Im feeling so down lately, and that I am not a good mom?!
Question: I am on antidepressants for my depression and it is working or atleast I thought it was. But for this past week, i just have been feeling like crap. I feel that my son doesnt love me and resents me for being a single mom and yet i know he doenst he is only 10 months old.. but why am i feeling this way? someone please help, i am desperate to stop feeling this way!!! HELP!!!
Answers: I am on antidepressants for my depression and it is working or atleast I thought it was. But for this past week, i just have been feeling like crap. I feel that my son doesnt love me and resents me for being a single mom and yet i know he doenst he is only 10 months old.. but why am i feeling this way? someone please help, i am desperate to stop feeling this way!!! HELP!!!
Hi Hunni
This was me!! I know exactly what you're going through.
These moods do raise their ugly heads from time to time when suffering from depression as i found out. As with many more. If you suffer from bad thoughts such as suicidal or what ever it may be (especially when you know its not something you'd usually think about) then just remember its all part of the depression. You will come through it just as i did and as i continue to do.
I thought i was a bad mother too, that what ever i said or did felt wrong and thought my daughter resented me too for the situation i was in and put her in. (I left her father)
That was just one of many different things that depression can bring on but its not your fault to feel this way, nor should you EVER feel like a bad mother. You're little man is so lucky to have you!!
I seeked help from a Psychologist to help me with my depression and i now think the world of her, she has helped me through the most difficult time of my life and i would recommend someone in the same boat seek that kind of assistance.
Seeing a Psychologist doesn't make you a "basket case" or anything like that so dont even think that. They are specially trained in that field which makes them good at what they do.
This illness is something that does take some time to get through but you can do it, i promise you.
A really good site to read up on is, www.beyondblue.org.au. Its a really great site and allowed me the easiest possible way to explain to my daughter (Who's 13) what was wrong with me. It has pages and pages to read about all different symptoms of depression.
What you need to do in the mean time is think how lucky you are to have your little boy and the happiness he gives you. What are some of the great things that you and him do together? Reflect upon those great memories and ask yourself honestly. "Am i really a bad mother? Im sure your baby boy gets fed and clothed and im sure you love him like nothing else in this world. That makes you a great mum!! Dont ever forget it.
Think of the other mothers out there you see on the street and the way they talk to their children with such disrepect, they look like they spend all their money on drugs and smokes and the kids go without. I can already see that that is not you which is why your asking this question, to seek help.
The greatest love is of a mother and baby. Nothing can ever replace that.
GOODLUCK, There is a light at the end of the tunnel, believe me....
Would love to know how you get on!! :-)
LIZZIE
well if u havent notice anti-depressants dont work.. it was on the news lately, it cna make it worst i think i forgot
he loves you and you know that! be happy and talk to someone about it if it gets worse
exersise... and find a job... enteract with ppl.... lol im 13 and giving info to a mom... hahahahah
dylan should live with his grandparents while u get a hold of your life and still keep a relationship with him.
First of all you should see your doctor about how you are feeling. Being a single mother is hard work, when your son is old enough he will realize this. He will be proud of you, and all the things you did for him. You are doing the work of two people. At the present you need to block those thoughts out of your head. Being able to realize that those are irrational thoughts means your not crazy. I think it is time to switch your anti-depressants. There are millions of single moms, You can and will be able to do it! Be strong and try your best to ignore irrational thoughts.
you sound like you need a weekend alone.....
Bad Moms never even wonder if they are good or bad..so you must be a good mom
feeling this way is normal sometimes but i even know your son doesnt hate you he cant even make his own decisions yet he is only 10 months old.........see your doctor or a phsychattrist
you might need to get stroger antidpressants!
if not get ur fioroid glands checked out, my mum has it and she felt depressed all the time she is on pills now and she has changed so much!
u need to get this sorted hunn, ur son doesnt hate you, he loves you, we all love you!
he loves you. you take care of him and love him. and you did not
abandon him. what more could a child want?
i think you sound like you're a great mom and that you're just overly-worried about your abilities, which you shouldn't be, because you seem really caring and concerned about your baby.
therapy and different medication might help if you're already dabbling in antidepressants and feel they're working.
Oh gosh, honey, stop the negative thinking. Count your blessings. Take that baby and get out in the sunshine and stroll around the block and go to the park. Try to find some other moms to hang with. Look into Parents without Partners.
you shouldnt be so negative and hard on yourself. The fact that you brought that child onto the earth is an amazing thing. It is up to you to stay positive and send all your love to your child as he grows, and it will all be worth it in the end. You should be greatlful of the situation that you are in because when it rains it pores but theres ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel
i'm sure u do everything u can for ur son. its not your fault that youre depressed. Just keep loving your son & he'll love you no matter what..You're already doing the first step be getting help & taking med. i know its hard to Just feel better when you feel so bad.. but f you want to talk you can e-mail me. i'm willing to listen
Stop feeling about yourself. If you have to , just consider yourself as your baby's sister instead of Mom.
