How do I move on with life??? I want to feel better about myself :(?!
Question: Ok...so I'm 20, will be 21 in September. I feel like I've lost my motivation for life, well actually I realized that a few years ago. When I was in high school I was always so self conscious and felt uncomfortable around everyone except my close friends. I dropped out in the last few months of that grade 12 year but I did finish last year via online schooling, yet this was not all out of my own motivation but pushing from others to finish. I now want to go back to school but I really can't find myself doing it. I always think about it but I just can't get myself to that point of going and getting it done. Same with getting my license. I'm 20 and still don't even have my G-1 :( I feel like I'm falling back in life and it's just making me more depressed.
Today I also kinda broke up with my bf = more depressed. I want to lose 10lbs too hoping to make myself feel better by looking better (currently 4'11" and 100 lbs) but not sure how that will work with 0 motivation on my side :( HELP!
Answers: Ok...so I'm 20, will be 21 in September. I feel like I've lost my motivation for life, well actually I realized that a few years ago. When I was in high school I was always so self conscious and felt uncomfortable around everyone except my close friends. I dropped out in the last few months of that grade 12 year but I did finish last year via online schooling, yet this was not all out of my own motivation but pushing from others to finish. I now want to go back to school but I really can't find myself doing it. I always think about it but I just can't get myself to that point of going and getting it done. Same with getting my license. I'm 20 and still don't even have my G-1 :( I feel like I'm falling back in life and it's just making me more depressed.
Today I also kinda broke up with my bf = more depressed. I want to lose 10lbs too hoping to make myself feel better by looking better (currently 4'11" and 100 lbs) but not sure how that will work with 0 motivation on my side :( HELP!
Take baby steps...If you want to go back to school, start checking into some different programs, determine what you would like to do and go for it. You won't get there overnight, but you can start today by doing a little research on what kind of jobs you would be interested in and pursuing schooling that would go along with it. I think the best thing to do is to determine where you are gifted and go for a career along those lines. As far as motivation goes....it works reverse of how we think it should work. First start by taking small steps toward your goal. The more steps you take, the better you're going to feel about yourself and where you're going in life. Start exercising a little each day and watching your portion size on what you're eating. Sometimes you have to force yourself to do something until the feeling match what you're trying to do. It's not easy, but it is very rewarding.
You don't need to lose weight.
It sounds like you're depressed, you should really see a therapist and get some meds.
I have been in your shoes.
Just tell yourself to get up each morning and get moving. I have to work everyday and it takes a lot for me to get motivated but I know I need to be there. The first step is the hardest but I think once you commit yourself, life will come easier. Don't dwell on the fact that you're depressed. Continue to stay busy.
Oh, you don't need to lose weight. I've tried that too. It doesn't make you happier.
just look around us. in today's world, there are so much to be downed about. if that's not a reason to improve our self esteem, then what would? the more i see and hear of life, the more i grasp for it. i'm like a deer, bear or elk, i'll fight for every breath.
there will be many issues in our life that we will have to face, why try and face them before they present themselves? as we go along, these issues become easier to solve........one thing to always remember.........you don't need any ones help to throw yourself in the mud of this world, you can do that all by yourself...
years will slip away fast, so grab them now and hold on with all you have......
first, i want you to know that you are by no means alone in feeling depressed and as if life has given up on you - at one point we all go through this, whether we let it show or not. you should know that recognizing your need for help is the first step toward getting happier. second, anti-depressants would only be given to you if a qualified professional thought they would be of use to you. Also, if you were to take anti-depressants it would be a must that you attended regular therapy sessions to help you learn to channel your new found energy that the medication provides. anti-depressants will not make everything sunshiny and nice, they simply will give you a boost of energy to help you get on the road to happiness; thus, it is only the medication coupled with the therapy that will get you there. i strongly encourage you to get in contact with a local therapist or social worker who will work with you to reach your goals.
Well ....you should know that your not alone. I started taking antidepressants and having therapy sophomore year. Honestly I can't say that I have seen any kind of difference...on the drugs or not. (my parents say I act "nicer"....but whatever) *** I hate the thought of taking a drug that changes my behavior....or well just taking drugs at all ...I've very anti-drug. I'm 19 and attending community college....and I basically ...have no "real" friends. (High school was a torture) (I'm stuck between the "limbo" of getting a job and moving out stage)
I think the only thing that keeps me "sane" is that I take martial arts. There are a lot of good people there...while .... time spent with those people is only limited to practice....I'm still happy enough ....I'm at practice for Hawaiian Kenpo and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu 5-6 days a week for 7-8 hours. Working out makes me happy ...not to mention ..keeps me in great shape..
...The best thing you can do for yourself is find something that you have a drive for and immerse yourself in it.
...I know it's easier said than done ...but I'm sure you can do it!!!