Low self-esteem is a big problem for me?!
Question: I have a very low esteem. This has become a serious problem with me over the past several years. I can hardly trust people because of it. I think that people are always looking down on me. I feel like people are talking about how ugly I am. Because of I my low self-esteem problem, I tend to over think everything. I have pantic attacks because of it. I think that all of this my go back to childhood. This is something that I am now trying to overcome. If anyone has any questions, e-mail me and please feel free to ask . I need some help.
Answers: I have a very low esteem. This has become a serious problem with me over the past several years. I can hardly trust people because of it. I think that people are always looking down on me. I feel like people are talking about how ugly I am. Because of I my low self-esteem problem, I tend to over think everything. I have pantic attacks because of it. I think that all of this my go back to childhood. This is something that I am now trying to overcome. If anyone has any questions, e-mail me and please feel free to ask . I need some help.
Don't hang around negative people. When someone gives you a compliment, own it. Say thank you and accept it as the truth. Pat yourself verbally on the back with everything you accomplish during the day. Audit the way that you think. Whenever you start to think something negative about yourself, push that thought away and think of your strengths. You can do this! It just takes practice And don't be afraid to go to counseling. It can make a world of difference.
To get to trust people, try asking them to do a few tasks for you. Nothing that special, or important, or costly. Probably ask to get you some gum, or assist with work and such. Also, talk to them. Be real, and talk about some issues with that person. If they can be real with you back, then you have someone you can trust.
As for yourself, try this self-esteem raiser I found in a book:
-Everyday, praise yourself for something, whether it is that you remembered to brush your teeth, or that you have some skill in something.
-try being self-reliable. do tasks everyday, and complete them all the way. If you can do a simple task like taking out the trash, or giving water to your pet, and be able to complete this everyday, you have something else to praise about. You are consistently reliable with tasks.
-Try also being optimistic. Hang out with people who are positive. Being positive will help as well, so try to see the light of things.
Make an appointment with a therapist! Stuff from the childhood that are stucked in the system is hard to handle your self. At the same time you'll get the chance to change the bad picture of your self through the interaction with the therapist. Don't expect of your self to cope with this! And it's really good to invite readers for further discussions!
hahah so this is why you leave RUDE *** comments on my questions. low self esteem.
my advice: quit trying to put people down to make yourself feel better. it doesn't work. hahaha.
pathetic. ;]