Depression!!! at the age of 14!!?!
Question: for about half a year now, i've been feeling SOOO depressed. i've kept a diary too which really has helped me. i used to cut my arms too with knives and scissors which truly helped ALOT!!! i cant talk to any friends or family because they all think that i'm attention seeking because my aunty, sister and cousin have all suffered from depression. i feel really neglected and as though everyone hates me. i've thought about suicide too and how if i'm dead, everyone else will benefit. also, my family used tease me about being fat, and because i was depressed, i couldnt take their jokes. i was bulimic for a while and now i'm anorexic. i hate feelng this way. they all tease me about being underweight now and call me an 'anorexic b*tch!!'
can anyone help me??? i know that this is partly my family's fault but what can i do to help myself???
please dont say mean things. i'm desperate!!!
Answers: for about half a year now, i've been feeling SOOO depressed. i've kept a diary too which really has helped me. i used to cut my arms too with knives and scissors which truly helped ALOT!!! i cant talk to any friends or family because they all think that i'm attention seeking because my aunty, sister and cousin have all suffered from depression. i feel really neglected and as though everyone hates me. i've thought about suicide too and how if i'm dead, everyone else will benefit. also, my family used tease me about being fat, and because i was depressed, i couldnt take their jokes. i was bulimic for a while and now i'm anorexic. i hate feelng this way. they all tease me about being underweight now and call me an 'anorexic b*tch!!'
can anyone help me??? i know that this is partly my family's fault but what can i do to help myself???
please dont say mean things. i'm desperate!!!
Have you tried talking to a doctor? They may be able to perscribe anti-depressants but they don't help much in most cases. Also as a sort of mystical like cure, why not take a semi-precious stone or somthing that means alot to you and have it so that everytime you touch it see it think about it wear it (if pendant or somthing) just go through all the things your grateful for in your life, there is allways somthing, and all the things that are good, eg your friends, any talents you have, even small stuff like the colour of your hair, focus on the positives, it will be hard at first, but it will get easier and will probably help in the long time.
No matter how much you think everyone hates you there is allways someone who cares, ying and yang, everything has its oposite and equal, I for one don't hate you, I want to help and it would upset me if you continued to feel like this. Helping others will help you see this and feel better about yourself, everyone can make a diffrence to the world even doing somthing small like saying thank you can make someone feel better and start a positive ripple.
About feeling fat, there are literally thousands in your position some of them certainly worse than you, your not alone, no matter how alone you can sometimes feel, how different, yet we are all the same all human. (execpt the odd teacher). Just eat a little more each day, even foods with very little calories, and don't exercise if you normally would, sit down watch a film or t.v show you like, preferably a comedy which will make you feel happy and have a postive attitude to not exercising, sit down when you would usually stand, take the lift not the stairs little things build up and you will overcome this problem, its a thing of the past, as is your depression if you take on board my advice. Also another thing to help change your mentall attitude is go back through your diaries, at the times you felt worst, and imagine them on a t.v screen in your mind that you can change the colour of, and sound in a way that feels right for you, then when you know that it will no longer worry bother or concern you, turn that screen off, un-plugg it, then destory it permentally so that it can never harm you again, then get all of the pages with negative things in from your diary and dispose of them (where they cant be found) and read back only the things that made you feel happy, do this everyday, but down all of your happy positive thoughts and happenings. Read all the good things in your life every day, you will feel your pain leaving you, before you go to sleep at night, imagaine the pain your feeling everything that has ever worried bothered or concerned you is an object, then imagine tossing it into the sea or a river and watch the tide slowly take it away, for it to never return. I wish you well.
also as Katie K said you may also email me for help if you wish, somtimes talking to someone you don't know is easier. Also somthing I used to do was imagine a long white coridoor with many doors, enter one you'll know which one is right for you, in there see someone or somthing that can help, some people imagine animals, some fictional charecters, some real people and talk to them, they may say stuff back listen to their advice, they're there to help you. Just talk in your head, do this before bed or at a convinent personal time. You can offload some things to them, tell them as much or as little as you want, and listen to what you feel they want to say back. You don't even need to know what you are going to see before you enter the room, the second you enter your sub-concious will feel in the blanks, and there is no need to be discouraged if the person (if it is a person) is someone you are un-comfortable around or has hurt you before, it will still have the same postive calming effect. I wish you only the best.
Hi there,
You have taken the first step which is admitting the problem. Please go and see your doctor. I did and im feeling so much better.
I cant tell you to ignore your family as you probably feel you cant...
Please speak to someone - doctor or teacher - they should be able to help or point you in the direction of someone who can!
My thoughts are with you.
Depression sucks but it does get better. EMail me if you want to chat...
You want attention.
girl, trying to commit suicide is not the answer. don't let others bring you down, you need to be strong!
I hope that you could get some help from your Dr. He/she could get you a prescription for an antidepressant.
I know it is so hard at your age with school and other teens. But, you have to take good care of yourself.
