How can one effectively repress traumatic events?!
Question: I just start dwelling which hurtles me into depression and I just... don't want to hurt anymore
Answers: I just start dwelling which hurtles me into depression and I just... don't want to hurt anymore
well if your an a eviroment where the traumatic event happened move, or dont be around people or places that remind u of it.
Sounds like you have PSTD- post traumatic stress disorder.
Its normal.. i advise seeing a therapist or counselor. Someone you can freely talk to about what happened to advise you,
I dont think u ever get over a truamatic event but the key is you can create a new enviroment for yourself, make a happy life for yourself and new memories. You'll always have the scars and flashbacks of the trauma but you must learn to cope, deal with it, smile and know its your past...
good luck
Express it, don't repress it. Some people paint, write poetry, or face everything front-on the second it happens, so they don't have to regret anything later.
Repressing a tramitic event, not the best way. It will resurface, dwelling on no good either. Try to find an activity you enjoy which will distract you from the dwelling.
"Fear is the mind killer, I will face my fear and let it pass through me. And after it has gone I will see that only I remain."
Frank Herbert quote
Use the negative thought reprogramming technique, on page 2, and/or page 2L, in ezy build, below. See PTSD, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 33 - 34, and examine the http://www.1-800-therapist.org/ website, and use the locators in section 1, and phone book, and/or various associations for psychiatrists and psychologists, to find the nearest one using EMDR therapy. If the first proves inadequate for you, after a few weeks, try the second.
...and it is going to hurt for awhile. You are human, and that's how we work. As the time increases since the event you will experience positive things for your memory...and the trauma will begin to fade into the background. It will begin to lose it's power over your mind and emotions.
--1 Simply trying to put a lid on your trauma
simply doesn't work for any sustained length of time.
If you want to cut the pain in half you need to speak of it to another person. Yes, the raw hurt, the ugliness of the trauma.
If you choose to do this with a counselor / therapist, you do so in confidence. No one else needs to know. These caring people are specially trained to assist you to process your feelings and thoughts and to coach you to move on in your life in order to be as healthy as possible.
Once you have spoken of it and your mind has worked through the process of being shocked-angered-grieved-and more, then your healing will begin. A big layer will peel away. Not all, not everything, but a significant portion so that you will have more of a sense that "life will go on".
--2 Now, are you speaking of pushing away the memories in order to make it through your day at work? If so, keep yourself busy. When the thoughts return at an inappropriate time, this exercise has helped:
In the middle of the bothersome thought, close your eyes for about 3 seconds. Think or speak the word STOP! Then open your eyes and turn your mind to the first thing your eyes focus on. Try it. You can control your mind in the middle of situations.
--3 a third thing you can do with the thoughts of trauma, as they come rolling back over you and your emotions -- go in your room, close the door, and get out your notebook and pen.
Write for about 1/2 hour, (maybe set a timer) until you get your memories, feelings, emotions, and questions out on paper. Cry if you need to. When the timer goes off, dry your tears, close the notebook, and go back to your life's chores of the day. If you still feel worked-up or terribly sad, then go for a walk outside to change your scenery.
Try Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). It's very easy, it's painless, and you won't have to "repress" any of it any more.
Go to emofree.com and watch the introductory video, and read a little about it. It is well worth the effort, and it works whether you believe it or not.
You are worth it. You owe it to yourself to give it a try.
When we as first responders encounter situations that are mentally disturbing (For me it is seeing injured or deceased children) as I am a father, we go to what is called debriefing. This is when a group of us will sit down for hours at a time and just talk. It really does help. Don't repress it, it will just make it worse.
Have you ever tried guided imagery?