I always try to avoid the guys I like.......?????!
Question: this is really weird..im 16. i have a problem w/ guys. there is this one guy who likes me and always glances at me but i try to avoid eye contact and pretend i don't even notice him!!! i don't know what is wrong with me...??? also, whenever i see a cute guy in public or whatever, i kinda try to avoid looking at him or making eyecontact or anything like that and just pretend i don't see him??? i don't know what i'm so scared of...??? also, i CAN'T flirt!! this one guy the other day who practices with my basketball team was poking fun at me and stuff and i was just like smiling or whatever. and he said "you're too quiet, you need to talk more." i don't consider myself unattractive it's just i will probably never get a boyfriend at this rate! how do i change this? i don't even have a single guy friend...help..what's wrong with me and how can i change? i want to be less freaked out about guys .!!
Answers: this is really weird..im 16. i have a problem w/ guys. there is this one guy who likes me and always glances at me but i try to avoid eye contact and pretend i don't even notice him!!! i don't know what is wrong with me...??? also, whenever i see a cute guy in public or whatever, i kinda try to avoid looking at him or making eyecontact or anything like that and just pretend i don't see him??? i don't know what i'm so scared of...??? also, i CAN'T flirt!! this one guy the other day who practices with my basketball team was poking fun at me and stuff and i was just like smiling or whatever. and he said "you're too quiet, you need to talk more." i don't consider myself unattractive it's just i will probably never get a boyfriend at this rate! how do i change this? i don't even have a single guy friend...help..what's wrong with me and how can i change? i want to be less freaked out about guys .!!
Hey
I'm a lot like you. Well I was. I am 15 now and I used to be the same.
But after putting myself out to talk to the guy that I like I became less like the introverted person that I used to be and instead now I am far more confident around all guys.
So just act naturally and talk to them little by little even so that they can see that you are not as shy and possibly as 'snobby' as they may think that you are.
Some guys perceive shyness as snobbishness as one said to me 'I always thought that you were really stuck up and arrogant'
And as for the flirting thing... well do whatever comes to you naturally, maybe at first don't be to coy and flirtatious especially if these guys know you for your usually shy self.
Hope that this helps.
I think your just really shy. Maybe your scared they won't like you back.
Nothing is wrong with you. Avoiding eye contact is being coy and sometimes considered flirting. At 16 you have PLENTY of time to find a fella. Don't rush the right one!!
yu arent alone my friend. i always thought it was weird too.. but its the way we are..lik we get nerovous and all.. they say tht if yu get eye contact is cuz yu lik them, but im different..i guess i get shy and nervous. and guys also say tht im really quiet, but actually its jst when im around someoen i like. i lik get aafraid of idk wht...lik of saying or doing something worng i guess..idk...but i def wish i wasz a little bit more extrovertent with guysz..they think im intimidating..
Play tag ,,,,, just go up and touch him then turn and walk away ,, don't look back just go on about your buisiness , make it your mission to touch him every day , even if you have to do it while he is looking at you , but smile if he cetches you in the act , if he says something to you just say "excuse me ,Im sorry,, I'm sorry ", but touch him anyway , and walk away ,, be sure to walk away , dont run though ,,,,,, just do it !! seriously ,,, Do it !!