Do you think a guy would think of you differently if you were suicidal?!
Question: My best friends fiance left her when she was suicidal because he couldn't cope with it. He said that it didn't make him love her any less but that it is too hard to watch someone you care about self destruct no matter how hard you try to keep them together. So he left. Not the best thing in the world to do.
They since got back together but the truth is, knowing she was suicidal scared the hell out of him. He became frustrated by his inability to help her and it added a lot of strain to their relationship. They've both worked real hard to sort things out but even now, the first sign she is feeling depressed/unhappy, whether that be because she tells him or she becomes withdrawn/quiet he panics. He doesn't want to leave again but he just can not cope with knowing he might lose her and his fear makes him unable to help her. It is not great.
I would suggest to anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation that they seek help and support not just for the suicidal girl but also for themselves. My friend's fiance still loves her but for a long time he stopped seeing her as the strong, intelligent woman he fell for and saw her as a fragile and scary person whom he couldn't cope with. It took a lot of time and effort for him to realse she was still the woman he knew and loved.
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Answers: My best friends fiance left her when she was suicidal because he couldn't cope with it. He said that it didn't make him love her any less but that it is too hard to watch someone you care about self destruct no matter how hard you try to keep them together. So he left. Not the best thing in the world to do.
They since got back together but the truth is, knowing she was suicidal scared the hell out of him. He became frustrated by his inability to help her and it added a lot of strain to their relationship. They've both worked real hard to sort things out but even now, the first sign she is feeling depressed/unhappy, whether that be because she tells him or she becomes withdrawn/quiet he panics. He doesn't want to leave again but he just can not cope with knowing he might lose her and his fear makes him unable to help her. It is not great.
I would suggest to anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation that they seek help and support not just for the suicidal girl but also for themselves. My friend's fiance still loves her but for a long time he stopped seeing her as the strong, intelligent woman he fell for and saw her as a fragile and scary person whom he couldn't cope with. It took a lot of time and effort for him to realse she was still the woman he knew and loved.
Not sure what sort of answer you wanted but I hope this helps to some degree.
Maybe a bit crazy.
In my opinion, yes. They'd think your values and your perspective of life is way different than theirs, unless if they're suicidal too.
YES. My ex gf was suicidal. Not good. Did NOT make her attractive in any way. Actually she was quite scary at times.
ya he ll... coz normal people wont do it... only people who have some prob ll make it... everybody shoould overcome their prob.. n should not b suicidal....
I wouldn't.
But most of the people would, because they would be scared of you and think you're crazy and have no respect for life.
I say people must do and think whatever they want, because it's not up to them to say what is right and what is wrong.
We all have had suicidal thoughts in our life (those who say they dont't - they lie) and most of us will get over it.
So don't worry..you don't have to mention it to eveyone. ;)
Yes I believe so.
And I dont know if he would be the one to try and help.
or walk away not wanting to be involved and feel responsible..
I have seen it go both ways b4..
Mostly depends on if your outloud with it or just quiet about it.
If hes Outloud about it its really scary..
Of course he would. Suicidal thoughts, depression and other mental instabilities are very draining on those around you. Not everybody is willing to be supportive and stcik around. those that do, often have issues of their own that need working on. I suggest you get professional help now so that you can have healthy relationships in the future.
Yes. Im not a guy but I know that some guys can either feel bad for you or some think that being suicidal is the same as self pity and its not attractive. Im a woman and even I think the suicidal thing is over-rated. Self pity and trying to make a guy feel sorry for you is NOT a good quality if the guy is mature and strong willed.
The only way a guy is going to know if a girl is suicidal is if she tells him or shows signs of it.
Now I will tell you this up front, I did research on this matter; If a guy knows a girl is mental in any way rather it is depression, mood swings, suicidal thoughts present or in the past. He will 9 out of 10 walk out the door and NOT call her back even if he saids he will.
I did research were I went of 50 dates. 25 I went as myself and 25 acting as a so so mentally ill person trying to cope in life. Lets just say the 25 who met me as Miss Mental never returned. A few of the other 25 didn't based on we were not a match.
Over all point when a man learns of a woman being mentally ill he will walk away (9 out of 10). Even if he is married to her. My ex husband left me after two years of marriage due to I went through a bad case of depression due to mommy blues after my son was born. Yes, I know if he really loved me he would have stayed, but my point is what I said above.
I hope this helps