Is my life ruined?!
Question: I'm 28 years old and i live with my 25 year old girlfriend and her parents. I have no drivers license due to my anxiety. No health insurance, not many friends and no savings. The past 8 years of my life have been one depressing moment after another.
Sometimes i feel like i'm a failure. My brother is one year older then me and he has the american dream going on. I find myself moving from one crappy job to another. Getting involved in relationships where drugs are a key part to our entertainment.
My credit is bad, and i may have a child support case soon. I don't really speak to any of my family, except for my mom every other weekend or so. What can i do? I feel lost and hopeless.
Answers: I'm 28 years old and i live with my 25 year old girlfriend and her parents. I have no drivers license due to my anxiety. No health insurance, not many friends and no savings. The past 8 years of my life have been one depressing moment after another.
Sometimes i feel like i'm a failure. My brother is one year older then me and he has the american dream going on. I find myself moving from one crappy job to another. Getting involved in relationships where drugs are a key part to our entertainment.
My credit is bad, and i may have a child support case soon. I don't really speak to any of my family, except for my mom every other weekend or so. What can i do? I feel lost and hopeless.
No, your life is not ruined at all.
It just simply needs more improvement.
You have a girlfriend who cares about you, and also their parents' support.
You have a mother who willingly listens to you.
And I'm sure there are still other things you seem to be unaware of them.
You're just too full of unpleasant feelings and judgements about yourself.
You shouldn't be, you know.
And you don't seem to value yourself so much.
There are things about yourself that seem so much to depress you. Those can't just ruin your life.
No, Frank. Life doesn't get ruined that way.
Life is ruined when you just don't pay any attention to it, when you become so apathy toward yourself.
Life is ruined when you fail to notice bad things happened to you, or just you don't care about them anyway.
It's now that you ask a question and feel the need to listen to what people think about you, you're not ruining your life.
Instead, you're just in the very first process to improve the quality of your life.
Don't you realize about that?
You MAY feel like a failure.
But you MUST know that you're not a failure.
That failure we are talking about is not the failure after one shot.
Thomas Alva Edison didn't stop trying even when he failed thousand times.
And you know what? He finally succeeded!
And don't you know that the more you taste bitter while working on something is the more sweet you'll taste when you finally succeed working on that thing?
Bitter things, bad things, painful things in this life are just somethings to motivate yourself to fight on until finally tasting sweet, to improve yourself to be a better person, and the pains are just how you'll get even stronger.
Those are things that make us to value happiness and success more. And when you start to value happiness and success more, you just become more motivated to seize those.
Imagine a person who never feels the bitter, bad, and painful things.
Smile now, you're just unbelievebly luckier than them that you have somethings to make you grow maturer and better than them.
And remember, you're not the only one who feels that way. There are million of people out there who feels exactly like you. I did too.
*hug*
You're not lost, Frank.
You just can't see any light that you haven't opened your eyes yet.
Once you open your eyes, you'll see the light, you'll see the way and you'll just realize that the darkness was just because the closed lids.
And you're not hopeless, Frank.
Please don't say how much in pain you are that you can't even breathe, when you're just barely attempting to breathe.
Let's start over. Let's improve.
There are many people I'm sure will listen to you if you want to talk, especially the one who once felt the same way that you do.
And remember, you won't really succeed in making friend unless you succeed to make yourself a friend of yours.
Try to love and value yourself more, Frank.
Please be positive.
Have faith in yourself. And be improved.
I know you know that you can do that.
There is hope in every fright.
And there is light in every night.
With love,
dian pramesti a.k.a.