Bi polar experience answers only please?!
Question: I am so torn right now i cant stand it i know you have to want to live with someone with this disorder but it is so hard.Icant get him to get on medicine he always has excuses not to but the mood swings my gosh it enough to make me want to jump off a cliff..Im pregnant with his chid he only wants to be nice when its convenient for him we went today to the ultra sound to see what we were havin (its a boy)he started a stupid fight with me on the way there did not sit by me in the office and did not say a word to me the whole time we were there or on the way home.now i love him and need advice i mean im to a point that i want out im crying everyday he will be prince charming for 3 days and satan for 5 this is doin me in please help...something some advice my heart is broken
Answers: I am so torn right now i cant stand it i know you have to want to live with someone with this disorder but it is so hard.Icant get him to get on medicine he always has excuses not to but the mood swings my gosh it enough to make me want to jump off a cliff..Im pregnant with his chid he only wants to be nice when its convenient for him we went today to the ultra sound to see what we were havin (its a boy)he started a stupid fight with me on the way there did not sit by me in the office and did not say a word to me the whole time we were there or on the way home.now i love him and need advice i mean im to a point that i want out im crying everyday he will be prince charming for 3 days and satan for 5 this is doin me in please help...something some advice my heart is broken
First...congrats on your little boy! My little boy just turned 21! Being bipolar, I can suggest that you not try to talk to him about this when his mood is "volitle". And if you are going to threaten to leave, you must mean it, it can't be an empty threat, so I'd think long and hard about it. Perhaps when he is level and in a good space explain how his mood swings are effectin'g you, how stressful it is for you. It sure helped when my husband explained it to me while I was in a level place. Won't do any good if he is manic or depressed tho. hope this helps some, Good Luck!
well tell him that if he does not get on his meds you will think bout leaving him and tell him how you feel and let him know
Run like the wind. I lived with a bi-polar man that unfortunately also drank alcohol and other did recreational drugs. He died in a car accident and I realize now, 10+ years later how crazy our life was, and that I involved my (back then) two sons in it.
Its going to be hard but its ultimatum time, either he gets help with his illness or you have to leave. You have to do this for yourself and your unborn child. I am sure you dont want your child to suffer and this stress is jeopardising your pregnancy.
See your GP or other health prfeesional for support for you as quickly as possible. Good luck you can do it - suffer no more!
I'm going thru something very similar if you want to chat about it hit me up on aim MJHBKFAN it might make you feel better.
I'm bypolar and my husband felt the same way about me. He finally got to the point where you said "if you don't stop, if you do it again, I'm leaving you" now everytime I throw a fit, he just ignores me and kisses my butt when I yell at him. I would suggest to ask him to leave and cool off, also, get a punching bag for him. I'm sure you don't want to raise 2 kids on your own (your baby and him)
You can't help someone who won't take help, and this sort of disorder depends very heavily on his willingness to work on sorting himself out as much as he can. At the very least he ought to go to counseling with you (and you need to talk to somebody whether or not he's willing to go along), even without any stuff about mental health. But until he's desperate enough to actually make an effort, he's not going to be getting better. By the way, don't assume that all behaviors are due to mood disorders - stress, fear and immaturity can account for a lot too (as I know from painful personal experience).
That freakin sucks. I wasn't bipolar, but I had bipolar tendencies when I was under a lot of stress (actually trying to get pregnant by artificial insemination!) This made me act like a ***** one day and a princess the next.
Has he always been like this? If he hasn't maybe he is just nervous and worried and overwhelmed. I would just do my VERY best to assure him that just because a baby is coming, doesn't mean that millions of things are going to change or that life is going to be a lot more stressful.
All babies do the first few months is cry and eat and sleep, and they are pretty easy to take care of and keep content. And since there are two of you working together, it won't be so stressful.
Just let him know what it is doing to you, and tell him that you love him and want him to be happy.
I got out of my bipolar episode when I decided not to inseminate because it wasn't the right time. I'm afraid to try again until I'm absolutely sure because I'm afraid of going insane again. Luckily, I had the option to bail. He doesnt. After the baby gets here and he gets used to it, hopefully he'll be okay. Don't harass him about medicine, it will just make him feel crazy. Tell him "I know you might be feeling like you're going insane right now, but it is only because of all the changes." And I hope that you will realize that as well and stick it out (unless he becomes physically/verbally/emotionally abusive to you or your child).
Congratulations on your new baby boy...and everything will work out for the best in the end! :)
You've got to sit him down and be very blunt with him. Give him an option: get on meds and make both his and your life easier, or leave and have no contact with your son. If he continues this pattern, it will have a negative effect on the upbringing of your son and can be psychologically damaging. If you love this guy, you need to either force him to get help or let him go.
We are extreme people, and most of the hurtful things I say or do are not intentional... they are driven by something I can't control. These impulses are helped with medication, and I become a much more tolerable person to live with. You cannot put up with this sort of stress while carrying a child.
This disorder is hell for both the sufferers and those around them. There isn't an easy fix. But you need to do what is in you and your child's best interest. He needs to wake up and take responsibility for his disorder or find someone who can tolerate his swings. It is not a healthy situation for you, him, or the child if this cycle continues.
Be blatant and be honest with him.
i have the same problem , and my gf has been trying to convince me to take meds again ,but i dont want to and she leaves me alone for a while tries again later. my mood swings are hard on both of us too , but she loves me enough to handle it and help me get out of them .yes i get angry and turn into a monster but i would never do anythin to hurt her and im sure your guy is the same . just please do not give up on him , as my gf always tells me "u might give up but im not gonna give up on u and never will" .the world around us is hard enough so how do you think he feels when he is also suffering from bipolar?. excuse him if u love him,and know that he will be an amazing father but the mood swings are not in his hands. eventually he will take meds (i did take a lot of meds for my gf's sake and i just stopped recently) . just know that its way too hard and its not easy , and love him even more for the 3 days that he turns to be an amazing person with u cuz u must know that he is trying . if u need anythin please email me and i will be happy to help.
im not refusing to see a new dr soon but i just need time, and ur guy must be feeling the same.
hope i helped
take care
He has to want to help himself.
If he doesn't want to help himself, then he won't change and it's up to you whether or not you want to be in that situation.
Do no feel that you should stay if you don't want to!