Is it still child sexual abuse or not?!


Question: Is it considered sexual abuse when children do sexual things with other children? I'm asking this because when I was younger a foster boy and girl (they were siblings) came to live in our home. We were all around the same age with the boy being maybe 2 years older than me and his sister. We were all around 7-10 years old. Anyway, he and the girl sexually molested me several times. And I also did this to them after they did it to me. I want to know if that is sexual abuse or normal or what? I'm in my late 20s and a virgin because I have intimacy troubles/relating with males. I've never told anyone because i'm embarrassed about it and think anything to do with children and sex is completely immoral and wrong but I'm trying to figure my past out and if it has anything to do with now, TY for any advice....


Answers: Is it considered sexual abuse when children do sexual things with other children? I'm asking this because when I was younger a foster boy and girl (they were siblings) came to live in our home. We were all around the same age with the boy being maybe 2 years older than me and his sister. We were all around 7-10 years old. Anyway, he and the girl sexually molested me several times. And I also did this to them after they did it to me. I want to know if that is sexual abuse or normal or what? I'm in my late 20s and a virgin because I have intimacy troubles/relating with males. I've never told anyone because i'm embarrassed about it and think anything to do with children and sex is completely immoral and wrong but I'm trying to figure my past out and if it has anything to do with now, TY for any advice....

Seek help,Children do experiment with their own bodies at that age ,but sounds to me these kids had physicological problems.and as they brought you into it ,its left you with these guilt feelings,You need a referal to see a therapist that deals in these matters,they are confidential and can help.You are only young and a lifetime to live ,BUT FIRST YOU MUST TRY NOT TO FEEL GUILTY

Yes, this is sexual abuse, whoever initiated it probably had it done to them by someone. Some therapy might help you work thru some of these feelings and help you let go of the past.

Try and let go of the guilt. Children are curious and do those kinds of things when they are young. I do not believe it is sexual abuse because you were children.
Good luck to you.

i dont think it is sexual abuse as u were all the same age and kids experiment, dont feel bad put it down as u were all discovering . good luck

It sounds to me like normal childhood exploration. I would expect that it was normal childhood behavior.

I think what would be better to explore is how you felt about it. It sounds like it created issues for you that unless there is more to the story you should forgive yourself for.

Not sexual abuse---normal experimentation. Don't be weirded out about it. More than likely your intimacy issues stem from your relationship with male authority figures in your life--Daddy/Step-Daddy. You are only twenty, please stop beating yourself up over it. The only way to get over your insecurity/trust issues is to develop confidence in yourself. Confidence that you can ultimately make the right decisions in your own life. Consider this growing pains. Better now than when you hit forty!

let it go. You were all kids around the same age. If there was a adult present, then the police need to know about it. Kids will be kids.





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