Super Stressed Out and Depressed. Too much going on!!?!
Question: I am having a difficult time these days. On Sunday I went to the E.R. for a strange bruise on the back of my leg. While we were there, the nurse told me in front of my mother that the blood tests showed a low level of the pregnancy hormone. I totally freaked out. I am not married and I didn't even know I was pregnant. Then they did some more tests and found out it was a spontaneous abortion or miscarriage. The bruise thing was nothing by the way. But know I am totally stressing out and depressed. One because my mother now knows a lot more than I wanted her to about my private life. Two, this is my senior year in college and the work load is way over my head, Three my job is getting to be too much and Four my fiance is completely insensitive about the whole situation. He just doesn't get it that my mom now looks at me a whole other way. I am really freaking out, I cant cheer up and move past this emotional downfall. Any help on this would be appreciative.
Answers: I am having a difficult time these days. On Sunday I went to the E.R. for a strange bruise on the back of my leg. While we were there, the nurse told me in front of my mother that the blood tests showed a low level of the pregnancy hormone. I totally freaked out. I am not married and I didn't even know I was pregnant. Then they did some more tests and found out it was a spontaneous abortion or miscarriage. The bruise thing was nothing by the way. But know I am totally stressing out and depressed. One because my mother now knows a lot more than I wanted her to about my private life. Two, this is my senior year in college and the work load is way over my head, Three my job is getting to be too much and Four my fiance is completely insensitive about the whole situation. He just doesn't get it that my mom now looks at me a whole other way. I am really freaking out, I cant cheer up and move past this emotional downfall. Any help on this would be appreciative.
You have a very heavy load to bare, it seems. One frustration after another.
Stressers coming from every direction, with no time for yourself.
Something will have to give, your mental & physical health is suffering. You will need to decide what your priorities are & let something go.
I just got myself out of situations that had me so stressed. I went into myself & re evaluated my priorities. I found out that some things aren't worth the stress & I released a lot. It is not easy cause we are our own worst enemies. We can find faults in every aspect of our lives & we are the only ones who can make the necessary changes.
Peace of mind is a huge thing & many don't have it. Sometimes it is not our fault, it lies in the chemicals in our bodies & medication can work wonders.
I have so much to do but here I sit in front of this computer the majority of the day with a little voice in my head saying, "In due time", "In due time", "In due time." So I don't worry about all the pressures of life. I know that in due time things will take shape. I took a heavy load off my shoulders.
Just to get things straightened out you may need to get some medication that takes the sharp edges off issues.
So many things are easier said than done & this is a biggy so you have to take the bull by the horns & make changes in your life that will lessen your load. Somehow, someway things have to change. And you are the ONLY one that can make these changes. Look for ways to lessen your burden.
Bless your heart. You are trying to accomplish too much. Slow down & live for today & let tomorrow take care of it's self.
have you tried quitting your job and applying for a loan or some type of financial aide? this may help a little bit. about your man it seems kinda bad that he is so insensetive about the situation. having a miscarriage can do a number on you. it sounds to me like you need to re-evaluate your relationship. about your mom she'll come around.
1. **** happens.
2. College is indeed hard. If your full-time go part-time for a while.
3. Stop working too hard... work in a library or something. Something easy.
4. Tell your fiance to cool it, you got a lot of problems and he should be supporting you not making you more tense. (take control, tuff love)
5. In order to cheer up atleast do the things I said before. In addition, also accept that this is life and thank God for that (heh sounds weird but you can take it as sarcasm) and just block out negative stuff. Do something positive and relaxing.. like go to the movies see a funny movie, go to the spa, go to party or friends house or in your home just sit in a bubble bath and listen to music(preferably smooth ones like jazz, classical) hope it helps
Hey there,
Its all good. These feelings your working through will pass. Your relationship with your mother has changed and it can take time for all this to settle. Your identity - who you are - is partly tied up in what your mother knows of you. Now that has changed and your identity with it. This is a good thing in the long run. Your living more honestly.
Whatever you do or have done,, there is nothing wrong with it,,,, even if your mother thinks so. Dont take her version of "whats right and wrong" to be the absolute truth. In the end, I think the thing for you to do is accept yourself as you are, and stop looking for acceptance from others. Interestingly, life and all its stresses is teaching you what is most important - your truth.
If you are religious, prayer is a great oulet. If not, there are still some fantastic ways to ease the weight of stress but you have to TAKE time for them.
1. Exercise - Of course this may not be possible with physical issues.
2. Meditate - In a dimly lit room, make yourself comfortable. Set in total silence. Slowly and consciencly relax every part of your body starting with you feet and working your way up. Once relaxed then begin releasing every thought and fear that is usless. (that means let go of the things you CANNOT change and accept them) You cannot control your mom's reaction. You can speak to her frankly about it or just let it go.
3. Meditate in a hot bath! even better
I know this isnt really an answer to your question, but your health is your business alone. The nurse should not have told you that in front of your mom unless she had your permission. She should have known better and can get in trouble for doing stuff like that.