I never sleep. i need help?!
Question: i m 24 yrs old, married since 2 n half years and i have a daughter (19 month old).
i have a very loving husband.
everything seems to be alrite yet i have fears of unknow future and i never sleep. when i get tiade all i do is rest my eyes but never sleep. well i m dependent on my husband and i do no job i have no friends, no one seems to be friendly, i tried to interact with so many of women and men but they seem less interested. whole day i m alone at home with my daughter. i m getting sick. i do get some panic attacks and my hubby comes home from his ofice and takes care of me. well, we r finically not sound and have too many loans to be paid. we have no proparty. i m not a graduate person and never done a job before in life. i feel i m getting old and i think i have no future. i m afraid of my daughers future too as what may happen to her if i die or get sick all my life. i just need to be free and happy.
Answers: i m 24 yrs old, married since 2 n half years and i have a daughter (19 month old).
i have a very loving husband.
everything seems to be alrite yet i have fears of unknow future and i never sleep. when i get tiade all i do is rest my eyes but never sleep. well i m dependent on my husband and i do no job i have no friends, no one seems to be friendly, i tried to interact with so many of women and men but they seem less interested. whole day i m alone at home with my daughter. i m getting sick. i do get some panic attacks and my hubby comes home from his ofice and takes care of me. well, we r finically not sound and have too many loans to be paid. we have no proparty. i m not a graduate person and never done a job before in life. i feel i m getting old and i think i have no future. i m afraid of my daughers future too as what may happen to her if i die or get sick all my life. i just need to be free and happy.
Hi Adorable,
I lived the way you do with my second child, in my 40's, some little different reasons, but the result was all the same (the first child I had at 35's).
There are definitely some hormonal problems as well, as I saw in another question you posted. I had as well a hormonal unbalance as had remained with a plus of 30 Kg. after the second child and had the same psychical problems you do.
But knowing that it is "normal" to have some problems, hormonal ones, which is getting to you all of your psychical and/or physical problems you described, just WAIT, and be confident that everything shall pass away. Trust me. I did no treatment with no chemicals or hormones, or whatsoever, and I'm back "on my feet" with all the faith in my own future - well, it's a way of saying, because, as I said, I had much more problems (because of my ex.) Though I lost all the extra weight.
I got through "everything" by the help of someone who loves me (my mother helped me with the kids) AND through SPORTS.
Sports save us physically & psihically!
And a simple pray, mostly for someone else . . ., save your soul - give you the poise even for a while, but it saves you the worst moments. Only this way I may asleep, else . . .
Here I am, anytime you may want. Helping each other - do ask - shall get us a life!
I shall be happy to hear from you!
Hug!
I think your worrying is stressing you out. Before you go to sleep, trying clearing your mind - listening to calming music or reading.
Try sleeping with a pet (most of the time this will not work because pets tend to move around a lot and they may want out of your room in the middle of the night)
As much as you can, try to stay in bed with your eyes closed, even if you are not actually sleeping. You will drift in-and-out of sleep even if you do not realize it. As a result, you will be more relaxed in the long run.
If you find you are still wide-awake after a half-hour or so, try getting out of bed and doing something relaxing in another room. Just sitting in a comfortable chair with the lights off, or looking out the window for a few minutes, can help you relax and make it easier to fall asleep.
Relax by imagining a wave of comfort start from your feet and slowly work this 'wave' up your body. The process should take about 10 minutes.
Eat a banana or two before bed. The magnesium in the banana will help your muscles to relax. Other foods that will help you fall asleep are: Cheese (but this may give you nightmares), Mustard, Pickles, Lettuce, Turkey. They have natural chemicals that work with your brain to send a 'calm' message over your body.
Some people believe that eating protein-enriched foods as a snack will help slow the mind so it can focus on sleeping. So a small pack of nuts or trail mix would be helpful.
Exercise during the late afternoon. Go for a jog or to the gym. The aftereffects of the chemicals in your body released during the workout will get you through the evening. It's much easier to fall asleep if you've done something active since it's much easier to go to sleep when you're exhausted or tired than just sitting at home with all your energy from food you ate.
Sometimes, it's easier to go to sleep with some lights on if you wear a sleeping mask.
Tense all your leg muscles. Inhale slowly. Relax and exhale slowly. Repeat about seven times.
Do not watch t.v. to help you go to sleep. The lights and the noise can make you stay awake for an hour or more.
Do not exercise before going to bed. This will get your adrenaline going, your heart pumping, and speed up your respiratory system. Those things will make it very hard to fall asleep.
The most important part of your body that should be relaxed (and the one that almost everyone overlooks) is your tongue. When you notice it, you'll find that it is invariably plastered against the roof of your mouth or up against your front teeth. Make a conscious effort to relax your tongue, jaw, and face along with the rest of your body. You'll be surprised how quickly you fall asleep!
