Child abuse & Rape!!!!!!!!?!
Question: I was just wondering, i met this guy on this forum that told me he had been sexually assaulted and raped by another male when he was 7 or 8! he claims he is 24.
I'm just wondering how did he cope for 15-16 years of his life knowing that this had happend and not spoken to anyone untill this week?
Is the guy mentally insane or what?
Answers: I was just wondering, i met this guy on this forum that told me he had been sexually assaulted and raped by another male when he was 7 or 8! he claims he is 24.
I'm just wondering how did he cope for 15-16 years of his life knowing that this had happend and not spoken to anyone untill this week?
Is the guy mentally insane or what?
No.
I was molested by my cousin when I was 6. I have never told anyone in "real life" I talk about it but only online because you guys don't really know me, it makes it easier to talk about it.
I'm 25 now, I waited until last year to ever mention it and again it was only online, I've never told anyone in my family.
I've struggled with what happened my entire life, I've often thought of telling the family what happened but I'm afraid of comments like yours, and that is why I doubt I will ever tell anyone.
Well, since you only know him on a forum, my radar goes up and wonders why he shared such a personal experience with a (pretty much) stranger. I would wonder if he wasn't looking for sympathy.
And it is totally concievable that someone would experience that type of abuse and not be insane.
My 'phony' radar though is really beeping with this one. Becareful. Someone seeking attention by this type of story is far more 'mental' than someone who has innocently experincend this type of abuse.
no, when someone is abused like that, it scars them for life-tell the user to tell someone who can help him plz!
he probably was too scared to tell anyone till now.
A lot of times people supress it in the back of their minds and do not think about it or even remember it until something sparks their memory and then they can come out with it. Also, this is not something that a guy wants to talk about int he worrld that we live in today with gays on everyone's mind all the time. If he did come out with this, people might think that he is gay and I am sure that he does not want people thinking that about him, so it has just been easier for him to keep it to himself until he felt that he could handle it emotionally.
Why would he have to be insane because he didn't talk to anyone about it????? 80% of sexual abuse victims don't' report it or talk about it for years if ever. For some of them it's denial, for some it's shame and for some of them they just want to forget that it happened and to them that means not talking about it. It doesn't make you insane to not talk about it. He may have also not trusted any one to not reject him or not to judge him about it before. Experiencing sexual abuse really makes it very difficult to trust other's and to know how to deal with the feelings that are left. Men find it particularly hard to deal with these feelings as for them it happens less and people are less likely to know how to deal with it in men particularly years ago. Men are taught that they should be able to take care of themselves. Being sexually assaulted means that they weren't able to take care of them selfs and it mess even more with their ego's and sense of self. So I'm not surprised at all that it's taken all these years to reach out to someone.
hes a liar most likely.
At that age, fear plays a major factor in keeping silent!
To understand what can happen to a youngster undergoing such brutal treatment, & how it can affect the rest of their lives, read:
Comfort for Those With a "Stricken Spirit"
- "Repressed Memories..."
http://watchtower.org/e/19951101a/articl...
Please, share this with him!
it's a protective mechanism that when something so horrific happens the mind goes into denial and blanks it out until the individual has the skills, or another event brings it all flooding back like it was yesterday.
Don't buy into his problems. Look after yourself.
it was suppressed inside, and resurfaced its ugly self as he got older....you are in denial at first, and then you feel dirty, ashame and scared to tell anyone and beign so young you don't know what to do...but once you get older you start to remember..you first become angry, hurt, and then you want to know why, once you do this you will let others know and this starts the healing process...i was molested by my grandfather, and i remember feeling that way...but it didn't come out until I was 21..I was young too....up until I said the words, I WILL TELL!!! it stopped, but i didn't tell until I was older...