Help! i want to kill myself?!


Question: i keep having thoughts that are making me really depressed and i want to die. i just want all of them to end. i have too much work and cant handle it, my grades are slipping, i have been a jackass to my friends, my girlfriend seems to point out my flaws, i feel like crying all the time, i dont have any way to release stress, im behind on community service, i hate my stepmom, my brother who is autistic is driving me nuts, i just got out of a disagreement (almost a fight) with my girlfriend, i keep upseting her i think, my mom may give away my cats that i love, i never fully got over the divorce of my parents (five years) i hate who i have become over the past few months, i dont think i can change, i feel like a big dissapointment, and i dont have any good friends that i can talk too easily. i think im going to kill myself soon. what should i do?


Answers: i keep having thoughts that are making me really depressed and i want to die. i just want all of them to end. i have too much work and cant handle it, my grades are slipping, i have been a jackass to my friends, my girlfriend seems to point out my flaws, i feel like crying all the time, i dont have any way to release stress, im behind on community service, i hate my stepmom, my brother who is autistic is driving me nuts, i just got out of a disagreement (almost a fight) with my girlfriend, i keep upseting her i think, my mom may give away my cats that i love, i never fully got over the divorce of my parents (five years) i hate who i have become over the past few months, i dont think i can change, i feel like a big dissapointment, and i dont have any good friends that i can talk too easily. i think im going to kill myself soon. what should i do?

Hey man, I know how you feel sometimes. I get stressed out and depressed about alot of things. I've also battled my own bouts with depression and anxiety. First, whether you see a doctor or not... it is not a solution to give up and end it. There is no guarantee that whatever may be after this life, is going to be any easier. Depending in your personal beliefs, it could end up being 100x worse. So lets just move past that option. One of the best things I have found to help with it all when things hit really hard and things get really dark, is to really seriously find things that never seem to fail at making you feel good. As simple, or as elaborate as it may be. A specific food, movie, tv show, book, person, empty space to relax... whatever. I have tried numerous medications, and I have yet to find an absolute "cure." I feel that to have these intense emotions are an absolute neccessity in life. It lets you know that things are not going as you want them to. Therefore, the depression and anxiety are indications that your situation is negative on your happiness. The purpose of your life is to be happy... not to satisfy your boss, teachers, parents, girlfriend, etc. If your course to happiness does end up satisfying all of those other people, great! But to smother your own needs, by concentrating on finishing work, helping out others, or making money will always lead to unhappiness. Sometimes, you just need to face your problems logically and spell them out in simple terms. You can ask a classmate to help with work, or just level with your teacher. Teachers are human too (some of them haha). Friends will always be friends, if they are TRUE friends. So don't worry about them for a minute. If your girlfriend points out your flaws to the point where it affects your self esteem... SEE YA LATER! You've heard it before, other fish in the sea. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to find a girl that LOVES you for your flaws... I did. You might also be able to solve 2 in 1 too. If you have no way to release stress, and you are behind on comm. service... find some community service where you do something physical. So many endorphins get released when you raise your heart rate and sweat. You'll sleep better, and you will be even more motivated to stay physical and keep releasing endorphins (natures exctacy). As for helping your brother, if he is autistic and you are a struggling young man, you are in no position to aid him right now. There are professionals that can take over that stuff for awhile. Also, in regards to your parental situation and divorce... you can accomplish so much by talking to someone, or preferably your parents. I bet if they knew how much it was affecting you, they would do whatever possible to hash out the disagreements. Divorce is definitely difficult. To be honest, it happened, it most likely isn't ever going to be like it was again. Coming from someone who had a very difficult time, it took awhile, but I see my parents now for who they are. Not the perfect idols I thought them to be, but just humans that are confused and scared about most of the same stuff that we are. Maybe they are battling their own demons and aren't in a position to reach out and help you without you asking them for it. I will close with this... Life is always a series of magical moments and dissapointments. I guarantee that you will be dissappointed in the future, it's how we let that affect us, that shows how strong we can be. I am the complete opposite of what I was like in high school, and I'm even more different now that I'm in my mid 20's. It's not a matter of IF you can change. It's "How many times WILL I change, and how can I keep making those changes for the better." And you say you have nobody to talk to, but I'm sure that in the 5-10 minutes it has taken me to write this... 10-20 people have replied with good advice also. If people do write something stupid and ignorant, just know that, that has nothing to do with you... it just means that they are just as confused and scared about their lives, and that in itself, is how they cope. I really hope things brighten up for you. They did for me, and I wouldn't trade the struggle for anything. It shows you are human and you care about things other than yourself all the time... I think now, you should be self centered and do things for you for a bit. I'm speaking the honest truth man... actually writing this helped me out alot. Maybe a way for you to deal with stuff is to search around YAnswers and give your story to other people in a similar situation... create a chain of people helping out... I think that is the best thing about YAnswers. You can learn alot about stuff from other people, but you learn even more about yourself by the advice you provide to others. Good Luck! It's not going to be easy... but it's going to be worth it. Get in touch if you want to talk more. I got connections in the internets... haha. Smile

see a doctor

get some help now effexor works great for depression life is too short tommorow may be different

dont kill yourself jus try to right your feelings down or talk to some one it might help cuz my friend felt that way and what i told her to do helped A LOT !!!!!

Talk to somebody - a counsellor might be a good choice.
It may not seem like it now, but things will get better.
I know that everyone always says to talk to someone about how you're feeling, and I admit that I used to be skeptical about how well that'd work. But if you can find someone who will understand where you're coming from, tell them how you feel and how it's affecting you, it can help.

