Should I change my AA sponsor?!
Question: Offhandedly I have thought about it a couple times and she has been my sponsor for a few months now and she is the first I have ever had. Sometimes I feel like she is hard to get a hold of or if I do she is kinda out the door or something and I detect that in her voice so I kinda refrain from what Im having to say. What also kinda bothers me is that her story only relates to mine so far. I understand they dont have to be exactly the same but I guess I want someone who can understand the things that are important to me. I almost relapsed this week so Im not trying to blame it on her but when it was hard to get in touch with her it made me think a little maybe its time for a change. Let me know what you think.
Answers: Offhandedly I have thought about it a couple times and she has been my sponsor for a few months now and she is the first I have ever had. Sometimes I feel like she is hard to get a hold of or if I do she is kinda out the door or something and I detect that in her voice so I kinda refrain from what Im having to say. What also kinda bothers me is that her story only relates to mine so far. I understand they dont have to be exactly the same but I guess I want someone who can understand the things that are important to me. I almost relapsed this week so Im not trying to blame it on her but when it was hard to get in touch with her it made me think a little maybe its time for a change. Let me know what you think.
Yeah, get a new sponsor. You have to do whats best for you, and it sounds like she isn't it. Its no fault of hers, and I'm sure she will understand. Some people's position just doesn't match well.
Sounds like you need a different sponsor ... for your sponsor to help ,you both have to be on the same page
I think you have the right idea. I've never dealt with AA on a personal basis, but have friends that have, and I think that a person newer to the program might benefit more from a sponsor further along in their own journey. You can always pass the torch when it's your turn. It also kind of sounds like she may just be extremely busy, but as a sponsor she has to try to make time.
Change your sponser quick, I would leave her but you need someone to be there at 90% of the time you call. You know maybe she put to much on her own plate to handle. That and you need someone thats been close to the same situation as you have. I would start calling now.
Get a new sponsor, if her heart is in the right place she will not be offended, but if she is, she'll get over it. Your sobrity is more important than her feelings.
No one can tell you if you should change your AA sponsor- are you staying clean is she helping you to stay clean- is it you do not like what she is saying and it is really tough to do what she is asking- If it is truly you can not reach her or you are calling her every two seconds think you need to take some responsibility in your own sobriety.
After you have asked yourself the question she is not there for you then you may want to think to yourself about maybe switching sponsors- This is your sobriety You need to keep it
Please your life is important do not loose keep fighting the fight