I want to re-invent myself but how do I do it?!
Question: I'm not talking about my looks or anything physical. I mean I want to become a different person in terms of personality and how I approach situations. I know at times I can be a little over the top now. I want to take the steps to make positive changes in my life. How should I do this?
Answers: I'm not talking about my looks or anything physical. I mean I want to become a different person in terms of personality and how I approach situations. I know at times I can be a little over the top now. I want to take the steps to make positive changes in my life. How should I do this?
How to Change Your Whole Personality
Want to change your whole personality? Think that your right-now personality is just annoying, too happy, too sad, etc.? Here's a way to change that!
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1. Figure out what you want your new self to be like. Mysterious? Preppy? Funny? Then figure out what changes will be made.
2. Distinguish what is it you like about others that you want to emulate. Don't just look at a person and say "Yep, I want to be like that." Find out exactly what it is that you admire--How they handle a situation, or their word choice? Make sure to write all this stuff down in a notebook.
3. Pick out the characteristics you want. Write down the parts of the character you want to be. Make sure to also write down how the character responds. Maybe you like the way they respond to certain situations, how they treat others, making friends, a bully, etc.
4. Look the part. You don't have to go out and get a new wardrobe, but maybe adding some new jewelry or changing the way your hair looks, changing the way you smile, laugh, hold yourself, anything.
5. Make changes to the way you talk. Does your voice quiver when you're mad, or do you talk loudly, or quietly. Practice changing your voice and try to keep the way of talking for a while before doing the next steps.
6. Change your attitude. Do you want to be preppy and happy towards things, or funny and clever, or do you want to be spunky and hard? It may take time to get used to that, so take your time changng it and take it step by step.
7. Break any bad habits that you may be doing. They are figments of your old personality, and if you want a better personality, make the way you act better.
Tips
* Do this step by step. You want to change yourself completely and it will take some time before you actually do it.
* Maybe do it for the summer and then in the fall people will see the new you.
* Don't get frustrated if you don't change right away. Like I said, it'll take some time.
* Is there something you absolutely love that you can't sacrifice? Then keep it! It is most important to feel good about your new self.
* NEVER change who you are because other people don't like you. If you are a nerd, don't become a prep just because they are 'cool'. Go take a look at a group of true goths at your school (The kind that are goth because it is a way to express themselves, not because they think they are vampires.) They are all standing around laughing at the preppy people and making jokes about how every blonde at the school will work for them some day.
* If you think you cannot change who you are because of parents or other people in your life, change yourself in small ways. Cut down habits you don't like and introduce new ones. If mom or dad asks what's up, explain to them (DON'T yell or argue) that there is nothing wrong with your self-esteem, that you are just trying to be more comfortable with yourself.
* To make parents less worried about your change, do your best to get good grades in school, and keep your old friends if your parents like them.
Warnings
* Don't try to go back to the way you were unless you don't like the new you. It'll be a pain in the butt if you have to automatically change back and people will think you were faking the whole thing. Make sure doing this is what you want and pick the kind of personality you want.
Take one step at a time girl you are who you are!!
just think befor you react and if you dont like the old you think of how the old you wants to react however dont act as that is not a good look as you will come across fake but im sure you will work it out... im sure your friends and family like you the way you are already!
I want to too, but have no idea either. I guess it is easiest to focus on one thing at a time and go from there.
try taking a walk or go on a hike. i now it sounds strange, but i do it all the time. it helps me think and act differently sometimes. and plus, this gives you time and space to clear your mind.