Depression is NOT fun, I have it running in my family. It is hard, but I keep moving forward. I eat healthy, and try to drink 8 glasses of water each day.. I stay on decaf tea, and stay off sugar. I should be back on an exercise routine though.
You need to try to think good, happy positive thoughts. If you make yourself to have better thoughts, it can help.
You need to stay busy with music, hobbies, and happy uplifting movies.
I sure hope you will try harder to help yourself..
I pray to God everyday too. He has helped me more than everything else.
i know this is hard, and i fully agree with the first chick... i've ben there and it does hurt.. u need help, this isn't healthy and it will effect u 4 the rest of ur life if u don't git help
You're obviously not seeking attention - if depression runs in the family then it's quite likely that you will suffer from it as well. I don't know what to say to stop you feeling so low. There's no "instant cure" but antidepressants can help. I used to be on citalopram and before that prozac. Speak to your doctor and ask them about being prescribed medication.
My dear...so young, so many problems...
You know, there is a theory that souls choose their parents before birth. They choose the best environment in which they could develop and learn the most. Sometimes you are learning about what not to do. Like now.
Please learn to meditate, and think positive thoughts like- "I am beautiful outside and inside" - even though you do not believe it in the beginning. Loving yourself is a life long relationship. If you do not like yourself - people around you will reflect that like a mirror back at you.
Anorexia and bulimia are compulsive, obsessive disorders. You need to talk to a professional therapist. It is hard to make a first step, but it is a very brave and valuable thing to do. I hope you'll make it.
i know what you are going through. I'm 29 yrs old, and I been dealing with it since I been 13. What i have done is i started going to Mental health to talk to a doctor about my problems. But the man you and i need to talk to the most is GOD. We need to give him our time and He will see us through. I might be older than you but you will get through by GOD'S GRACE. Trust in him. And read Psalms 139 whole chapter.
People! If you can't be supportive of someone asking for help don't answer these questions! Why are you discounting someones feelings with "get over it" type answers? Sheesh
Scarlet: Realizing you need help is indeed the first step. Yes, at 14 you certainly could have depression. It can manifest at even earlier ages. My son was 14 when he was first diagnosed. Unfortunately some people do not think about teens having "real" problems and discount it. Please don't give in to their small mindedness. If you have a dr appointment coming up I would suggest talking with them about it. If not, start with your school counselor. Explain to them what's going on with you, and your concerns that your family does not take this seriously and you need help/advise to work with them to get help as well. Your school counselor's job is to help you, so make them do their job! My son's counselor at school was a lot of help to him when he first was having problems, and I hope that yours will be just as supportive and helpful to you. Despite what you might think at times, this world would NOT be better off without you. Trust me on that! Best wishes,
i have a 14 year old daughter also and if i ever thought she was at a low at her life i would like for her to come with me with anything ! i also had a best friend she was real overweight and kids would pic on her cause she was over weight she use to cut her arms also and try to kill herself i would tell her that wasn't the way out!! people are just mean !! exceptionally on here ! looks like you cant do anything to make your family happy!! but killing yourself is not the easy way out! do you have any counsels at school? are call social services ? and where is your mom in all this? also just cause they are depressed doesn't mean they have the right to pic on you !! and if people come on here and say mean stuff to you just ignore them cause people on here like to run there mouth i wish you the best of luck girl!
first of all you need to talk to a doctor. He can help you get the medication you need for the depression. And you need to eat something. If you stay anorexic you can die. Many people stop becoming bulemic and anorexic but later in life they have heart problems. Talk to your parents and keep talking to them until they take you to a doctor. If they won't do anything talk to a teacher at school. They're trained to help people with problems.
i have the same problem, but suffered too much from it when i was younger. i had this diary where i write all my feelings, usually cut myself and keep my blood on its papers as a reminder, and no one ever felt my pain and they still dont. i Quit cutting cuz they started showing on my body and ppl used to whisper and talk about my scars. i felt even more pain from that and stopped cutting to not allow anyone to whisper and laugh at me. i still get the feeling of wanting to cut but i rememebr how i was laughed at . once a friend who i told that i cut my arm said it to everybody and next time i saw the same group of ppl i was the center of attention and a fun way to laugh and make jokes.
if they say that u only want attention then u should stop or never tell them anything , and if u r depressed then be depressed away from ppl who are giving u negative words.
i burnt the book i had with all the memories cuz it started haunting me, but sadly i made a new one and i still write all my bad emotions in it . there are more evil ppl than good in this world and that is what i learnt from dealing with so many of them.
hang in there.
TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR!!! That is alway s the first place to start as they can help talk to your family for you. If you don't have a doctor talk to one of the counselor's at school as they are also trained to help. You need to get someone who's on your side help you talk to your parents and to start the processes to get you the help that you need. Yes you can get depression a any age, My daughter and I were diagnosed when we were very young. Depression does run in families, which should have made it easier for your family to accept that you might have it also.
You should just ignore any body that says anything bad about you. That is what I do. Don't bring up the situation about killing yourself because you shouldn't. Just think about all the people that care about you. You should also try and talk to someone trustworthy and tell them your problem.