Alchoholic grandfather...What to do?!
Question: I do not want my daughter (she is an infant) to grow up thinking it is acceptable to be an angry alchoholic. Her grandfather does not become physically impaired when he drinks...but gets to the point where he will say something demeaning to his wife, raise his voice at her (and recently at me), and has been this way for years and years. It has deeply effected his family members emotionally... He also sets an example for his son, who is my boyfriend and baby's father... and he shows signs of being like his dad in the future.
I know the grandfather 'feels bad' for the things he does and says when drunk, but will not quit drinking. What do we do?
I have already commited to not having him around the baby until he's stopped drinking completely. This is a new battle for me, anyone here triumped over this??
Answers: I do not want my daughter (she is an infant) to grow up thinking it is acceptable to be an angry alchoholic. Her grandfather does not become physically impaired when he drinks...but gets to the point where he will say something demeaning to his wife, raise his voice at her (and recently at me), and has been this way for years and years. It has deeply effected his family members emotionally... He also sets an example for his son, who is my boyfriend and baby's father... and he shows signs of being like his dad in the future.
I know the grandfather 'feels bad' for the things he does and says when drunk, but will not quit drinking. What do we do?
I have already commited to not having him around the baby until he's stopped drinking completely. This is a new battle for me, anyone here triumped over this??
I agree that you should not be living in this situation if you can help it. Also you could call AA and get some handouts and a meeting schedule in your area. Have your husband tell his dad (with you there if he wants support to do it) that he doesn't want his baby to be around him until he gets on the program and stops drinking.
if you live with them....MOVE.
if not, make sure you're only around when he's sober.
you cant change people.
Move away from the place! Let them solve their own problems and try to make a good living for your own family. It doesn't matter how bad the grandfather feels when he's sober if he doesn't quit the habit. It's just words, words.....