should go see someone. Theres nothing to be ashamed about.
Good luck! :) x
Hey hey let her decide if she wants to see you again! She's probably worried sick if you aren't contacting her.
It IS manly to cry, it's brave and honest.
You should see your doctor really. He may not give you drugs although from experience I've found them very very helpful and not addictive and it's not obvious to anyone you're taking antidpressants. Please give it some thought.
Depression is a very serious illness. When it overwhelms you there doesn't seem to be any hope, but listen to me, there is.
Best of luck
"Real Men Cry".. I am sure she will stick by you, and don't be ashamed or embarrassed to open up now and again. Good Luck
Two years is a long time to be with someone and to just throw it away.Talk to her tell her how you feel beleave it or not she may just be the support you need, what have you got to lose?you're planning to end it anyway.If she loves you she'll stay and support you. Go and see a doctor too being depressed isn't fun, you may just need something to help you through this; there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Go to the doctor. Get some help with your depression. If the G.P. prescribes antidepressants, TAKE THEM, until he tells you otherwise.
There's no shame in feeling like that. Depression is VERY common. (I've had it twice, had treatment, recovered) Also, don't feel daft about crying. We females find it endearing when a man expresses his emotions. DON'T dump your girlfriend- if you've been together for 2 years, she can be your rock whilst you recover.
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