A health question regarding my gf.?!
Question: I would be grateful if anyone could help me out here, or anyone who has had similar symptoms. I am posting this question on behalf of my gf.
Over the past year or so my gf has been getting quite stressed out at work. But now she finds she is feeling very akward and nervous around people. Even around people like her friends who she has known for years. She says sometimes she feels really akward in her head, like when you feel very self conscious, and you find it difficult to act naturally so you try and go out of your way to act naturally when socialising, but in the end it just looks akward. She also feels on edge & kind of nervous most of the time too.
Does anyone here have similar symptoms ? I told her it sounds very much like anxiety to me. Or she could just be really stressed out. Could I be wrong ?
Appreciate your any advice. Thankyou.
Answers: I would be grateful if anyone could help me out here, or anyone who has had similar symptoms. I am posting this question on behalf of my gf.
Over the past year or so my gf has been getting quite stressed out at work. But now she finds she is feeling very akward and nervous around people. Even around people like her friends who she has known for years. She says sometimes she feels really akward in her head, like when you feel very self conscious, and you find it difficult to act naturally so you try and go out of your way to act naturally when socialising, but in the end it just looks akward. She also feels on edge & kind of nervous most of the time too.
Does anyone here have similar symptoms ? I told her it sounds very much like anxiety to me. Or she could just be really stressed out. Could I be wrong ?
Appreciate your any advice. Thankyou.
It is important that your gf gets some counselling, because these symptoms could escalate to the point where she becomes so anxious that she cannot even go out - agrophobia.
Take the advice of the earlier poster, and look at the 'Mind' site, for some guidance. You could also go with her to 'Relate'... they deal with all kinds of relationship problems, personal, work, etc. Their counsellors are qualified professionals.
If she gets good counselling advice now, she may be able to avoid medication, which is not always the answer.
BTW, you might chat to her about her job... perhaps there is a problem there? Maybe she is being bullied, ignored, or perhaps a colleague/boss is underminng her self-confidence? Also, her work itself may be sapping her confidence and self-esteem?
In your leisure time, you could help her to rebuild her self-confidence by undertaking a new sport/activity that you/she has never done before. Or set yourselves something challenging to do. Small victories certainly do build confidence.
She sounds very like I was a few years ago. After staying at home and raising my children alone, I found it very hard to socialise - I felt that no one was interested in anything I had to say and that if I did speak people would dismiss me as a fool.
Then I decided to train as a teacher and various people put down the idea and made me feel worthless.
I found the courage to go ahead anyway and I gained SO much confidence from qualifying and then getting a job, when most people are retiring, and my students loved me!
Very best wishes to your gf.
Yep, classic anxiety.
She needs to see someone about it before it gets out of control - which is not pleasant, believe me.
And anxiety can be rooted in stress, so you are probably right there.
she might have bi-polar dissorder, sounds like what my mate goes through.
Anxiety & stress are really related - she does sound like she is stressed.
She needs to unwind - it can get worse & worse if she doesn't act on it as soon as she realises there is a problem.
It is a REAL health problem - not just in someone's imagination so don't let her think that!
It sounds like shes lucky to have you.
It probably is the stress of work, but if it keeps on then try to encourage her to see a councillor to get to the root of the problem.
Good luck
i am not an expert on this but i know lots of people and am close to some who have the same problem.. it sounds like anxiety disorder... Have her consult her MD on it.. its easy to treat.
she needs to get out of her job. i was in a job 10 years and loved it, then the contract got taken over and it became very stressful. i got stressed and become very withdrawn and anti social. her health and happiness is more important than any job!
I have the same problems .....it is anxiety without the attacks. She really needs to sit down with her doctor and tell him/her about this. They can give her some medications to calm her nerves down.
She could be having anxiety attacks. She should see a doctor about calming exercises she can do. Or just try to cut back on some of the stress in her life. Tell her to try meditation or yoga.
sounds to me like she is very depressed as i went thru a stage like that a few years ago, i suggest she finds a less stressful job and a job that she would be happy in even if the money's not so good. her mental health is worth more than money can buy.
Hi Reece
This link to the Mind website should prove useful.
Understanding Anxiety:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Boo...
the information is easy to read and understand and will give some practical tips on how to help. There are also lots of links given to other information that may also prove useful.
Hope this helps.
I think she's actually depressed. It's hard to identify it when you try so much not to.
She can do do some things like;
she can buy one of those indoor plant light (it sounds silly, I know) the thing is that our body need a lot of light from the sun and when it doesn't get it. It tends to start feeling down.
also tell her to try eating healthy things, until she feels a little better (no fry foods or red meats) and that will get her body back to normal.
With another of the same sort.
Ask yourself Did the job cause the problem, or was the problem already there just waiting to reveal itself.
Firstly good on you for writting on your gf's behalf.
it sounds like depression,anxiety,it all comes under one roof.see if you can get her to see a doctor,obviously she is beginning to lack confidence within herself,which is a main factor.does she sleep properbly,and has her diet changed,like either eating more,(comfort eating) or nothing at all.
when i went on anti depressents i felt very similar issues,i felt i had a name on my back,i.e kick me when im down.
what some people dont realize is depression is an illness,and they cant pull them self out of it with out some kind of help.you sound like you are careing,so please dont tell her to pull herself together or she is imagining it,as this is the worst thing ,people with this illness needs to hear.
good luck,and care for her which i know you are doing as you would not have written here.
regards
Darl