First, how old are you? Second, parents at young ages, especially single parents, feel depression a lot harder. (especially intelligent ones) I myself, is on antidepressants for different reasons. They all react differently. (sometimes very scary) If you have any questions feel free to email me.
a mother is good. I think all mother doubt self. Much responsibilities to mother a child. Child love you. Do not doubt that for no time. Where is worthless husband? I pound on him for you from Slovakia.
Sweety, I feel this way, and I'm not even depressed! I just remember that without me, my kids have nothing. And having a mom that may not be the best, is way better than having nothing! Besides, you are that little guys whole world...he loves you unconditionaly. Cheer up...you could be like my mother-in-law. She has nver been treated for Bipolar and she clearly has it and it made her sons life a living hell sometimes. But they turned out just fine!
And, if you get the chance...do something just for you. Leave your son with a sitter or grandma and go pamper yourself or go shopping...even if you buy nothing, you will feel better by having a break! Good Luck!
Oh, come on now, your son can't not love you, you're his mommy.. and he isn't even old enough to know what resent is, and even so, I'm sure he wouldn't resent you. Now, you may want to go to the doctor.. my roommate is on antidepressants and he had to switch them because they stopped working. So maybe you just need a different kind.. besides, you should be happy! You have a (I'm sure..) beautiful ten-month-old baby to take care of. Maybe you have post-partum depression... Have you heard of the moms who eat the placenta after they have their child and they're actually a lot happier? (Weird, I know, but still). So go to your doctor and talk to him about it, I'm sure he can make you feel better. And if not, maybe you need some counseling. Either way, good luck and I'm sure you're an awesome mom! :)
Only YOU can change your life for the better. Just ask yourself what you want out of life and do it. Antidepressants are just a band-aid unless you are seeing a psychologist or counselor while taking them. A Professional will help you get to the root of the problem and work from there. Good Luck
You just need to relax. Maybe you are feeling this way cuz you feel like you're doing everything on your own. But to be honest you shouldn't even feel that way about yourself. You are a good mom. Cause you're raising your little boy and being independent. That's great. I feel that you should just take a day at a spa or maybe go somewhere that will relax your mind. Take one day for yourself and don't think that your son don't love you cuz he does. You're a great mom! Don't put yourself down like that. c'mon We're Woman. And We're INDEPENDENT!!!!
SEE A PSYCHIATRIST NOT YOUR GYN !
Just cool off a bit, add some levity to your life. You are a great mother! The only thing that has been getting to you are your insecurities. Your son doesn't hate you because you're single, he doesn't know about that stuff. Love yourself no matter what!!!
Talk to your doctor. It sounds as if you may need an adjustment in your medications. Also, finding a good therapist to talk too can be very helpful. You are not alone.
Please go talk this out with your phyciatrist as soon as possible. You may not be on the right medication and your phyciatrist can prescribe you something better to suite you.
I have depression, and I've taken every anti-depressant out there, none worked for me to be honest.
Now I use a supplement called 5-HTP and it has worked wonders for my depression. But you can't take the 5-HTP along with another prescribed anti-depressant. Maybe you should try the 5-HTP, because I truly can't tell you in words how awesome this stuff is. It really really works!
It's all in your head. Your son is only 10 months he doesn't think that way and it's silly of you to think that way. Anti depressants put you in a la la land. You need to find a release being a single mom is hard but you need to focus on more important things like your new baby. One thing I love to do is listen to music. Music is like a bandage if you keep it on it will heal you sure you may end up with a scar but after awhile the pain will go away. Focus on the positive things in your life. Your baby won't be happy if he doesn't have a happy mommy. You are going to be a great mom!
You need to fine a good single moms group..Like at a church or some thing...Praying always helped me when i feel down..and listening to music...It's sound's like you need some me time.Talk to your doctor if your med's are not working.Good luck
Take a hot bath and read a book
Your baby most certainly does not resent you what so ever at all. You are his whole world. Baby's are demanding. That's just part of being a mom. Sounds like you need to do several things.
1) Calm down. You are a good person. The fact that you're a single mom is not a bad thing. I am a single mom of several kids. It is my fault for choosing a father that wasn't worth anything, but that's all water under the bridge. Children are gems. They will make you happier than you've ever been before in your life while also driving you nuts inside.
2) If you are feeling so badly that you feel you might harm yourself or your baby (in a moment of rage, panic, despair, whatever) you need to go to someone for help. If you don't have a support structure, you need to call a crisis center for help. Regardless if things are that bad or not, you are not feeling good about things, go talk to your doctor (the one that prescribed you those meds for the depression). And if you aren't already doing it, start going to a councelor.
3) Give yourself a break. Find a good daycare provider that can watch the baby for several hours. Schedule an appointment at the spa, or go to the gym, or do whatever it is that you used to do before the baby joined you to make yourself feel good and refreshed. And do this as often as you need to in order to keep yourself in a healthy place. Your baby needs you, but you are not as good to him if you are always cranky, worn out, and depressed. Your own healthy state of mind is important! Don't feel guilty about taking care of yourself. Just be sure that someone else is taking care of the little one before you step out for this excursion.
Best of luck. Do the right things.
You really need to check with your Dr. Antidepressants can work for awhile and then maybe the dose needs to be increased or even changed. Sometimes it take two different kinds. Get help so you can enjoy the little boy and be able to keep an active life.