Sleep is just a lowered state of consciousness. Get to that state faster by not thinking. The easiest way to do this is to focus on the color black you "see" when you close your eyes. Deflect any other thought that arrives, as it will hinder your ability to focus on black. It is a difficult task initially, but if you can stick to it, you'll be asleep within 2-3 minutes.
Be sure you have closed your eyes. Research has proven that if you don't close your eyes, it would be more difficult for you to fall asleep.
Cover up the display or turn around an alarm clock, so you lose the perception of time. If you can't sleep and you see the hours going by, it can stress you out by thinking that you have to sleep ASAP. Overall, just try not to think of immediately going to sleep. This causes nervousness and queasiness, making it even harder to fall asleep. Remember, think of something calm instead of worrying about the time going by.
Try a number of things until you figure out what works.
Ask a family member to give you a back massage. It will relax you very much and help you fall asleep.
Consider getting a new mattress if your current one is old.
Count mentally or gently stare at mundane objects.
~Hope That Helps Alot~
Hi there, I do not know the extent of your problem but I know of a program called "sleep tracks", which helps people with stuff like this, just do a google search for more details on this.
I used to have trouble sleeping after i got married as well. I used a breathing technique i found in a book. Try searching online for Realxing breathing techniques.
It took me a couple of days to get used to doing it. However inside of a week i was not able to finish the exercises as i was asleep.
Nightol = )
i use it atm as i get an average of 3hours if im lucky and with a few wakeing ups without it but with it then atleast 6hours without waking up = )
its quite cheap and herbal with no chance of an overdose or addiction its all good
night night
= D
24 and you are getting old ..no no ..!!
hmm it seems that your real problem is not with the sleep thing ..
at first you mintioned that every thing is okay but with the end of the post it was clear that nothing is okay ..!
you know whats the real problem ..!!
it is that you don't think you are important ..!
it is normal to feel this way since you only have ur husbend and daughter ..!
if you have a job or friends you may feel different ..!
so what if your husbend is out of work * i hope not* ..! whats gonna happen?!
you are depending on your husbend entirly !!
anyone in your shoes would feel afriad of the furture cuz it is not scure ..!
you need to get your act together and be strong !! face the world with your knowloedge ..! doesn't have to be graduated person to do that..!!
find a hobby you like ..! search for real friends ! take care of them and they will do the same ..! you are full of life ..! it is your time to live your life agian YOU ARE 24 !!
go out , have fun , look at what you really really want !
after 10 years where do u see your self ! a mother for your child thats nice ..! a wife for your husbend that cute but what else for your self ?!!!
you are happy with your family but u need to feel your self and care for what u need more ..! you need friends,job,social life ..!
You have too much time for thinking and when you don't have someone to talk to - friend to friend - your thoughts start spinning too fast and the proportions of them become warped. It's easy to fall down to dark thoughts and self pity but you, only you can change this negative trend. You have problems on several areas in your life but don't let financial problems restrain your possibilities to have a good life! The loans are to be paid but it's important to see over your consumption and not buy things that are not necessary. Many of us have the funny belief that we need a bunch of things or experiences to be happy - so we buy and buy....
Don't give up with interaction with others - try to think over what signals you send out! Are you a victim who asks for sympathy? Are you genuinely interested in the people you meet? Do you listen to them? I know, it's difficult to get good contact with strangers but if you try to give more rather than take you might notice that people will stay.
Your panic attacks are a result of the amount of time you spend alone with thoughts that grow and grow.
You can take charge over your life! Aren't there other women with small children you could spend some time with?
Or go and talk to a therapist, you can get great help sorting your mind out. Cheer up and believe me, there's nothing to be afraid of!
Don't watch TV before you go to bed. Put on soothing relaxing music and maybe try the over the counter sleep aids. If they don't work, go to your doctor. Rozerem is good but Ambien is very affective. The only thing is Ambien can be addicting!
Sounds like you're suffering from depression. If you're not trying to get pregnant again then maybe you should consider some medication.
Adorable I've had the same problem. You can take sleeping &/or anti-depression pills, walk daily, join a Mommies group, & write to people you like here.
I am in a similar situation to you at this time. I've just move to a new city so I know no one, I'm in the house all day because I don't work or drive, but I can take the bus if I wish, & my husband is retired so he is in the house all day w/me. It is very similar to having a baby in the house except he can potty himself and he natters constantly except when he's napping. Write to me & I'll write back. I'm mm.rnsslr@yahoo.com.
Yes, I know you don't need the "@yahoo.com" part but I just feel it's incomplete w/out it.