What is the reason for living if all the things in life are bad?!
Question: I have 3 kids, I have a family and a husband. BUt my family isnt as loving as normal familys are.so judgmentl, my kids are great but they are so hard to handle, my husband hates me i think. All of the world all they wanna do is kill each other, I have brought my kids into a world that they are going to suffer in. I have nightmares everynight about life. What is there really to be happy for? I dont know ever since i was a kid i was dreaming about death, but i have so many fears of things that i could use to die. so i used to pray that i would get a terminal illness that i would die , now i have an illness that wont kill me but will make me miserable for the rest of my life. so now it is much worse. i dont know what to do. i need help real bad but i can not afford the help. What do I do?
Answers: I have 3 kids, I have a family and a husband. BUt my family isnt as loving as normal familys are.so judgmentl, my kids are great but they are so hard to handle, my husband hates me i think. All of the world all they wanna do is kill each other, I have brought my kids into a world that they are going to suffer in. I have nightmares everynight about life. What is there really to be happy for? I dont know ever since i was a kid i was dreaming about death, but i have so many fears of things that i could use to die. so i used to pray that i would get a terminal illness that i would die , now i have an illness that wont kill me but will make me miserable for the rest of my life. so now it is much worse. i dont know what to do. i need help real bad but i can not afford the help. What do I do?
All things in life aren't bad.
What's a normal family? Many people are judgmental, that is their problem, not yours. There is no such thing as the normal family.
Having a family, kids, and a husband aren't bad things.
Kids can be tough sometimes.
It's up to you to make sure your kids aren't going to suffer. And suffer how? Teach them how to survive, how to plan for their future. If you don't know, learn about it yourself.
Most of the world is just trying to get by, they aren't trying to kill each other. You have the Internet, some people don't have a home or food. Yes some terrible things are happening. But out of the 6 billion people on the planet most are not angry with others.
There's plenty of things to be happy for. If you aren't taking advantage of it that is your fault. Kids can make you laugh, they keep you young, enjoy them, play with them.
How would your death help anyone? Okay, you'd be dead, that's it. Your family would then be without you.
You need a break. Some time to yourself, get yourself together.
It's how we overcome and deal with things that makes us strong. That gives us self-confidence. With self-confidence we can do anything.
Don't blame yourself for things you had nothing do with. If people are fighting in a war somewhere that isn't your fault.
Turn the TV off. Go outside, look at the sky. Take a walk. Do something for yourself, new hairstyle, change of schedule, anything to shake things up.
The world can be a wonderful place, full of beauty and fun. You need only seek it out. Ask yourself if the "bad" things are truly that bad.
No, it's not perfect. But the world is not a rotting cesspool of misery.
there are many thereapist that will see you and charge a sliding scale depending on your income. also many churches offer free counseling. It is worth a try, sounds like you are pretty down in the dumps. Good Luck.
talk to a friend sit the family down and see if there isnt a way to work things out speak out
you need to get some professional help I know cause I have depression also
get some help you will feel better
You need to get some counseling to straighten out your thinking. Life is not all bad. Life is good and sometimes not so good. Everyone has bad times.
You can ask your doctor or call around to find out where you can get counseling on a sliding scale basis. That means that the counselor will only charge according to your income.
Call a women's center for advice on a counselor or ask your regular doctor for a recommendation. If you are a church goer, ask your pastor for help.
Most important of all, don't have any more children. Sounds like you have enough to handle.
You might be overwhelm with all these responsbilities that's why it's hard for you. Did you tell your husband how you feel?
I thought husbands suppose to be best friend
anyways, where I live there is a therapy that costs only 10 dollars but it depends on your income, the money can raise or pay less or not pay at all
Oke i know this will sound selfish but what else you got to do?
tell them i am going to take break, have some vocation make travel around the world, can't afford it?? tell them going on vocation and hire any apartment and try living there alone for month, you will miss your kids, because once you bring them to world they are part of you, even if they treat you bad they don't mean it, about your husband what would make him hates you ? don't let this ideas get into your mind, perhaps you leave the kids at your mother's house, or any relative you trust them on your kids, and take the vocation with your husband, i know life sux and alot of suffering but you should be able to work everything out, just have faith and hope, and i hope your life gets better.
Take Care
Its all about adidtude" i cant spell. But if you get up in the mornig and say your going to have agood day you probably will. But if wake up in the morning and say ohh my god i hate my life youll have a bad day. Ok so my mom and dad own a businse and they work like 12 hours everyday. My dad gets up and is pissed cause he has to go to work. But my mom wakes up and she is not pissed that she has to go to work and she has a good mood she says she is going to have a good day. So my dad most of the time has bad days and my mom has good days because of this reason
Your not the only one feeling this way, I know that may not
be comforting to you but your not alone. Many people feel
trapped in their daily life. The world is sometimes a terrible
mess and you need to remind yourself that happiness is
also waiting for you. Your holding yourself back by not seeking some type of help. There are medications you can
take that will make you feel differently about everything.
You seem to be very depressed. We all go through times
like that and what ever you need to do to get past it is only
going to be a good thing. See your family doctor and get
on some medication. Don't be affended by that. It will help
you, I promise.