Why am I so worried about what people think?!
Question: I'm always worried about what people think, everything from my weight, style, intellect, looks, personality.
I've gotten to the point where I've gained weight and I don't even want to go out in public because i'm worried what other people are thinking (complete strangers) I know it sounds weird and i'm not obese or anything but I feel like people judge me. More so just recently because I'm new to a small town and i've got a foreign accent so I feel like people are already talking about me here. I don't understand why I feel like this and I'm even more worried thats it's starting to effect my daily routine... I don't want to visit a Dr because I don't want to be diagnosed as a mental case and be told to take meds... is there anything I can do that can stop me feeling like this?
Answers: I'm always worried about what people think, everything from my weight, style, intellect, looks, personality.
I've gotten to the point where I've gained weight and I don't even want to go out in public because i'm worried what other people are thinking (complete strangers) I know it sounds weird and i'm not obese or anything but I feel like people judge me. More so just recently because I'm new to a small town and i've got a foreign accent so I feel like people are already talking about me here. I don't understand why I feel like this and I'm even more worried thats it's starting to effect my daily routine... I don't want to visit a Dr because I don't want to be diagnosed as a mental case and be told to take meds... is there anything I can do that can stop me feeling like this?
I think I can help you. I've been there before, more than once, and it's not easy to get out of, unless you put your mind to it.
One thing you have to do is just keep yourself busy and on the go. This doesn't mean you have to be around people all the time or out in public, but just get out of the house and go for a drive or a walk to a private place where there aren't too many people around. You could go to a park and sit under a tree. No one is going to judge you, your just sitting there.
Start doing things that you enjoy. Read a book or just simply listen to music and draw while you're in the park. Work on some projects that you've been putting on hold.
The reason why I suggest this is that this will help you find yourself and what kind of a person you are. You're always trying to be someone else, a different weight that others are, a different style others are, a different look that others are, etc. It's time to be yourself. Once you find out who you are, and you get comfortable with it, you will look a lot happier and more confident, which will get other people's attention, but in a good way.
Don't you ever notice that when there is someone different in the crowd, they always get all the attention as long as they are happy and compfortable with themselves. People are always curious about them and in return, start to relate to you.
Just find that happiness within yourself, loose that extra weight if it really bothers you (maybe some larger clothes will make you feel more comfortable and not so large in public, even though you're not fat at all) and just be happy.
Good Luck.
Quit worrying about what people think of you because you would be surprised to see how little people really do think of you!
Just be yourself.
I'm sure people will love your personality & soon you'll forget about it all. & you'll have friends for the right reason, and not what you look like or what they think of you like that.
If you were to visit a specialist, it would be a psychologist you needed to visit, not a psychiatrist (a doctor who prescribes drug for mental illnesses.) You do not sound as if you have a mental illness, but instead you probably have some social anxiety and self-esteem issues, like 90% of the people in the world.
Don't worry, it is normal to have these problems, and there is nothing wrong with seeking help in over coming them.
Besides you thinking about them thinking of you, how much do you actually think about other people ? Most people are like you, they worry allot about what others think about them, but they never actually put lots of time on thinking about other people. Don't sweat it allot of other people in the street are probably worried about their image too and not really caring about yours.
of allthings...this is theone thing you need to get over if your going to enjoy your life....you need to be happy with you...once you've taken care of that then work on being happy with what you have....realize it is probably alot more than some people....next time you see the fancy car...think wow he's in debt big time....clothes...think what is best for you...anytime i buy clothes..if i ilke it i buy it...doesn't matter if it came from Walmart or Macys.....you only go around once...enjoy what you have......
jst dnt worry bout wat people say if u think dey talkin bout u jast tell dem wat da freak u say witch n tell u aint perfect
First of all worry is a useless emotion-it changes nothing and just stresses you out. Second-you were made by the supreme being that makes all things and you are definitely as good as anyone else. Third-why care what others think? Why give any weight to anyone elses opinion, if you are being the best person you can be- than their opinions have no consequence for you. Good luck and God Bless
Perhaps you worry about other people's opinions, because you have had previous experiences with rejection and ridicule, which were painful. Also, there's absolutely nothing wrong with seeking help for your problem. Chances are, a psychologist or counselor won't diagnose you as a "mental case" and prescribe you meds. Nowadays, there are lots of counselors who help "normal" people deal with everyday problems like yours and thankfully, there's not as much of a stigma surrounding seeing a therapist as there used to be.
There will always be people who like and approve of you and people who don't. Work on accepting yourself and on being the person you want to be. Then their opinion will matter less and in time not at all. When ever I catch myself thinking as you do, I remind myself that what's most important is what I think of myself and being the person I want to be. Other people's opinion of me is none of my business if i focus on being a person I can respect.
its a form of anxiety. They would give you med for it . I had the same problems when I was younger but sometimes I would breath real heavy and feel like i was going to faint I couldnt be in large crowds. I would suggest working it out within yourself because meds dont cure anything. They will give you lots LOL. It all starts with your personal image of yourself always comparing yourself to other ppl. Instead of pointing out your bad qualities look at the good. Good luck its hard grab a book at the local book store.