Please help! Ive never really talked with anyone else about this before??!


Question: Ok, so I am 16 and I have had OCD since I was 9 years old. I struggle with it a lot and have tried medicine, but I also have intense anxiety about taking prescriptions. I am trying to cope with it as much as possible but I worry about everything. Is OCD rare?

One more question- So me and my ex boyfriend had sex. a lot of the time I didnt want to but he would get so angry with me that i would. I was much younger and it would hurt really bad MOST of the time( not all). I am VERY ashamed of the things we did seeing I was very young.my new boyfriend who I have been with for about 7 months asked me about it and i told him what had happened and how ashamed i was of it. He asked me if i liked it and i told him no. Now I feel so uncontrolaly guilty about "lying" to my bf because it didnt ALWAYS not feel good. Please help me. If you have OCD, what do you do during these times? and please be serious. thank you.


Answers: Ok, so I am 16 and I have had OCD since I was 9 years old. I struggle with it a lot and have tried medicine, but I also have intense anxiety about taking prescriptions. I am trying to cope with it as much as possible but I worry about everything. Is OCD rare?

One more question- So me and my ex boyfriend had sex. a lot of the time I didnt want to but he would get so angry with me that i would. I was much younger and it would hurt really bad MOST of the time( not all). I am VERY ashamed of the things we did seeing I was very young.my new boyfriend who I have been with for about 7 months asked me about it and i told him what had happened and how ashamed i was of it. He asked me if i liked it and i told him no. Now I feel so uncontrolaly guilty about "lying" to my bf because it didnt ALWAYS not feel good. Please help me. If you have OCD, what do you do during these times? and please be serious. thank you.

I personally believe that everyone has a bit of ocd tenedicies. Being in college, I'm around people constantly and see things that they do. I DO have OCD, and I've learned to cope with it and accept it. Try not to let it get you down... hopefully as you get older, it'll get better. As I've gotten old, it's gotten a little less severe.

I also understand the whole sex issue... When you are comfortable enough with your current boyfriend you will be able to completely openly admit to your feelings... If you don't feel comfortable discussing sex with your boyfriend then dont. I lost my virginity when I was 16 and at the time I saw my self being a full fledged adult but now looking back I realize that I wasn't ready... just make sure to ALWAYS remain true to yourself... if you're true to yourself then you wont go wrong. I promise :)

Hi, I would recommend counselling and during therapy you can deal with both the OCD and the negative sexual experiences you have had. You must have been very young because you say you are only sixteen now and even sixteen is too young to engage in sexual relationships.

You take care of yourself and remember that it is ALWAYS ok to say NO to sex if you don't feel ready. Don't ever feel pressured again. You are too special for that!

there's this med for OCD called Luvox. Man, it works great. As far as your BF goes, be honest but set boundaries. If they leave because you are not comfortable with having sex than you will know that he was not there for you. A good man won't pressure you. Husbands get turned down sometimes too. Your BF needs to understand that you need to be comfortable. If he does not care about your comfort he don't care about you and he is immature. He is only out for himself and will take take take.

you need to talk to someone.

I have it and you just need to go with it. This is who you are and true people will not deny you because of it. The sex thing sounds like something different. Maybe its low self esteem or your feeling bad about yourself because you have OCD.So you try to make yourself feel better by making someone Else feel better.

OCD is not uncommon and there are medications to help treat it. You can educate yourself about the medications and that may help relieve some of the anxiety. I would recommend counseling as well.

Which brings me to your second point...


What you described between you and your former boyfriend sounds like abuse. It's normal and understandable to have some conflicting feelings about it, but it is NOT normal for someone to use anger or violence to convince their partner to have sex. You need to talk to a counselor as well as a doctor. Please get screened for STDs.

Just tell your boyfriend that you do like sex but you said "no" when he asked if you liked it because you were afraid you would get hurt again and hated it with your ex because of the pain.

i don't know about ocd, but i do know you are a victim of emotional and sexual abuse, and you should see a therapist. you will have a very hard time having a normal sexual relationship, ever in your life, if you don't find someone to help you deal with your feelings of fear, guilt, and shame. the sooner you get started, the better. you should not be having sex until you deal with your issues, and you should be honest with your bf that you've been hurt by what happened to you before, and you just don't feel comfortable doing that right now. if he really loves you, he'll be happy with whatever you feel comfortable with. at 16, though, most boys need their relationships to include sex, so don't be surprised if he breaks up with you. good luck.

As far as OCD, I don't have Obsessive Compulsive "disorder" I have obsessive compulsive "behavior" which is similar except it doesn't interfere with my everyday life. Like there are a lot of things that I have to do or somethings that people do that drive me crazy, but I am able to not freak out about it. My father has it and his mother has it and my mother has the tendencies, so part of it is genetic.

I'm assuming that because you've tried medication that you have actually been diagnosed with OCD. Anxiety is often accompanied with it. Therapy is your best bet. Most good Dr's don't want to prescribe medication right off hand.

As far as your other question, did you tell your ex no? If you did that's rape. It doesn't matter if he was your boyfriend, if you say no whether it felt good or not, it's still rape. If you do choose to find someone to talk to then I would also bring this up. They can help you to not feel bad about it and know it wasn't your fault.





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