How to stop being friendly?!
Question: I feel many times, in real life as well as on the internet that I give my life as an open book to anyone that will listen to me. Perhaps this is due to some lack of discipline on my part. I think many people can see through me and see my needyness and loneliness and it really turns them off. I don't blame them. I tend to avoid excessively friendly people as well. So what should I do? Should I close my facebook account? Should I stop trying to talk to people?
Answers: I feel many times, in real life as well as on the internet that I give my life as an open book to anyone that will listen to me. Perhaps this is due to some lack of discipline on my part. I think many people can see through me and see my needyness and loneliness and it really turns them off. I don't blame them. I tend to avoid excessively friendly people as well. So what should I do? Should I close my facebook account? Should I stop trying to talk to people?
Don't be dumb! I think you're cool. By the way, I think the internet isn't as fake as it used to be. Not just 40 year-old bald guys named Chaz anymore. It's mostly our generation and age group (college/late highschool) so perhaps you're not being extremely needy sounding, maybe you're just being normal? Isn't being open normal? My point being, we subconsciously don't feel the need to follow the old "never give name or personal information on the internet" clause because we kinda know who we're talking to now for the most part. I don't know. :P
All I DO know is that you don't sound needy or anything. I'm thinking it's all in your head. Silly. :D
Try to control yourself by remembering people make friends by listening not talking.
Mettoo, I am shy. I think u shud stop being friendly
i think you need to start being mean, and not always be so open to those that don't know you. i used to be like you, and it being because i needed someone to talk to that i'd let myself get to that point, and it wasnt until i gained confidence in myself and concentrated on what was going on in my life, and not be so nice and gullible, that i was able put it all in the past and really change my ways. and all for the better
as for your facebook account, i think you should see if you can find your real friends on facebook, and if you don't have any that use facebook, try suggesting to your friends that they should use facebook. otherwise, it would be best to close your facebook account.
you don`t stop trying to talk to people. the problem is in you. try to figure it out. you said people can easily see right through you, that`s good actually. means that you really don`t have any problems of making people understand you. the problem is just how you make them see you.
the thing is, you can`t force people to be in your circle all the time, like you`re the center of the universe thing. change the way you showed people who you are. think positive.
there`s nothing in this world worst than being lonely and not having anyone to listen to you. but just to remains you, you`re not the only one that need to be listened....
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I know what you mean. I feel the same way sometimes. I think we just need reassurance or something. I don't know, it sucks though. Screw them if they think you're needy! They would be worthless friends anyway, friends are supposed to be there when they are "needed".
Perhaps, limit your open book-ness to a few close friends? idk, that seems to work for me, I know where you're coming from haha.