How do i get my partner??????!
Question: how do i get my partner to go to rehab, i think he needs to go but i dont know how to get him there.what are some ways to do this????????
Answers: how do i get my partner to go to rehab, i think he needs to go but i dont know how to get him there.what are some ways to do this????????
The best way is to perform what is called an intervention. That is where family members, friends, and perhaps even an addiction therapist/counselor and maybe even clergy will participate in letting your partner know that he/she has some serious, self-destructive addiction issues.
Please be advised that your partner is going to absolutely hate you for this. Maybe not forever, but definitely while he/she is in the *hot seat* and everyone who loves him/her is saying that he/she has a serious problem and that help is available.
Some who are addicted can laugh this off, and tell you that they only have a drink or two to relax, a toke to destress, or only take the prescription pills as needed. If your partner is anything like my brother, he will charm his way out of it, leaving you holding the bag, and him angry with you.
I've participated in three interventions in my life. One with my brother who is an alcoholic (and still is, and still to this day denies it despite periodic rehab & DUI's), another with my ex-husband who became addicted to crack, and for all I know, still is, and the third with a great girlfriend, who was married and addicted to crack, and just really getting totally out of control. I would like to say that her intervention was a success. She completed rehab and never went back to drugs, knowing that she was powerless over them. She knows also that she has her family and friends for support.
I would not perform an intervention without first speaking with a qualified addiction therapist/counselor/clergy member. These are extremely emotional and traumatic events for all (except those trained to be professional and keep it objective, i.e. the counselors, etc.).
Another option you may consider is just talking to your partner, and offering to go to a meeting with him/her. There is Alcoholic's Anonymous for alcohol, and Narcotics Anonymous for drugs, and even Nicotine Anonymous, for cigarette smokers. You could even include the ultimatum, that if you don't attend these meetings and stop destroying yourself, I can no longer be with you and watch you hurt yourself. It is toxic to our love, and most certainly toxic to you. This didn't work with me and my ex, but I'm glad, because he was a goner by then anyway, and not worth the time and effort. It ripped my heart out, but there was no way I was going to let my child be exposed to his addiction.
Finally, search the web for addiction medicine sites, or type in the particular form of addiction, for more information.
Good luck to you, and I certainly hope that you find a solution. It must really hurt to be on the computer on Valentine's Day posting this. I know, because I've been there.
maybe take that Amy Winehouse song off their iPod...
You can try getting the family, and those he will take notice of, together, and present a united front, urging him to go.
Try tellin him all the luxeries in there like spas!