I have a friend who isnt like me what do i do?!
Question: she likes to read i hate reading but i love to hang out w/ her! but alls her mind is into is homework and school ahhhh! she never hangs with me how do i make her not so serious about everything?
Answers: she likes to read i hate reading but i love to hang out w/ her! but alls her mind is into is homework and school ahhhh! she never hangs with me how do i make her not so serious about everything?
Like her for who she is, don't try to change people to suit who you are. That can become a unhealthy pattern and then you pick a boyfriend that you feel you can change. Find people who share your likes if you really can't stand her as she is. It isn't fair to her. She may enjoy finding reader friends. It might help you to take on some of her habits. The odds are she will do better in college--readers & those who develop good study habits generally do.
you dont you enjoy her for who she is, real friends dont try to change people. you want to be a good friend dont you?
you should be trying to make yourself more like her!
you won't get very far in life if you "hate reading"
It's hard to understand as a kid, but this is the time you're supposed to be learning the skills you will need to succeed in school and your career.
All the people who just "want to have fun" wind up miserable as adults with low paying jobs, while people like your friend wind up having exciting careers, travelling around the world, and going to the best clubs in NYC.
YOU need to get your priorities together. WORK, then play. Understand? While you are at school, you focus on school, not your nails or boys. Let the boys focus on YOU. There is NO reason to go out on a school night. If you've done all your work, understand your teachers and are ready for your tests, then you go out on Friday or Saturday.
I would work on that reading thing first. The people who "hate reading" get hired for jobs where you wear plastic name tags....
Learning is actually fun and rewarding. YOU need more discaplin and focus. Talk to your parents and teachers and tell them that you are having problems staying interested in school... maybe the class isn't right for you, maybe you need a tutor... But PLEASE, don't be one of the MANY dumb girls who throw their futures away because they think they need to act stupid and do all their partying now. You'll wind up USED UP and BROKE at 26, while your friend will be in the best designer clothes with the hottest guys and the most rewarding life... TRUST ME
just because you are friends with this girl it does not mean you need the same interests. her priortities may be different to yours. its a good thing that she like to do her homework this is a good trait and this friend of yours may do well in life financially. why not do your homework together then you will get to hang out with her. you should take some advice from her a calm down and do your own homework unless you want to be a party girl all your life with no money whilst your friend is driving around in a mercedes and a high flying career. once your education is out the way you will have weekends to go out to clubs and on vacations with friends.
You can't change the way a person is just because you want to! Everybody has different personalities, ways of behaving and ways of life. The fact that she likes to read and do homework is not a bad thing for her, it's actually a very good thing - it's going to help her in school to get good grades, right? And if you are a true friend, you don't want her to have bad grades.
Think of the common things that you have - why do you like to hang out with her? And stick to that.. who knows, maybe you have a lot to learn from her. But don't try to change her just because you want to hang out with her.. it's selfish if you think about it.
You can't make her less serious.
Maybe you could invite her to something you both like to do once a week or so, if you are really good friends.
Try to find others who are interested in things that you like to do.
Sounds like this friend is very busy and on a mission. Give her some room to do what she needs to do. She will appreciate your relationship more.
Good luck. You will be able to make more friends the more you find fun things to do.
Make a list of all your favorite things to do. Then, check at the library for community activities in your area. Go to as many as you can. You will meet people that are doing things you like to do. You can also join different clubs in your school.
It makes finding friends a lot easier!