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Question: Me and my boyfriend split up about 3 months ago..we were meant to be moving away together soon and where talking about getting married..he was like my best friend..everything to me.
Its been 3 months and i still cry all day long i cant sleep eat have no energy to do nothing, my family life aint to good atm either, iv tried hangin out with mates but it dont really help. iv self harmed as i cant take life without him..i dont want to meet someone new, it makes me feel sick to my stomach..please help ?
Answers: Me and my boyfriend split up about 3 months ago..we were meant to be moving away together soon and where talking about getting married..he was like my best friend..everything to me.
Its been 3 months and i still cry all day long i cant sleep eat have no energy to do nothing, my family life aint to good atm either, iv tried hangin out with mates but it dont really help. iv self harmed as i cant take life without him..i dont want to meet someone new, it makes me feel sick to my stomach..please help ?
I have been in your shoes. Went through the same situation, except I was engaged...and the drama started and we broke up. I know it feels like you can't breathe or do anything, I know that feeling of sickness all the time and the pain. But you need to just have confidence in yourself> this is so important and what people don't realize. At the moment you don't want to find anyone else because you were so comfortable with him, and no one can replace him. However, as time goes on you will eventually heal. 3 months is NOT a long time. It may take as long as a year...but will get easier slowly each day. If he is truly out of your life and does not want you back ever, then I suggest you go out and have fun. I don't know how old you are...but I always liked going to the club and dancing with my girls and meeting new cute guys. It always feels good to flirt and have someone like you no matter how far that flirting ends up into. If you are seriously feeling like you are going crazy...like I did. I suggest you see a doctor and ask if you can get on some anxiety pills, I would recommend Effexor. It makes you feel less anxious, and sick to your stomach. You don't worry as much about the situation and have an overall feeling of happiness. You deserve to be happy, and don't think because you are on these meds means you are crazy or anything. You are going through a tough time, it is more worth it to get help then torture yourself with the pain. If you do feel uncomfortable you can keep it personal. Good luck with everything. Hope this helps. If you feel like you would want to talk to me more my e-mail is~ cduda_88@hotmail.com
Don't hurt yourself. Is there a really good friend that you can talk to and try to go out and have some fun?
It's time to get over him and move on. Open the phone book and look up a local mental health professional to help you get past this. Why someone would "self harm" over a break-up is beyond me. Life is too short to get stopped in your tracks by something as simple as a romance gone bad.
Oh honey I know how you feel, i dumped my fiance 2-3 weeks ago and I know its soon but I've got a new boyfriend. He walked all over me and treated me like ****, yes I had my cry fest and about once a week I look back on the past 2 and a half years i spent with him and cry my eyes out. I know it is hard but you should go out with some friends, have a girls night or something like that even if you just go to see a movie or something. That way you don't have to deal w/your family
As for the self harm, I've been there and sometimes relapse but in the long run it is not worth it. All it gets you are scars that will remind you of pain later in life when you are happy. Do you want to look at your body 20 years from now, see scars and think of how much life used to suck?
If you really need to talk IM me on msn venomxbaby@live.com or AIM fallenangelbabyj i'm here for you
Honey, it sounds like you might benefit from counselling.
Forget trying to find someone new right now - you need to focus on healing from this split, not making a new relationship... You want someone to come to you ready to love you - you need to be ready to love someone else before you get into a new relationship.
First steps - talk to your doctor - perhaps you're struggling with depression that needs a temporary medication or a referral for good, sound counselling - someone whocan help you work through your grief.
Second steps - learn to be ok with who YOU are - until you're ok with you, you're not ready for a relationship. If you try to be in a relationship before you're ready, you will only be hurt again.
Now, remember: you are important - you are somebody - you matter - and you CAN get through this :) Because you're worth it!
You have some choices to make. Do you know why you broke up, and can you accept his side of it. It is your choice to not want to meet someone new, as you have not decided to move on. Until you let yourself get clear if it is 'over' with this guy, or there is still some possible future, your emotions will spin. If he says it is over for sure, and you accept that, then you life will move along. If you hear him say it is over, and do not believe him, then your life is on hold and your emotions will continue to create pressure in you that blows up into fatigue and distraction etc. It is your life, best not to let it be dependent on the whims of another person. It may help to break you out of this state, to realize that you thought he loved you, but he has done nothing to help you with the bad situation you are now in, and think hard, is that the kind of person you would trust to be with you over the long term.
should you feel that your social ststus has impaired drastically and you feel deep sad and loss of energy and self reproach ,it sounds major depression attack ,could be managed well with medications and kinda psychotherapy.
you'd better visit a psychiatrist but not psychologist
Three months talking about getting married perhpers too soon to taiwanes so i'm not gree you to do that!