I'm an extremely jealous/comtrolling girlfriend. Need help please?!


Question: I have some major jealousy and control issues.. no matter how hard I try to relax, it always gets the best of me. When I'm with my boyfriend and girls come on t.v, if there is a girl in the car beside us, at the store, wherever, I just get so angry and say things along the lines of "stop looking at that girl, as*hole." It's a constant thing since I live with my boyfriend. I really make it impossible to go anywhere (or even watch movies) together without getting pissed off. It's weird because around everyone else I'm always super nice.. and when i'm not being jeleous, i'm very sweet to my boyfriend. I know I have self-esteem problems, and i'm also very shy. My boyfriend tells me i'm beautiful all the time, but I constantly put myself down..(i have struggled with bulimia since i was young, was raped a couple years ago by someone very close to me).


Answers: I have some major jealousy and control issues.. no matter how hard I try to relax, it always gets the best of me. When I'm with my boyfriend and girls come on t.v, if there is a girl in the car beside us, at the store, wherever, I just get so angry and say things along the lines of "stop looking at that girl, as*hole." It's a constant thing since I live with my boyfriend. I really make it impossible to go anywhere (or even watch movies) together without getting pissed off. It's weird because around everyone else I'm always super nice.. and when i'm not being jeleous, i'm very sweet to my boyfriend. I know I have self-esteem problems, and i'm also very shy. My boyfriend tells me i'm beautiful all the time, but I constantly put myself down..(i have struggled with bulimia since i was young, was raped a couple years ago by someone very close to me).

you know this is a sure fire way of losing him...just because two people are together doesn't mean they stop being an individual...you need to realize this person has put up with you for four years this way...obviously he adores you...and is with you....you may need some therapy to help you through this issue..do it before you lose this special guy of yours..

Find a good therapist, they can really help you with this.

Your problem has got a lot to do with self esteem, and how low yours is. It's a common problem, I'm afraid. It would really help you to meet with a counselor to discuss this and how you can raise your self esteem. A good book is "Recovering Womens' Self Esteem" - it's on Amazon.

well, he obviously loves you and thinks you're sexy, if he didnt he wouldnt be with you for 4 years...also, you are very insecure. Your boyfriend never cheated, so you dont have a reason to be jealous.

Sounds like you could use some work in therapy. You'll have a lot of feelings left over from being sexually abused and probably there were some things that happened (emotionally) when you wer growing up. Also sounds like you know that your reactions aren't helping your relationship. Until those issues are brought out in a caring and helpful relationship (like with a skilled therapist) then they will keep getting in the way of the kind of trusting relationship that you deserve.

keep it up he'll leave and you will no longer have this problem





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