Is there anyone else who cuts and...?!
Question: i have been using self harming in many different ways for years, and while i have accepted that it was me and my way of dealing with things, i get tired of other ppl making comments and criticisms when they do not understand the situation or have the right to make the comments in the first place.
does anyone have any ideas on how to either ignore them or deal with the comments?
i don't need their criticisms, i pass enough on myself as it is.
Answers: i have been using self harming in many different ways for years, and while i have accepted that it was me and my way of dealing with things, i get tired of other ppl making comments and criticisms when they do not understand the situation or have the right to make the comments in the first place.
does anyone have any ideas on how to either ignore them or deal with the comments?
i don't need their criticisms, i pass enough on myself as it is.
I would cut my area by my knee to deal with really bad problems, but after awhile I grew out of it and am pretty satisfied with life right now. But another thing what you do is your opinion, and your business alone, and I think if you yourself have come to terms with cutting being your release, I'm pretty sure you can come to terms with what anybody may say to you about it. I hope you dont hurt yourself for much longer. :)
How about the obvious answer here: stop harming yourself.
im sorry that this is happing to you! i have a very close friend who used to cut she was under a lot of prsure for school and she got some help and meds and got done w/ it but for now try talking about it to sombody it helps me when i have a problem........somebody you really really turst and knows how to listen..
you dont need to harm yourself. as bad as you think life is, theres always an answer. God loves you and values you so much. so much that he sent his son to DIE for you.
i hope you find Him.
with people that critisize you, they just dont understand how hard it really is, and how dependant you become on self injury (SI). when you are going to tell someone that you si, i would make sure that you trust them, and dont go around telling everyone. If you tell the wrong person, you could get into huge trouble. Now the only reason im not going off about you shouldnt be cutting blah blah blah, is becuase i know what your going through.. and i know how it feels when people shoot you down. You should really consider stopping though.. use a different method when you feel like cutting.. try putting an elastic band around your wrist and snapping it when you get the urge. It will really help then eventually you wont need to harm yourself anymore, and you can go on living your life. Its not impossible to stop SI, but the longer you do it the more dependant of it you become.
hope this helps.
xox, Jackie.
You can't ignore or deal with it. People obviousley love you and care for you, that's why they're going to criticize you and make comments. Even for the persons that don't know you , every one has a big heart and wants you to get better. Dont injure yourself, try talking to someone about and really opening your feelings and no it doesn't have to be a pyshcologist or any of that it can be anyone.
Ignore other people--they will always find ways to be critical of one thing or another. You never will be able to please everybody all the time and you shouldn"t try.
What you should do is try to find more productive ways to deal with your frustrations. This can be extremely difficult to do on your own. Sometimes talking to the right counselor will be just the support you need to explore alternative behavioral pathways that will enable you to deal with things in a way that makes you feel better about yourself. You don't always have to accept things the way they are.
I used to self harm (cut). I no longer do. But I do know how irritating/frustrating it is with peoples comments and stares. I used to love swimming and stopped due to my self harm. Then decided one day, why? Let them stare. Let them comment. Let them ask. It will do your confidence way loads good to answer. Remind people that it is simply a way of coping. It may not be the "normal" way or the way society considers "okay". but so what? Is popping a prozac to cope with life okay? everyone seems to think so... you just cope another way. I guess I havent helped. But people criticise that they dont understand or are afraid of. Its not easy I know. My heart goes out to you. Just remember the first time you respond to their criticism it is hard. But trust me it gets EASIER. I still have scars and people still stare. And when they do I just stare back and smile. If kids ask what they are I tell them I was attacked by a shark or something equally fantastical and exciting and they usually go WOW... Im proud of my scars. It reminds me of a time of my life that was hard, but I coped (in my own way) and pulled through. So I dont care what the rest of the world thinks. No one is perfect. Take care and good luck
This is a difficult question, personally I am a firm believer in people minding their own buisness unless you bring them into it. However the majority of people always judge books by their cover and have no clue as to what is really going on.
