I'm a 13 year old and i am so confused???!


Question: I am super shy and self consious. I was saved afew years ago then sadly committed blasphemy. Since then God has told almost ALL of my christian teachers about me. I'm not sure what though. I know because there's always been atleast once where I encountered my christian teacher staring at me with a dissapointed look. One of my christian teachers that i lusted after :-( also said something about lust and at the end of the sentence he looked straight at me..... All of this stress caused me to cut myself afew days ago. Now I'm afraid of what god has told them. I'm also super timid and shy in my last class because it gives my christian student teahcer a chance to STARE and everything. I sit in the front and i HATE it!! I look stupid because of my shyness and the way I think!! I'm lost in this world. I listened to a christian song called everytihng and I started balling and I asked God to forgive me but I didn't feel any different!! I feel hopeless! Does anyone have ANY ADVICE?? :-/


Answers: I am super shy and self consious. I was saved afew years ago then sadly committed blasphemy. Since then God has told almost ALL of my christian teachers about me. I'm not sure what though. I know because there's always been atleast once where I encountered my christian teacher staring at me with a dissapointed look. One of my christian teachers that i lusted after :-( also said something about lust and at the end of the sentence he looked straight at me..... All of this stress caused me to cut myself afew days ago. Now I'm afraid of what god has told them. I'm also super timid and shy in my last class because it gives my christian student teahcer a chance to STARE and everything. I sit in the front and i HATE it!! I look stupid because of my shyness and the way I think!! I'm lost in this world. I listened to a christian song called everytihng and I started balling and I asked God to forgive me but I didn't feel any different!! I feel hopeless! Does anyone have ANY ADVICE?? :-/

Buddy, I was extremely self-concious too.
If you comitted blasphemy, that doesnt mean you arent saved anymore.
You shouldask God for forgiveness,and he will forgive you. he will always do so. He has promised in his Word(bible) that he will forgive you. Dont wait for your emotions to make you feel forgiven,cause emotions are like the waves of the sea (they come and go,they are tricky). Instead ,believe God's promise that he is a forgiving God.
It doesnt matter how small or big is your mistake.
*God would not tell anyone about your mistakes .Is obvious you dont know him yet.But that ok...you are young .
God never tells people (christians or not) about our mistakes . He loves us. And he doesnt want other human beings to hurt you or me.(sadly human beings keep hurting each other all over the world)
Your "guilt" and shame feelings are making you feel like people (specially christian teachers)are aware about your thoughts,and act in a hurtful way towards you.
I know that for sure..cause there has been some long time that i felt that way. But God
used a counselor to teach me to get rid of shame and guilt.
Shame and guilt are not from God. And they are very dangerous to your mind and soul. They make feel inferior and look inferior.They make you feel stupid...and believe me: they can help to make you look that way also.
You are not lost. You are confused and anxious. And You need help,just like i needed and I looked for it. God also uses counselors (church conselors,school,community conselors), to help people.
Please dont cut yourself. Trust me, hurting yourself would not change your confusion..it would only worsen it.
You said you asked God to forgive you.
He has already forgive you.
Again, dont trust feelings (specially if you feel all this guilt and shame).
You should believe by FAITH that you are forgiven.
Read the source, i will post a great website that is nationally well-known for helping young people. also other sites where they would pray for you without critize or make you feel bad.

I don't think you can talk to God. I really don't. Or that he can talk to other people.
No offense but why should he care about your little problems?
You sound like a person that needs to break free of that restrictive religious thinking.

I would talk to your parents about how you feel or a school nurse

take care
god bless

try to work on doin good things...

you need to get down on your knees and really truly ask God for His forgiveness... God will forgive anybody for anything they do... that is why he died on the cross at Calvary... i really hope that you will figure all of this out... just remember God is always there and He will love you no matter what... I will be praying very very hard for you!!! hope everything works out for you... and dont cut yourself anymore... God loves you... and you are my sister in Christ! so... i love you and will be praying for you!!! God bless!!!!

god cant literallly talk to people hun, so i think your ok.

wow, religion should not be causing you to feel that way. you need to enlighten yourself, and break free of the chains of your perceived 'god'. i hope you realize that religion is a culturally accepted mental condition. just think about it. if you replaced "god" with "imaginary friend" you'd be institutionalized for thinking that way.

