Can anyone help me to understand self harming people?!


Question: im sure this must be a serious thing and im guessing it is a symptom of somthing bigger?? but i dont really understand it, like i have a friend who always seems really cheery in school and when i'm with her but came into school with cuts which her best friend told me she did to herself! i can't imagin why, is this a form of depression in itself or just a consequence of it...
would she have done this out of anger or would it be some form of quasi-scuicide??is it that serious??
should i do anything to help her as she later told me about it herself? is it a cry for attention??
any insight would be appreciated! thanks


Answers: im sure this must be a serious thing and im guessing it is a symptom of somthing bigger?? but i dont really understand it, like i have a friend who always seems really cheery in school and when i'm with her but came into school with cuts which her best friend told me she did to herself! i can't imagin why, is this a form of depression in itself or just a consequence of it...
would she have done this out of anger or would it be some form of quasi-scuicide??is it that serious??
should i do anything to help her as she later told me about it herself? is it a cry for attention??
any insight would be appreciated! thanks

I used to cut and am periodically tempted to do it again, so I'll give you my reasons.

For me, cutting is about pain. The physical pain is much easier to deal with the psychological or emotion pain. So, when I feel trapped or unable to cope with something, I cut to relieve the mental pain.

I hope this helps.

It could be an issue. I would reccomend dulling her knives.

i do think your friend needs you to be there for her , and maybe she will be able to confide in you the deep problem she has ... usually the pain of self harmimg eases other pains in the mind that cannot be told verbally .. be there for her always

It can be hard to understand why people cut themselves on purpose. Cutting is a way some people try to cope with the pain of strong emotions, intense pressure, or upsetting relationship problems. They may be dealing with feelings that seem too difficult to bear, or bad situations they think can't change.

Some people cut because they feel desperate for relief from bad feelings. People who cut may not know better ways to get relief from emotional pain or pressure. Some people cut to express strong feelings of rage, sorrow, rejection, desperation, longing, or emptiness.

There are other ways to cope with difficulties, even big problems and terrible emotional pain. The help of a mental health professional might be needed for major life troubles or overwhelming emotions. For other tough situations or strong emotions, it can help put things in perspective to talk problems over with parents, other adults, or friends. Getting plenty of exercise can also help put problems in perspective and help balance emotions.

But people who cut may not have developed ways to cope. Or their coping skills may be overpowered by emotions that are too intense. When emotions don't get expressed in a healthy way, tension can build up



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