Is it social anxiety or alcoholism??!
Question: He drinks alot of alcohol and then the next day he can't be around people because he says he has anxiety. His hands also shake alot even when he hasn't drank anything and he says that it's due also to anxiety. Sometimes I think it interferes with his life. He won't go places where our friends are unless he's had a few drinks. Is he an alcoholic and using anxiety as an excuse or does he have severe social anxiety? What do you think?
Answers: He drinks alot of alcohol and then the next day he can't be around people because he says he has anxiety. His hands also shake alot even when he hasn't drank anything and he says that it's due also to anxiety. Sometimes I think it interferes with his life. He won't go places where our friends are unless he's had a few drinks. Is he an alcoholic and using anxiety as an excuse or does he have severe social anxiety? What do you think?
he's socially dependent on alcohol which is not good. if u need to drink to be around people that is bad. i would think he has more of a severe anxiety problem then being an alcoholic. he probably needs to be put on a medication if he is shaking and he has that much trouble being around people. the smaller chance that if he is an alcohlic and you would know better than me if he is, you do get the shakes whenever ur not drinking bc when ur an alcoholic u drink so much that your body need the alcohol to not shake and when your body is in withdrawal when ur not drinking u do shake. but i would say it has more to do with anxiety. he needs to see a psychologist and a psychiatrist.
It might be some mild social anxiety. I think that the few drinks help him losen up. It depends on his actions. I deal with an alcoholic they use exuses all the time. You have to read his body language
Everyone feels nervous or anxious once in awhile. Usually, the feeling is related to something happening in the person's life - an upcoming job interview or a speech to a large audience and it goes away when life is back to normal again. This type of anxiety does not need medical treatment. But some people feel anxious almost all the time, or they respond to slightly stressful events with feelings that are out of proportion to the actual situation. The constant anxiety, irrational worries, and sense of impending doom can seriously interfere with their daily lives. For people with such intense or prolonged anxiety, Anti-anxiety Drugs can help bring their feelings under control and reduce bothersome symptoms such as pounding heartbeat, breathing problems, irritability, nausea, and faintness.
your bf may be having either a phobia or a disease called OCD.
remedy: Alprazolam, Chlordiazepoxide, Lorazepam, Buspirone(best anti-anxiety drug)
the alcohol is causing the symptoms of anxiety, a typical withdrawal symptom... the problem is that he is a severe alcoholic, not drinking for even a little while makes him shiver and shake. He isn't lying about having anxiety, but most of it is from the effects of severe alcoholism. Keep in mind that the people who drink all the time who never appear to ever get drunk are the traditional alcoholics, you only need to see him shake and shiver to really be aware of its effects.
My dad was an alcholic (it finally killed him), his second wife (my parents divorced over his drinking) never thought of him as an alcoholic until she caught him sneaking trips to the barn (they lived on a farm) in the middle of the night to drink beer. She said if he can't even sleep for eight hours without having to wake up half way through to drink beer, then he definately has a problem.
I know from experience its alcoholism. He is felling anxiety from drinking because he is stressed out about hiding the fact that he drinks. He can't go to social settings without a drink. Does he drink alone? Does he drink everyday? Does he binge drink? Always rationalizing? Lies to people, especially himself? If you answer any of these questions yes he's got a problem and needs help. I will advise you this if he doesn't want help don't push him into it. It will do no good. Ask him if he thinks he has a problem and see if he'll consider getting help. If he wants help be supportive and encourage him. Good luck.
hes an alcoholic. the anxiety he feels is due to believing that he is a better person when he drinks. what hes doing is trying to escape from himself by drinking. im the exact same way. ive been sober now for a short amount of time and this is my m.o. for sure. maybe he has some type of severe social anxiety that nobody but a doctor can diagnose but, most commonly its simply alcoholism. he needs to want help before he can actually be helped. good luck.
I was in the same boat once (but using another substance). I finally had to give it up because of drug testing. It was hard at first because I lost the only crutch I had to deal with those situations, but I was forced into seeing that it was anxiety. I was put on medication, and gradually became more comftorable with larger crowds. Drugs are an easy crutch to lean on, but life is much better with independence. The person that has the crutch is the only person in the world that MUST know this to be true in order for change to occur. He is the ONLY one that can know. I wish the best for both of you. Concerned constructive communication might be a good rout to go. Please let me know if you have any more questions.