God is no more than a made-up device used to frighten weak-minded people like you and convince them to follow rules society has created. there is no heaven or hell, and the lustful thoughts you speak of are completely normal--everyone thinks this way, its human nature. religion is trying to force you to deny these natural feelings.

its all a mind-game my friend, the sooner you realize this, the better.

Yeah.

God isn't talking to those misguided idiots at your school.

and

DON'T CUT YOURSELF!

Everyone goes through problems with self-consciousness at a young age. You can lust all you want and only YOU will know what you are thinking.

Im gettinga little confused myself.

Well to me, it sounds like you ar ebeing brainwashed by religion. Im sorry you hurt yourself. Have you done this before? You cant get over anything unbless you talk to someone. But as being shy you most likily wont.
YOu are chnaging and your body has urges, that why you lust for your teacher. Your teacher might have felt you wathcing her and is confused or you made her feel weird.

I promise you, no one is going to hurt you or think bad of you just because god told them to. Juts be a good person and peopel will love you for that. If peopel are bad to you thast because they are evil not because god wants to punish you.

If you can, go to public schooling instaed of this christian school. Your parents I think force things on you

Monica, I am a Christian, but I'm going to say to you that you are enslaved by the religious community that you are a part of. You are made to feel guilt at age 13 over perfectly natural feelings, and that is not a good thing. Please read the Bible and decide for yourself its meaning, not the meaning that is being forced down your throat.

Grace and Peace.

If you're catholic all you have to do is be truly sorry and go to confession(reconciliation) and tell the priest your sins. The priest has a direct connection to God and will forgive your sins as long as you are truly sorry for them. After that the priest will ask you to repent by praying. After confession i sometimes leave in tears because i feel so much better.

I don't think God has told your teachers anything about you...it's kinda like when your at church & you feel like everything the preacher says is directed straight @ you.Of course that's not true because they really don't know what your doing outside of church.Stop hurting yourself & get some help if you think you might need it.Everything will be fine in the end.....good luck!

What about love? lust is a hard thing. Until now I have battled with it daily.The only thing I know that can replace lust is love. Love for christ is a good place to start. A girl needs to think of the kind of love a woman has for a man. Its so hard because Christ said that even adultery in your heart is adultery.I will tell you this.Christ was god in the flesh. He wanted not to sin. He knows we will think evil and sin.What matters is a genuine desire to change and to take steps towards change.Also to help people. Always. Don't be naive and help the wicked,but those looking for help. The needy,those who want to change like you. Not just spiritually. Charity is gods work. Love ,and compassion ,and selflessness can erase lust and fill your soul. If you show a little willingness to do gods work god will take care of you. You will find love ,and marriage. You can than enjoy the fruits of marriage with unbridled passion ,and do it in gods grace ,and with love in your heart. Helping fellow human beings ,and being a compassionate soul is the way to having a happy fulfilled being ,and the way to heaven. Let your actions ,the words of your mouth and the meditation of your heart be acceptable in his sight. Love thy ,god with all thy soul,with all thy mind ,and with all thy heart.Love thy fellow man.Be thankful.Also Monica, dont listen to the others,listen to me and Jeweland,she's right god will forgive you.She's aslo right about not cutting yourself.You need someone to talk to.I know its hard and lonely I am in the same place.Let love fill your heart,not lust or hatred or anything bad.I trust you will find what you really need.You sound like a good girl.

20 HAIL MARIES AND HIT YOUR SELF! huh huh huh huh...
-not a quote from a movie.

-oh you have a real problem, go to www.mediheaven.com It's a meditation website that helps you relax and relives stress quite nicely. the trial will let you use it a couple times, but BE PREPARED TO BECOME RELAXED!!!!





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