I Think I've Givin Up?!
Question: I've allways said that I have something to live for. Well, I thought about it, and there isn't. I just don't know. Getting the girl I like, trying to be good at sports, being nice to people and many more things I've...givin up on doing and trying to do. I don't think I've ever done anything well. Sorry about spilling my guts, I just needed to type down what I'm feeling. Hopefully someone will give me some good advice, because honestly. I just don't see the point in going on!
Answers: I've allways said that I have something to live for. Well, I thought about it, and there isn't. I just don't know. Getting the girl I like, trying to be good at sports, being nice to people and many more things I've...givin up on doing and trying to do. I don't think I've ever done anything well. Sorry about spilling my guts, I just needed to type down what I'm feeling. Hopefully someone will give me some good advice, because honestly. I just don't see the point in going on!
How about just living your life one day at a time and enjoying it? You don't have to be the best or the nicest or have the prettiest girl... just live your life appreciating that you're here. You're not in competition with anyone else, you don't have to do anything except be the person you are and to accept and love that person. Some days are terrible and others terrific and you learn something from each experience. Don't be so hard on yourself, take a deep breath, exhale and relax.
i went through a point like that a while ago. but thankfully i stuck through it. i focused on studying and my grades more, and trying to fix the problems. i wrote down everything i wanted to fix in a list and i started from the top, and im honestly so happy i did. just wait a while and you'll get through it. put your mind on something else
Everyone has a purpose in life, otherwise you would've
have been born, or you would be dead by now. We are
all still very young and you never know what you may be
capable of in the future. Lots of people feel this way and
it's completely normal. Just sit down somewhere quiet &
grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down the things
you are good at, it doesn't have to be sports, or anything
like that it could be the simple things. Like, "Can make a
friend smile when they are feeling down." Simple things
like that, you'll be surprised at what you come up with, and
don't sit there for an hour and not come up with anything
because you are capable of a lot of things. Even ask some
friends, ask them why they are friends with you (in a good
way) such things as what qualities do they like about you,
it could be your sense of humor, the way you handle things
etc. All I am saying is it's totally not worth having these
thoughts now because you don't have any powers of
predicting the future. Just be positive and live life without
the negative thoughts. Also writing down the negative things
then throwing it away helps, its like you've gotten rid of your
bad habits because you threw them all away. Good luck!
Life is short... Take what you got and get through it. 20 years from now you will be thankful.
how old are you?
you seem pretty young.
you can't give up on life. and you may think you have nothing to live for now but many kids want to kill themselves over something stupid like a fight or a rumor or a break up and i've realized that. i'm 13 and i finally understand that kids are just immature and think that these little things are going to ruin their whole lives.
and its a proven fact that right before you die your whole life flashes before your eyes. the good things and the bad. but when your killing yourself, only the good things flash before your eyes and then you regret killing yourself. for every 1 mean person theres 3 nice people. for every 1 thing your bad at, theres 3 things your good at; for every 1 girl you cant get, theres 3 girls you can get.
catching my drift?
hopefully you are.
goood luck i hope i helped (:
Keep going.....there is so much to live for. Find something that you love and excell in it. Everyone has that something special. Try not to look to others to make you happy. You dont have to try too hard either. I get down sometimes and then I think of my job and my family and my animals, and I just remember how good of a person I am and what I have done with myself.
Listen, if you feel like this, you absolutely should get help.
I did, and it really helped. Ask your parents, ask a school nurse, it's not something to be scared of, or embarrassed.
Hey, if you're really at the end of your rope, then what do you have to lose, right?
The other thing is, time changes things. What you think is so important now, will seem silly later.
Trust me, I've been there.
Get someone you can talk to, and in time, you will marvel at how ridiculous it was that you were feeling this way.
Also, something to think about, is you may have Seasonal Affective Disorder. I do. It's where you get depressed during the winter, from lack of sunlight. Try to get out and take walks in the sun (when it's out) It really helps.
Hang in there, it's gonna get better.
You are young all those things are so small. Yeah life is hard at your age (im only guessing you are in high school or so) but it will pass...The only reason why your life doesnt feel like its going anywhere is because you dont have any goals. goals keep you motivated in life and accomplish them and feel success, it helps your self esteem. Who cares if u cant find a girl right now..you will soon...she is out there doing something right now and some day you guys will meet but you shouldnt worry about having one until later in life...Just overall cheer up You are okay every morning you wake up and are able to take a breath...means you are given another chance, another day, and it goes on and on...BE HAPPY it will pass you are just having a bad year EVERYONE does trust me i felt like that last week...
i know you shouldn't give up. you have many things to live for. why would you try to be good at sports you should do what you enjoy and not trying to impress others. i know. it doesn't work. Be yourself. And trust me its not easy but after time someone will come along and make you very happy one day then youll be glad you didnt give up. Just hang in there and try. When you wake up you should say at least 5 to 10 good things about yourself. It helped me through my rough times. Its good to be nice to people. i mean if you werent you wouldnt be the person you are today and as though it may seem you are somebody. Dont let people get to you or most yourself. Foucs on what you want to do and give it a try and just keep trying till it works. it takes time.
ok well all i have to say is that u have to move on.. if u dont all that u have lived for and all that u one day hope to acccomplish will all be lost i know one day u wanted one thing and one day u r going to get that u may have ur ups and downs in life but trust me u arent the only one who feels that way u cant even imgagin how i feel right now i'll send u a quick email and fill u in and than good night
Oh buddy, a lot of us have been there. And especially when young. Believe me, things will change for the better.
First, don't apologise for spilling your guts. Writing things down is something that is taught to people who are going through breakdowns and psychological traumas because it's a way of getting rid of the bad thoughts. You are doing the right thing by letting it out to prevent that breakdown. You see, many years ago, I was in the same boat. I hated life. I had a good job and then I had a bad accident and I couldn't walk. Wheelchair job and all the depression that comes with it. Anger and hate. Then I realised it was wasted energy so I started to work on getting out of that wheelchair after 9 years. And I did it buddy. I walked with crutches. The doctors were astounded. That was a few years ago, and then I walked with one stick and now, for the past five weeks, I can walk. Not good walking but a little better every day and now I walk around the city and have a digital camera and I have some great pictures of the city.
Search within yourself. Look for the good things about yourself. Learn to like yourself and don't imagine people dislike you. They don't. I am an old man now, but I am like a teenager the way I carry on. I love every day and I'm hoping you will too.
You see, you're here for a reason. You are important. You really matter buddy.
Take care ok? Live every day and look around you at the good things. Walk away from the bad. Your life is valuable and so are you.
Ah, I went through the same thing, a little bit ago. I just took everything one day at a time, then I FOUND something to live for. Well actually it found me....But I do know what your talkin about....Eventually you'll be glad you toughed it out. Trust me. Just take some time to find out who you are and what you want. Live for yourself. You gotta start livin your life or your life starts livin' you, and that sucks. If you have any questions or comments, you can eMail me.
Oh and don't apologize for spillin your guts, that's what we're here for. Take Care. :)
God has a special plan for everyone!do not hurt yourself i promise you will find happiness in life!You will find a special talent and a girl you are happy with !!So dont give up NObody is perfect ok !if you fall get right bakcx up and try again!
These feelings will pass. I know it seems like they won't but it will .You never know what great opportunities or people you might meet a week from now. It is great that you are reaching out for help & recognizing that your hurting & needing help. You look so much like my son who is so very handsome & emotional too. PLEASE don't do anything stupid. In the phonebook there are 24 hr crisis lines that you can call to talk to somebody. Everything will get better & these times of sadness will make you such a strong person when life turns around for the better which it will...