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Question: Everyone i kno thinks that im self-centered. they think i only care about myself. what cani do to seem less self-centered???
Answers: Everyone i kno thinks that im self-centered. they think i only care about myself. what cani do to seem less self-centered???
well why do they think that? did they think of any reasons? here's some basic things that most self-centered people tend to need to fix
1.) Listen to what other people are saying. Even if they're talking about something weird they found in their shower drain last night, listen like it's absolutely captivating, and ask some general questions here and there to let them know that your listening ("and then what did you do?" "and so what did he say?") or just react kinda generally ("ewww" or "cool!") even if it's insanely boring.
2.)Don't interrupt them unless it's with a question or a response. And right after they finish talking, don't start on a story about yourself unless it's directly related to what they were talking about. If you change the subject way too often, people will think that you only want to talk about your life.
3.) Actually give a crap about others. alot of self-centered people pretty much have a "it's not my problem" kind of attitude, and don't empathize with others. Even something as simple as wearing a t-shirt with a charity or a cause on it came make you seem less self-centered, especially if you educate yourself on the cause so you can answer questions ( try one.org -eliminatin poverty)
those are pretty general ones, but if people have mentioned specific stuff to you, then definitely consider what they said and try to make changes. Even though you might have to listen to some boring conversations, have friends who truely like to be around you and like to come to you when they have real problems is way better than talking about yourself.
Quit using the word "I" and more of "you," "them," and "us." Volunteer, donate.
Take some time to sit down and consider what is important to you. You will surprised at how right everyone is... it will take some effort on your part to change. You don't need to "seem" less self-centered- you need to BE less self-centered!
Sometimes I have this problem too, it sucks. It helps if you don't talk about yourself like at all for a couple days, unless someone asks you a question. Make sure you show empathy for other people and ask how their days went. Try not to bring up anything that could be taken as bragging and let other people make decisions for a while. Hope this helps your rep!
Do you think you are self centered? Do conversations with people often seem to revolve around you? Do you turn every subject into something about yourself? Do you sound disinterested in other people and what they have to say.
One of my sisters is very self centered and this is what she does. It does get to a stage where you don't really want to talk to them or be around them. They make you feel like you are not good enough and they just don't care about you.
I would suggest being conscious of what you are doing. Try and listen to other people and be concerned about them. You don't have to forget about yourself but rule number one in making people like you is to ask them questions about themselves.
Listen more and talk less
Listen to others. When you are with people encourage them to talk about themselves and be a good listener. Avoid talking about yourself too much.
VOLUNTEER: See section 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated, as well as helping others.
Well i am fed up with myself. Everyone call me self-centred. I guess they are right. Its just so flustrating when you don't mean to hurt others but they do take it that way.
I am actually bit worried abt my career and future. So try to put more time on that. I graduated in engineering but couldnt secure a good job here in australia. Been working on contract and now after working on 3 contract position for 2 years. I went overseas to enhance my IT skills came back and its more than two months and i am not able to secure a single job. Been to interviews but still of no use. Its is really getting flustrating as i have spend so much time, money and effort and still not getting a job.
This is really pissing me off and thats why i am bit cut off from my mates.
But people tend to take it other way.
What to do.... ?