I dont want to be this person anymore?!
Question: everything is always about me, Im self centered and Im selfish, if something is not about me, i dont care about it. i want attention all the time, no matter what. Im so selfish that when something is going wrong in someone else's life i get angry b/c its not about me. its like this person inside of me that knows im gonna get attention so i make up all these horrible lies and get sympathy. everything i do is for attention, even now i know im gonna get attention. i dont deserve anything. how do i stop something that is at the core of me? it doesnt go away, this voice telling me how much attention im gonna get if i do this, i just wish i could be normal, what can i do?
thanks
Answers: everything is always about me, Im self centered and Im selfish, if something is not about me, i dont care about it. i want attention all the time, no matter what. Im so selfish that when something is going wrong in someone else's life i get angry b/c its not about me. its like this person inside of me that knows im gonna get attention so i make up all these horrible lies and get sympathy. everything i do is for attention, even now i know im gonna get attention. i dont deserve anything. how do i stop something that is at the core of me? it doesnt go away, this voice telling me how much attention im gonna get if i do this, i just wish i could be normal, what can i do?
thanks
you need to learn to absorb life more. take things back a couple of notches. you don't say if your parents neglected you with love and attention and i will guess that you probably are a beautiful looking women. what can give you a good reality check is if you could go to a homeless shelter to volunteer or you can even surf the web and google websites from childrens hospitals like saint jude is a good one. see what hell these kids have to go through everyday of thier lives. this will melt your heart and give you a lot to be thankful for and really help you gain a different perspective on life. i saw a one hour special 3 weeks ago on saint jude childrens hospital they followed the story of a 10 year old boy who had cancer in his leg and had to have it amputated. they showed his reaction after the leg was amputated and he was crying and refusing to believe his leg was gone. he said he still felt it there. then they found out that the cancer had spread to his lungs and he needed extensive surgery and chemo therapy. was so sad i still tear up even as i type this. when you see people who suffer like this you will understand that your life is truly blessed and others much less fortunate than you really do deserve all the attention. you need to gain a different perspective. step back a bit and ask yourself why you do this. email me if you would like to understand your situation a bit more, there are solutions...john
no this is the best way to be
dont try to be like everyone else
being different is how youll get noticed
sure youll make some enemies on the way
but youll also ge a lot of friends
just dont go overboard
I would volunteer or help out in your community. Give back, you know? See how other people live...the elderly, disabled, and it will really put things in perspective for you, and make you feel better about yourself from the inside, so that way you will not need to seek validation from others as often...
you need to see a therapist tomorrow.
i would go to your doctor and tell him how you feel and get a referral.
you are normal. but the lies have got to stop . your going to find out your friends are fake and dont really care they just want to hear your blood stories .
i wouldnt say right off go and jump as big as to community service i would say you need to fix the problem on the inside complement a friend make her problem your problem start slow and then eventually try the big stuff
it sounds like you have narcissistic personality disorder. You need to see a therapist and work through the issues that have brought you here. This site can point you in the right direction, good luck: http://psychcentral.com/
I would suggest a trip to the doctor and maybe doing something that is not like you, giving back to the community...and then there is something you can talk about in a positive way that will have people notice you for the right reasons. Good Luck!
I had a similar problem, I used to be really shy and self conscious but I was sick of it and i wasn't a shy person inside in fact i was quite loud and open. i didn't want to suddenly change because everyone around me would judge me and think I was attention seeking or annoying which would make the situation worse. luckily I was in full time education and after a year I was moving to University where I'd meet a whole new group of people and i could start again being myself and I am much happier for it. This may be diffcult if you going to be with the smae group of people for a long time but you could gradually sort of fase it out. Perhaps start a club and be the new you at this club with a new group of people who do not know what your are normally like. Then you can get used to your new personality and gradually spread it into your whole life.
This may be difficult, but attention seekers I find are the most annoying unhonest people I come across so I think it is important for you to change and it is a good thing that you have realised it is not a good way to live. Good luck!
if you are an adult I suggest you see a psychologist to get to the root of the problem. If you are under 18 you still have a chance to learn to change this behavior on your own by learning that you can do things by yourself and for yourself, give yourself the attention you need. The world is not going to continue to cater to you, and in fact because of the population explosion now there is super competition out there in the workworld, and you will need to someday support yourself and find your own way in life as an individual rather than a "leaner". It's only in seeing the end result (the light at the end of the tunnel...the seeing ahead to see where a certain behavior would get you in the long run) that people change their habits, and once people start to ignore you because their lives are so busy that they don't have time for you that you will "take charge of your own life". Sometimes though people make no changes and end up on skid row.
I would suggest seeing a local doctor 1st, who could recommend some counselling, you may find this helps. If not, I would be seeing mental health unit, sounds scary, but its not, just seeing a different type of doctor, if that's what you need, they may be able to give medication.
You do deserve attention here, and anywhere you are, but maybe in a different way. That "voice" worries me,could be the start of something(depression), which is why I would definitely seek help, don't be afraid.
Honey, being self-centered is more normal than you think.
If you want to change this behavior, I would suggest that you find a counselor that you feel comfortable enough with to discuss some of these issues. There are places that offer sliding scale fees if you are low income (you could call your local hospital to get a referral).
My daughter is 26 years old and still thinks this way a lot of the time. My little "drama queen" has some emotional problems that need attention. She doesn't want to go for counseling. I tell her that there is nothing wrong in seeing a counselor (she/he is a nonjudgmental person who listens to you, and tries to help you overcome some of your problems).
Please go to see someone, you will feel better about yourself and other people. You will become the beautiful person you were meant to be. Good luck and take care of yourself.
You need someone to love you dearly and truly that can make you change... but he has to be tough on you and won't spoil you. You need to be truly in love with someone difficult to get. You need a doctor's advice too and real love from your parents.
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Wanting attention is way more normal than not wanting attention.