Why does my daughter talk to herself?!
Question: My daughter is 11 and likes to act out what she sees on tv or movies. She talks to herself at school and other kids think she is weird. The teachers have mentioned it a few times and they are concerened with other students making fun of her. She tells herself jokes outloud and laughs by herself. When I ask her why she does it, she says I don't know.
She is quiet, shy and only has one good friend. She has trouble making friends too. I was shy when I was young, but I don't remember talking to myself. Should I be concered?
Answers: My daughter is 11 and likes to act out what she sees on tv or movies. She talks to herself at school and other kids think she is weird. The teachers have mentioned it a few times and they are concerened with other students making fun of her. She tells herself jokes outloud and laughs by herself. When I ask her why she does it, she says I don't know.
She is quiet, shy and only has one good friend. She has trouble making friends too. I was shy when I was young, but I don't remember talking to myself. Should I be concered?
She needs to be assessed by a psychologist - not because she's mentally ill, but because this is a symptom of certain learning disorders, like a nonverbal learning disorder or perhaps Asperger's. The diagnostic testing that a psychologist does involves IQ testing, personality testing, and things along those lines. She'll be OK, but she'll be even better if she gets the accommodations she might need.
If you're concerned talk to her doctor about it or find a child therapist she can talk to. It's possible she's just lonely and is having a hard time making friends, so a result she talks to herself. It could also be that she has an "imaginery friend" that she's talking to but to embarrassed to admit to you.
Your best would be to talk to her doctor about it and maybe get him/her to talk her. Or better a child therapist, someone that she doesn't feel threatend talking to.
Hope that helps
I'm no expert but i do feel for you. Try having her evaluated. It might just be her personality. My daughter is 5 now, but up until last year she rarely played with other kids at school and was very happy being alone, i was very concerned because i am a very out going person; I also took into account that she is an only child. I hope everything works out, God Bless!
are you outgoing and talk to lots of friends? kids learn by example. i am very outgoing and so is my wife so our kids are very (too) chatty and talkative.
We are all different and kids have great imaginations. keep your eyes peeled for abnormal behavior that could be dangerous, but other than that, enjoy her cool, quirky imagination and encourage her individuality!
maybe she is gettin out of mind!!
just a kiddin! dont worry most of girls become crazy at these ages.
talk to her and ask the cause.
or go to pshychologist to make sure shell be ok
Hmm this is a tricky one
At 11 there's a chance that a peer of hers will say things - hurtful things at that because, as you know, it is unusual for a child her age to talk to herself. Left on its own, this problem won't go away, she may eventually grow out of it but ideally you will want this issue to go away now. Your best bet is to talk to your doctor who should be able to make a referall to a child behaviour specialist. In the mean time maybe talk to your daughter again but instead of asking "do you talk to yourself?" ask things like "who are your friends at school?" or "what do you really enjoy doing at break time" she may then let something slip about the problem or if you hear her talking to herself ask her who she's talking to, but dont push it if she says no one(i think there;s a good chance she has an imaginary friend like the other person who posted a message said)
Good Luck , Hope you can get this sorted
I still talk to myself and I'm old. I'm the only person who will really listen to me. I can see how it could be a problem at school. Get her a portable tape recorder and she can pretend to be recording something for her own TV show when people question talking to herself.
She may be hearing voices. You need to get her to A doctor right away.
It sounds to me like your daughter is rather bright and imaginative, although very introspective, and quite possibly lonely. It's not a bad thing to talk to yourself, as such. Many children talk to themselves and make up stories out loud. As they get older, they may continue to talk to themselves, silently-- but if they are particularly engrossed in the conversation or story, they may inadvertently speak out loud.
Actually, lots of grownups talk to themselves. I know I do-- and my father does, particularly when he's working out the details of a complicated repair project. The trick is to keep it at a mostly incomprehensible mutter, which comes with practice.
I don't think it's really necessary to make her STOP talking to herself. Just help her address the volume issue.