Can i get some encouragement?!


Question: im really depressed. I was raped a month ago. by my ex and his cousin who is 33, im 17. i still feel at fault, no matter how much im told different.. If I hadn't have been acting stupid prior to it, if I hadn't have let them come over, with nobody home, it wouldn't have happene. Sometimes I feel like, maybe there is just something wrong with me that it happened to me, there has to be something different and wrong about me for them to choose me. I can't stand it when a man or a guy touches me now. It almost puts me back to when it happened. The same with being in my bed... I figured that out quick, I can't do it I'm awake for long. I don't like being alone anymore... the only time since was this past weekend, and look what I did then. I don't really like the dark to much either, or people sneaking up on me... that makes me kinda panicky. I want to shower longer because I still feel so dirty. I have recurring dreams of it happening, and I wake up crying.


Answers: im really depressed. I was raped a month ago. by my ex and his cousin who is 33, im 17. i still feel at fault, no matter how much im told different.. If I hadn't have been acting stupid prior to it, if I hadn't have let them come over, with nobody home, it wouldn't have happene. Sometimes I feel like, maybe there is just something wrong with me that it happened to me, there has to be something different and wrong about me for them to choose me. I can't stand it when a man or a guy touches me now. It almost puts me back to when it happened. The same with being in my bed... I figured that out quick, I can't do it I'm awake for long. I don't like being alone anymore... the only time since was this past weekend, and look what I did then. I don't really like the dark to much either, or people sneaking up on me... that makes me kinda panicky. I want to shower longer because I still feel so dirty. I have recurring dreams of it happening, and I wake up crying.

You are NOT at fault never ever let yourself believe that for a minute..NO man has the right to put their hands on you after you say no. You need to tell someone and get some help. You would never believe how much counseling would help you. I am not promising you that you will get over any of this with counseling and be able to handle a man touching you. That will only happen with time and the patience of a man who would really and truly understand and love you. Some women never get over being raped, it is a major violation. Do you have a good family a mom maybe that you can sit and talk to about what is going on? You mentioned church maybe you can talk to your pastor and he/she can help you. I know how hard it is I have been there. But it does get easier and i now have 2 beautiful kids and a husband who is loving and patient. Please don't turn to drugs it won't help. I noticed you said you threw the rest of them away Good for you. I honestly believe you have the ability to make it through this horrible thing that has happened to you,and that you are a strong person. I wish you all the luck and encouragement you need.

Go to the police & turn them in. You are not at fault. You are the victim. Don't give them the pleasure of getting away with this.
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Dont let them destroy you! Go to the police and have them stand trial for rape. Then get into rape counseling and get your life back. You deserve a family and a husband that will love you...dont let these two CRIMINALS get away with this. What would you do if your best friend told you what you just told us on yahoo? Wouldnt you encourage her to seek help and call the police?

I understand what you are going though... at the moment you are still in shock... I am hoping that you told your family. I know that seems impossible to do, but you have too, for YOUR sanity. Also, Since you can talk about it on here, I recommend that you go see a special therapist for this! Sadly you will never get over what happened, but you will grow from it! Use what happened to you as a story to help the other girls this will happen too in the future! Take self-defense classes so you will start to feel safe again, cry as much as you need. Crying never means that you are weak, you are healing.Take your time getting back together, you are a wonderful person. A strong woman. YOU WILL OVERCOME THIS!!

You should go to the police and have them pay for what they did. I know that isn't going to give you anymore peace though. I went through the same thing, not just once, but twice. It took a long time for me to trust a guy to touch me in that manner, but eventually I realized that not every guy out there is wanting to hurt you. Some of them just want to hold you and comfort you.

Cutting and doing drugs is only going to make you feel more like it was your fault. Rape is never your fault, because it doesn't matter what you are wearing or how you are acting. When you say NO, they are to stop no matter what.

There are also groups out there that can help you to deal with this traumatic event in your life. The more you talk about it, the more you will heal.

Rape is wrong any way you look at it!!! It is not your fault and never will be, it is wrong for you to take the blame no matter what you did or how.... it was against your will. If you do not turn them in they will do it again to someone else, and cause them harm the same way they have you. Ask God to help you get over the fear and the thoughts that keep recurring, ask him to forgive them and you and give this to him, he loves you and is right there to help you the blood of Jesus will cleanse you of all that is making you feel dirty plead the blood over you and your sitiuation. Do not beat yourself up this is caused from lust and lust is sin and it is from the devil, and the pits of hell, he will use this to try and destroy you and your future if you let him, do not let him you do not belong to him, what he has done to you he will have to restore sevenfold and only God can do that, get past this and get your strength back and go out and help someone else that this has happend to, bind the sprit of fear and tell it to leave in the name of Jesus, God will turn this around for your positive. Drugs will only put you in a state of mind to not be able to think clearly and that is how satan lies to us and then tries to damage us and cause us to go in the wrong direction. Hold on to God with everything you have and ask him for direction and strength and wisdom he will answer you and find a man of God to help you. I will be praying for you and for God to protect you and relaease you from this fear and pain. God bless you and you will be seeing an answer soon.

I am so sorry you had to endure this outrage and it makes me angry that people do such harm. As a victim of molestation and rape, I wondered what I was doing to make them do this, what was wrong with me. When I was 9 months pregnant, an army ER doctor abused me sexually. His punishment for being woken for something he considered



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