I have had the urge to "Bleed so I know i am alive" but at the same time you have to take into consideration from a realistic standpoint and ask yourself why you do it and if it is the best way to handle issues.
Self Mutilation is never a good idea, you never know if you will hit that right spot and leave home in a body bag. I suggest speaking with a counselor about whatever problems you may have, I know that doesnt sound to appealing but being analized mentally may just give you the answer you are looking for.
Good luck.
People often pass judgements quickly on things that they don't understand or something that they see that disturbs them. That does not necessarily mean that they have the right to make direct hurtful comments to you, but maybe try to understand where they are coming from also. The people that make these comments may say things out of concern for you and recognize your behavior as unusual to what they can handle.
I do not assume to know what you are going through and why you may feel the urge to harm yourself. I don't know why cutting yourself would make you feel better, but I suspect you do-as a coping mechanism.
Not only are you hurting yourself physically, but emotionally.Please get some help with a trained mental health physician and they can direct you to be able to better cope.
its there opinion, dont let it go to your head. there trying to hurt you and its probobly true they dont understand your feelings and so just dont lisen there trying to get inside your head. or just report them so they wont hurt anyone else.
its really sad that you feel you have to cut yourself and do harm to yourself.. have you ever thought of getting some counseling to stop this... I know someone who did this too... they are better now.. its a shame that people have to make comments to you about this,,, it is not any of there business.. you are right.. but please try to get better..
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I know what you mean. I also feel upset, angry, hurt and frustrated sometimes by the comments people make. Most of the time it is possible to just brush those comments off but at other times they really get to me. The general attitude towards self injury of people who know nothing about it really annoys me at times.
How to deal with the commens depends on who is making them and how they are affecting you I think. If people you don't know make negative comments, either online or around you in person I would try to just ignore them. Take a deep breathe, count to ten and remind yourself that they are speaking in absolute ignorance. Since they don't know what they are talking about, you don't have to listen to what they are saying or deal with at all.
It's harder to ignore if comments are coming from people you know or care about, such as family or someone who should know what they are talking about, such as a DR. Even with the best of intentions, a close friend can say something hurtful, even if what they are really trying to do is help. I have noticed this more than once with my boyfriend, because he doesn't understand some of the things he says (like 'just stop) end up making me feel awful. To rememdy this, I gave him some literature on self injury. It has helped a lot. When met with ignorance, education is the best way forward.
In the case of therapists, Dr's etc. Unless they are a professional who specialises or often works with self inury, try not to take such comments too much to heart. Instead, find out about finding a new therapist or at least explain how their comments or attitude make you feel.
That's about all the advice I can offer and I know it's not much. I mainly just wanted to say I understand where you are coming from. The last thing you need to deal with and carry around with you is other people's misapprehensions of self injury, or their criticism of it.
i self harm too,your not alone
just tell them your cat/dog scratched them
if not say gardening or make up a story
also use foundation to cover the cuts/scars
i found after a few years just telling the truth is better
they may not understand but yes people are different
wear long sleaved tee shirts all year round
they have no right to criticise you,tell them that
also if your interested i flick my wrists with rubber bands which takes away the need to cut for a little while
hope this helps
You are correct... cutting is just like any other addiction. And like many other addictions, it is a dangerous addiction to have, as (like most other addictions), it can be over done with deadly results.
Do NOT except that this is "just the way you are", because cutting is NOT a normal activity. I am not being judgemental by saying so, I am being straightforward and honest.
Like any other addiction, you can get help. The thing is, you have to want to be helped. In my experience, cutting is a way to "deal with things" by getting attention from other people. Now, tell me... do you want attention because you "deal with things" by cutting yourself? Or do you want attention by being the REAL you... a person that does not beg for attention by self inflicting injury?
Good luck with that. I hope you find the REAL you, soon.