Help will i be messed up?!
Question: i was malested twice once when i was 5 and once when i was 8, the first one by my 11yr old cusin (at the time) and the second time by a 16 yr old (@ the time) friend of family. both times i was threatened to be killed if i didn't give and recive hand jobs. because they did this to me when i was little does that mean i will be meesed up in the future? also does this mean that something like that happned to them witch gave them the idea to do it to me? do i have to have therapy? because i really don't want to.
Answers: i was malested twice once when i was 5 and once when i was 8, the first one by my 11yr old cusin (at the time) and the second time by a 16 yr old (@ the time) friend of family. both times i was threatened to be killed if i didn't give and recive hand jobs. because they did this to me when i was little does that mean i will be meesed up in the future? also does this mean that something like that happned to them witch gave them the idea to do it to me? do i have to have therapy? because i really don't want to.
Honey I think you got it togather all you got to do is put all of these behind you. Those ***-h!!! will get theirs one of these days and it won't be nice. If your not to old then tell your mother what happen and you don't want to be anywhere around those guys. Your keep your head up, you did not do anything wrony. Sorry for what you had to endear and I hope God will watch over you. My prays are with you.
I highly doubt, that if you get some help now to talk it over to someone then you wouldn't be messed up. You control you and nothing else. I know those things can scarr you mentally so i would see a physicatrist, it would help soothe your mind!
I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm not a professional but I believe you may have some problems with relationships in the future. You may have some sexual problems as well. It's not your fault at all, and unfortunately what your family did to you is something you're going to have to fix in order to be a healthy individual. I would definitely suggest getting therapy as soon as you can.
Don't be afraid of it, talking to someone who knows what they're doing can be a very good investment to your health. If you don't like it or the professional is not helping, or if you find you cannot express yourself well with this person, then find someone else. You need someone on the outside to guide you in your life, so you can make sound and safe decisions in the future. Please don't think you'll be "messed up", everyone can be fixed, you just have to be determined to do so. Good luck.
thats terrible to hear but its good that your aware of the possible psychological affects this can have later on in life but by the sounds of it you will be fine we all have our demons & crosses to bear but its how you make peace with them that counts & in this case it was'nt your fault!!!
You need to evaluate how you feel. Since you are asking this question, it sounds like it might be really bothering you or if you were just worried and wonder why they molested you?
People molest for different reasons, but yes I think you are right they were probably molested too or abused in some way.Threatening to kill someone they molest, they are dangerous minds.
If it seems to bother you alot, (possible nightmares, fear, relationship problems, depression) I would talk to a professional to help you understand what happened and why.
If you don't want to talk to a professional, talk to a family member, good friend, pastor, counselor. It might feel good just to talk about it.
Some people are able to just forget these things and go on leading normal lives, so it does not mean that you will be messed up.
Sad this happens to alot of kids, I'm sorry it happened to you.