It's a bad sign of ill health if these thoughts are frequent. The next stage is planning your suicide. The next stage after that is attempting it. You are thinking depressed thoughts because you are depressed. hen you start thinking about sad things you mush change your thought and think about things like what is my plan for next year. how will you make next you better for you by having things that you want. the sad or bad things you think about you attract those sad and bad thought to yourself and that's what your thought will give, it will give you more of the bad things so you can think about. you start to think about good thing your thought will give you more of that image and believe me you want more of the good thought then that bad ones. because the bad ones make you sad and mad and why not change that thought and thing about thing you want that will make you happy and put that good image from your thought into work so you can get what you.

Change you're playground go where you dont usually go avoid the places you do frequent meet some new people and be upbeat when you do and most importantly dont lose sight of the fact that you are a valuable person
KEEP YOU"RE CHIN UP PAL AND GOOD LUCK

I know what ur saying. I just try to surround myself with people. Also, i removed all of the knives, shoelaces, etc.. from my room, cuz its usually at night when i get really bad. I'm gonna be a hypocrite and tell you to see a psychiatrist.

Firstly, whatever happens, your life is worth something. Who knows what might happen in the future? Don't give up because no matter what there are always people who are here for you and who love you. Also, if your girlfriend is making you upset by pointing out your flaws, maybe she's not the person for you. Just take small steps, maybe focus on your grades and then maybe try to make up with your friends. If you still feel like this tell someone and maybe go and see a therapist or someone. Dont give up hope.

They invented helplines for people like you:
9-1-1
1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-8255

Please get Help. Life is worth living. You just need to talk out your problems and you need someone to help you resolve your problems. You can't always do everything alone, and this is one of those times. Don't reject hospitilization/rehab. It may not be paradise, but it's a great place to take a break from everything and get everything out and in order.

You need to separate who you are from what you have done and what is going on around you. You may feel that things are happening to you, but in reality what WE do has a lot to do with how people and things RESPOND to what we do. Start thinking of life as something we need to learn to manage. If we want a certain outcome, we have to plan what we need to do to make it happen and we need to plan on what might happen to stop it and how we need to respond to that. I am not saying we have to be calculating, I am saying we have to be observant and thoughtful and realize everyone wants something in life and we get what we want if other people get what they want.
The first step in this plan is to decide exactly what you want. Define it in terms such that you will know what it looks like when you get it. When we define things this way, it makes it easier to plan how we can manage things to make the change. Good luck.
Another piece of advice is go to www.anxietycoach.com.

Life isn't easy. We all encounter those moments in which the we feel like it would be easier to give up than to go through another day feeling like we do. Worst, the idea that life is full of these obstacles makes it harder to look forward to anything. Just know that everyone feels helpless at some point, but there is no greater satisfaction than knowing that, no mater what obstacles is thrown your way, you will overcome it. These are the experiences that define us, and in the future they are nothing more than another lesson learned. What doesn't kill is makes us stronger! This is a test of character and within this test there IS space for change, always. By the way, your friends are probably more willing to listen to you than you think.

I've been reading a few of your previous questions. If you are not already, you would benefit from seeing a psychiatrist and getting prescribed medication to control impulses/thoughts. Call your psychiatrist or mental health team right now if you have plans to kill yourself.

DON'T!!!


Today's the day to change your life...apologize to the ppl you need to and change yourself in a positive way!

killing doesn't do anything but prove you're weak. You're not weak!! So get up, and change your life NOW. Do what it takes to make yourself feel happy

its only when we (humans) are facing the end of our life that we realize how precious it is. it' s normal to feel overwhelmed with teh daily stress of life but like i alwasy say if there is a reasonable solution to you problems then why not put forth the effort to make yourself feel better.

do things that make you happy. even if its small. whatever puts a smile on your face or brings you joy then try and practice that.

look at your life and see what it is that you should be greatful for. like having love. having a family. having your health and being able to live life no matter how stressful it can be.

think about this, a person who doesn't have their health or is ina situation that cannot be fixed would love to have someone eles daily stress instead of their own.

Pray. talk to GOD. and seriosly look at the things that you can be greatful for.

I really don't believe you want to hurt yourself You sound confused, angry, and stressed to the max. Talk to someone at school or someone you trust completely. Evidently you are aware you have problems but don't know how to solve them. Don't forget , you came to this site for advice, my thinking is you want it, so here you go, use it well my dear, we all care.

man just f*ck it, ur just makin it look realy bad when its not that bad realy. I dont think you have a very problemetic life, mine is alot worse and i have much more trouble than you do but i am livin with it happily and i just say fuc*k it who cares. Look at other peoples lives. my dad recently got conned with $100,000.. his life saving and he's livin with it like nothing happened he even makes jokes of it. Take it easy it doesnt deserve what your givin it

1-800-suicide. They'll listen. When you get to the bottom of the pit, you start climbing back up, you don't just give up! Trust me, I've been there! Get yourself some help, professional help, Tell your mom. She'd rather know this than find you dead one day. They love you, your family. And get down to the reason you can't deal with the divorce. Maybe you felt betrayed? Left behind? Like you were the cause? All of these things are normal. You know, you didn't become like this overnight, and you're not gonna become "normal" overnight. Thing is, you can't quit. That's my advice. This is what I beg though...think of the future. Think of the many things you won't get to expirence if you stop now...maybe playing with your future kids, finding that special girl? Taking a trip to a place you want to go? Isn't that worth it? I think so. Hang in there kiddo.





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