Ive got so much anger how do i get rid of it???!
Question: ive got depression and its quite severe im at the point now where i could just easily end it all but i have 2 children so i really want to get better for them ive had councelling im on anti depressants ive got a brilliant support worker but nothing seems to be working ive got so much anger in me from my childhood which wasnt nice attall!! I seem to be pushing everyone away who tries to help because its the safest option for me because im frightened of getting hurt which seems daft but thats what ive always done i cant get any friends incase we come to close and i get hurt thats what usually happens im just stuck and i dont no where to turn next life seems to be getting harder each day i wake up in the morning thinking oh no same s hit different day but it shouldnt be like this i want a life but cant get one, ive been like this for about 7 years doctors say it does get better but when does it?? anyone had depression and got 100% better ?
arrrrrgghh i cant take much more
Answers: ive got depression and its quite severe im at the point now where i could just easily end it all but i have 2 children so i really want to get better for them ive had councelling im on anti depressants ive got a brilliant support worker but nothing seems to be working ive got so much anger in me from my childhood which wasnt nice attall!! I seem to be pushing everyone away who tries to help because its the safest option for me because im frightened of getting hurt which seems daft but thats what ive always done i cant get any friends incase we come to close and i get hurt thats what usually happens im just stuck and i dont no where to turn next life seems to be getting harder each day i wake up in the morning thinking oh no same s hit different day but it shouldnt be like this i want a life but cant get one, ive been like this for about 7 years doctors say it does get better but when does it?? anyone had depression and got 100% better ?
arrrrrgghh i cant take much more
Hello! What a poignant and heartrending posting this is, and a very brave one, too, in my estimation.
I honestly and sincerely feel that you need to really bring all your problems to the surface by chatting about them. I can well understand your fear of being hurt - perhaps more than you realise - and of course friends can be judgemental, whereas strangers are not. So - if you feel it will help, feel free to contact me. Coffee and cigarettes are on my desk, and I have a couple of free hours to spare! It would be easy to make written suggestions - but I feel this would be unfair as this is one of those cases where actions speak louder than words ever could.
An alternative suggestion is hypnotherapy, of course, but I feel that if we can bring all that anger and sadness to the surface, it can be flushed away, out of your life.
Clearly, you have been deeply hurt and have erected a protective barrier around yourself - but a barrier can be quite unaffective as it does tend to keep the present feelings in.
I am sure your support worker is very good, but consider this: such a worker acts only as a support - a crutch, if you will - and what is needed is to remove the need for that crutch.
Try to feel good about yourself - we will all help you if we can.
Regards.
I used to have an anger problem and I took Anger Management and that really helped me. Some of the things I've learned is I can choose to be angry or not. I can choose to forgive and let go or not. I can choose to let people continue to press my buttons or not.
Also, underneath anger is a lot of hurt. I also read a few books from Joyce Meyer called Beauty For Ashes and The Root of Rejection. That helped me let go of the past and move forward. She has a book called Battlefield of the Mind and that is a great book to rearrange your thinking.
You have 2 Children---think about what would happen if you took your life and where they would be? Suicide isn't the answer. Try to look at all that you've been blessed with instead of the negative.
Good luck and God Bless!
Been like that sweetheart,and it hurt. Only you can resolve this issue,as long as you are strong enough to keep requesting, (and listening to)help. Your doing good! xxx
This site might give you better information:
http://psychcentral.com/
Yes i got 100% better. I was on anti depressants and took an overdose twice. I felt the tablets were making me worse. I decided to wean myslef of them gradually until I eventually stopped taking them. I now take just 300mg a day of st johns wort which can be bought over the counter. I take 'kalms' if I feel premensrual and neither of these are addictive. St johns wort just needs to be cut out gradually also. In your case you need a person to talk to but you could mention weaning off the drugs as I really think that in lots of cases they stop working and make you feel reliant on them. It is fair to say that NO PILL will totally solve your pent up anger which stems from childhood, only time and counselling will do that. But if you accept tha pills are no miracle you can get through this. Good luck!
I've answered your Q....check your mail, i didnt want to say too much(its a bit personal) x
You are obviously very smart. Have you truly addressed the issues from your childhood or have you just convinced your therapist you have? I think you are in a similar situation to a friend of mine. Every way you look there are problems and it all becomes to much to cope with. So rather than deal with it you avoid everything. Emotions are part of being human and that's the good ones and the bad. You are not a bad person because you put your children first and because you do I will say to you if you face your problems your life will be so much better.
Don't try and fix it all in one go and don't try to fix the worst problem.
You have to understand that depression is something you have to live with and you will have good days and bad days but if you don't beat yourself up about it you will have more good days.
Try to find someone you can trust to talk to sometimes talking about a problem puts in perspective.
My friend uses this philosophy to get through the day "those who matter won't judge and those who judge don't matter" It was a lesson she found hard to learn.
dont be so hard on yourself
My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including occupational therapy, relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol/l. It should be above 32 ng/ml. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve. Anger management is addressed in section 4: find a way to express that anger: journal your feelings: hit a pillow, punching bag, or inflatable, rocking punching doll. Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I experience anger, and depression, I deeply and completely accept myself."
i used to suffer with depression so i can relate to how you feel huni. it's not nice and with me i used to have a few good days and then bad days but the bad days were horrific.i got so depressed i stopped eating and then over time it got so bad i was put in hospital. i think things like this do make you stronger even if it doesnt feel like it right now. what i used to do and what actaully does help is if when ur feelin stressed or anxious or scared write exactly how your feeling down in a dairy express your emotions in a healthy wayand then the next day read through what you wrote and it really helped me understand were a lot of my pain was coming from. i still have my bad days but there better and i still write my diary.seriously huni its helps. just try it xxx take care xx
try the contraceptive injection, sounds odd but it evens out my mood, I dont have to worry about periods now either they have stopped. get some help looking after the kids the same time each week even if it is only an hour or two and do something you really want to do for you. it is you that will make you happy. maybe draw a line in the sand and forgive your childhood perpetrators. forgiveness is the key to happiness. A good idea is for you to do boxing to keep fit. it could help you release the pent up anger in a safe way. x