I believe I am "doomed" in every respect.?!
Question: I don't know what to do. I am in a new city. I am [hopefully]
a cancer survivor [my hair finally growing back].
I am in the process of a divorce--abandoned when I was diagnosed with cancer . I am broke. My Mother died 8 mos ago. My daughter won't speak to me; her and her husband stole property from me during the holidays, and pawned it. I cannot continue paying an attorney to represent me in the divorce so my (ex) husband is taking full advantage. I have no self esteem or confidence left; I am depressed; hopeless; and having anxienty/clausterphobic attacks. Legal/tax issues from nearly 8 years ago resurfacing--I am fearful that my (ex) has blamed the family business (now closed) tax issues on me. Other financial issues from actions of the (ex) after the separation have depleated my savings. I suffered brain (short term memory) and heart damage from the chemotherapy. I don't know what to do, it seems that it never ends.
Answers: I don't know what to do. I am in a new city. I am [hopefully]
a cancer survivor [my hair finally growing back].
I am in the process of a divorce--abandoned when I was diagnosed with cancer . I am broke. My Mother died 8 mos ago. My daughter won't speak to me; her and her husband stole property from me during the holidays, and pawned it. I cannot continue paying an attorney to represent me in the divorce so my (ex) husband is taking full advantage. I have no self esteem or confidence left; I am depressed; hopeless; and having anxienty/clausterphobic attacks. Legal/tax issues from nearly 8 years ago resurfacing--I am fearful that my (ex) has blamed the family business (now closed) tax issues on me. Other financial issues from actions of the (ex) after the separation have depleated my savings. I suffered brain (short term memory) and heart damage from the chemotherapy. I don't know what to do, it seems that it never ends.
Sounds like you are a very strong woman to have walked as far along this path as you have.
You may not feel strong but sometimes taking it one day at a time takes incredible strength.
You must feel like you have been attacked left and right. It makes it really hard when its loved ones doing some of the assaults.
You say you have no self esteem or self confidence. I SAY that is simply a result of all the emotional bruises. It will change with time.
You ARE a SURVIVOR. You have proof positive of that every time you look in the mirror and brush your hair. Maybe a battered survivor but, a SURVIVOR.
Wow....no offense but your life sucks.
Try talking to your ex and make him realize that your hurt.
For your daughter take her punk a** to court if you can.
and one more thing love
don't kill yourself cause then that would be depressing =(
you survived cancer! =]]] smile
days are hard for me too
i tried committing suicide
but when i look back at it im like wtf was wrong with me
my aunt is a lawyer in nyc her name is sandra bonnick ,if you google her you might find her...she might be able to do something pro-bono so you can nail that jackass
as for your daughter, your her mother...go see her, and tell her how you feel and that you dont hate her but you just wanna know why shes doing this to you,have a talk =]
JEEZ LOUISE, I AM NOT A LAWYER BUT I THINK YOUR HUSBAND MAY BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU LEGAL FEES REGARDING THIS DIVORCE. CHECK WITH YOUR LAWYER OR YOUR STATE BAR ASSOCIATION. THE REST OF THIS SOUNDS WORSE THAN THE TRIALS OF JOB. I REALLY DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO TELL YOU EXCEPT CONTACT YOUR STATES SOCIAL SERVICE ORGANIZATIONS. SOMETIMES FAITH BASED ORGANIZATIONS CAN BE OF SOME HELP. BY THIS I DO NOT MEAN THROUGH PRAYER OR FAITH. SOMETIMES THESE ORGANIZATIONS HAVE TALENTED VOLUNTEERS IN THE FIELDS OF LAW AND MEDICINE AND OR CAN DIRECT YOU TO HELP IN THESE AREAS. OFTEN THESE PEOPLE WILL HANDLE CASES LIKE YOURS AS IS DESCRIBED LEGALLY AS PRO BONO. BY THIS I MEAN FOR NO FEE. I THINK THAT YOU ARE BEYOND FAITH AND PRAYER. BEST OF LUCK BOB
This is too depressing for me to really answer. I'm not religious but maybe I suppose it would benefit you to find some solace in God or something? Usually that whole route helps people.
I know this will be hard to hear when you're down but the more negative your attitude, the harder it will be to shake the feeling of being doomed.
Were your parents divorced when you were very young? That may cause some to feel that everything is always on the brink of disaster.
Have you tried therapy through a church or state organization?
Some professionals do pro bono - free - work.
The problem with feeling doomed is that it tends to become self-fulfilling.
Find someone who loves you and talk with him or her.