Should I cut off all ties with relationship decribed below? How can I do it nice!
Question: I became involved some how with a woman that has Borderline Personality Disorder (medically documented) and Crack Cocaine Problem. She is on Disability (SSI) because of it. She has two children that are very hyperactive ages five and ten. She is the bottomless pit when it comes to need and she has at least one crisis daily. At first she seemed like a very nice person that wanted to get her life back in order. I took her and her children places like picnics and the beach. We did family activities and dinned out (all at my expense because she lacked disposable income). At first it seemed to go very well but within a couple of weeks she had her first crisis (that I saw). She took off when her Niece was over and blew her rent money on a Crack Cocaine over night binge.
Answers: I became involved some how with a woman that has Borderline Personality Disorder (medically documented) and Crack Cocaine Problem. She is on Disability (SSI) because of it. She has two children that are very hyperactive ages five and ten. She is the bottomless pit when it comes to need and she has at least one crisis daily. At first she seemed like a very nice person that wanted to get her life back in order. I took her and her children places like picnics and the beach. We did family activities and dinned out (all at my expense because she lacked disposable income). At first it seemed to go very well but within a couple of weeks she had her first crisis (that I saw). She took off when her Niece was over and blew her rent money on a Crack Cocaine over night binge.
This is typical Borderline behavior. Borderlines react to life about like a toddler. They have a need for immediate gratification of their wants. They create chaos in the lives of all around them. It is one of the hardest mental problems to treat. She may never be able to function right.
I would suggest you get far away from her and make it hard for her to contact you.
Children's services should be notified to evaluate her ability to care for her kids.
She needs counseling but she doesn't need any further enabling. For her sake and for her childrens sake, I would see if she ands her children could be helped by reporting her to the social services people.
I would dump that crack head in a minute and call CPS to hopefully have them take her children away...
kick her out of your life fast before she really screws things up big time for you. It sounds like you need to sort yourself out first and you can begin by asking yourself why you need someone like her in your life.
well you obviously care but there comes a point , like my ex
it seems that she could do with a spell in hospital / or gp she could have bi polar disorder or you could report her for harrassment
Get out of this relationship and contact Children's Protective Services.