How do you stop someone from cutting themselfs? Plus why do you do it anyway??!


Question: my friend cuts herself and she wont stop she saids it is because she is board or upset can you help me!!


Answers: my friend cuts herself and she wont stop she saids it is because she is board or upset can you help me!!

if she showed and told you then she's seeking attention... if you found out without her telling you, then she has personal problems and no healthy outlet for them. Just give her positive assurance that she is loved, and tell her she should find another outlet for her boredom or depression. if you want to be a part of it, then have her call you when she's having a problem and you can talk her through it or give her another option. she just needs to find a new way to fill her time and let out emotion.... writing was mine.

and i agree with the other person... counselling definitely helps. if she can't afford it, i know this might seem stupid, but try to find a mormon church in your area and ask them for free counselling. you dont have to be part of the religion and they don't bring religion into it unless you want them to. it's just free.

Self mutilation is cry for help. Your friend should see a councellor ASAP!

As for making someone stop, unfortunately there's not much you can do.
There are lots of reasons people do it though. Boredom is one. But it's usually a chemical thing. Pain releases a sort of natural painkiller, and it can mask the bad feelings you have. Or, it can make you feel good to feel physical pain instead of the pain inside.
The only suggestion I can make is to try to get her on a different habit. Try to find something else that makes her feel better, and do that instead. My personal drug of choice during my depression times was food. It's not ideal, but it can be better than cutting.

you need to tell an adult immediately. if u know she really does than she might accidently cut too deep and kill herself. please please tell her parents.

When you see it, mention briefly that you hate the fact that she is hurting herself, but then let it drop. Sometimes cutters do it for the attention, so you need to pay attention to the OTHER things she does, and make a big deal about it.

I agree, though, she needs help. Talk to a school counsellor about it -- they can give you good advice on how to handle your friend.

There is NOTHING you can do to make her stop, unless she doesn't want anyone to know and you threaten to tell (which isn't a good idea). She needs therapy, because self-mutilation is a sign of something bigger, essentially just a symptom of a larger problem. People do it for TONS of reasons, such as but not limited to:
- Releasing emotional pain by dealing with physical pain instead
- A way of making themselves feel alive
- punishing themselves
- crying out for help
- a sexual component
Obviously people don't always do it for any of these reasons, and certainly not all of them, but those are often one of the reason they might do it.

She needs some help, it can be just a means of trying to get attention, it still needs to be addressed

honestly- there is really nothing you can do for her except be there for her when she needs someone or tell her parents
if she wants to stop then offer to go with her to counseling or help her find the help that she needs
trust me- i used to burn myself and i didn't stop until i was ready to stop.

Your friend needs a therapist to talk to. There are many reasons for doing it. I did it for years. I regret it now but couldn't help it back then. One thing that helped me was holding my hands under really hot water until I couldn't stand it anymore. If I never reached that point, I would take ice cubes and hold them on sensitive spots on my body until they melted or I couldn't stand the cold. A punching bag can be a good idea too. Mostly, I couldn't feel anymore and i needed to know I was alive. I had things bottled up inside that I couldn't let out b/c they didn't have voices, there were no words, only feelings. I can't describe it really. Just be there for your friend and let them know that they can talk to you. Try to get them to see a therapist. A cognitive behavior therapist preferrably. Good luck! Feel free to email me if you have any questions.

self mutilation is their way, they think, to relieve pain. they believe that the blood will bring the pain from their bodies. and the longer it goes on the deeper the cuts will be.. it's a mental condition that require professional help. in most cases it's teen age girls that cuts and also in most cases there will be abuse involved. usually there is more then one in a crowd of friends in this condition. my advise is to tell whom you have to, to get your friend the help he/she needs. this is a serious condition, seeing that a large number of these kids is prone to attempt suicide.

hoping the best and praying all will be well....

They do it for attention--those who protest what I say: you're in denial! Fuc.king attention-whores. I hate 'em. Especially if their 'cutting' is scratching their wrists with a tack and showing everybody at school.

Cutting releases endorphins--- type of pain relieving hormone





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