How can I tell my parents about my depression?!
Question: I'm a 15 year old teen living with my mom and dad. I think this has been going on for a while now but lately it's been getting really hard on me. I want to tell them. I NEED to tell them, so I can get help from a doctor or something. Everyday it just gets worse. For some reason though...I just can't. I get this gut-wretching feeling everytime I try to bring it up. I think it's because I don't want to discuss it with them, all I want to do is see a doctor. But I know if I try to tell them, they start shooting questions at me. And if that happens, I'll most likely lash out at them because I think my depression has made me irritable towards people. I know they're just worrying about me but I can't help it. I don't mean to be....and I certianly don't want to be any longer. So I guess what I'm asking is, How can I ask my parents nicely to just take me to a doctor without the whole interrogation part? Please help!
Answers: I'm a 15 year old teen living with my mom and dad. I think this has been going on for a while now but lately it's been getting really hard on me. I want to tell them. I NEED to tell them, so I can get help from a doctor or something. Everyday it just gets worse. For some reason though...I just can't. I get this gut-wretching feeling everytime I try to bring it up. I think it's because I don't want to discuss it with them, all I want to do is see a doctor. But I know if I try to tell them, they start shooting questions at me. And if that happens, I'll most likely lash out at them because I think my depression has made me irritable towards people. I know they're just worrying about me but I can't help it. I don't mean to be....and I certianly don't want to be any longer. So I guess what I'm asking is, How can I ask my parents nicely to just take me to a doctor without the whole interrogation part? Please help!
Actually, you don't need their permission to see a doctor. Minors are allowed to go in by themselves for issues on sex or mental health.
I know what you mean though, and they need to know eventually. My parents were just like that. If you try to tell them you don't want to talk to them about it, it might hurt them. You've really just got to be honest, tell them the problem, and if they start asking you uncomfortable questions, try to tell them nicely that it makes you uncomfortable, and you just want to see a specialist. Your parents might think they always know what's best for you, but hopefully they'll recognize when there is someone else who can help you more.
don't slit your wrists, thats what i did.
go on your own. look up any mental health support groups in your area, or youth hotlines or on the internet. there should be some
Tell them, WITH THE POWER OF SONG AND DANCE, NO RAP PLOX!
We parents tend to ask questions just because we love you. They wont want to put you on medicine unless they know you really need it so asking questions is a way for them to know.
Maybe you can print some info off the internet dealing with depression and give it to them.
If it's that hard for you maybe you should talk to your school counselor or pastor if you have one and let them help you out.
Whatever you do, don't wait too long becaue worrying about it will just make you more depressed. Your parents will be glad you came to them.
Good luck and believe me it will get better! Just ask for help.
exactly what Kiki said... i sometimes have things im nervous and afraid to tell my parents but i suck it up and tell them because usually its a serious issue and in your case it sounds quite serious... your parents will understand or hopefully they should just tell them before you tell them your problem that you dont want them to question you and remeber its your parents job to worry so they are just doing what they think is best but in your case the best thing they obviously can do is get you to see a doctor just tell them.. i hope you find help.. God Bless
i had to tell my mom, and it was really hard. the only thing was, she didnt want to believe it. chronic depression runs in my family, so i think she didnt want to deal with it. but if your mom is understanding, i say just ask her "can we talk?" when you get help, you will be so much happier. tell them you dont want them talking until you are done. if you dont want to tell them, ask if you can go for a check up and tell your doctor when your mom isnt in the room
hope i helped
good luck
obviously your parents will want to know why you want to see a doctor b/c they are very concerned. Also...doctors cannot cure depression, you need to call kids help line, they will know EXACTLY what to do.
i know what you are goiing throw. i have that problem too. i dont anymore. what i did i wrote them a letter and i told them that i fel sad and lonely and have some sort of deppresion i did studies on line and font out al;l the info about it that iu needed. then i wrote them a letter telling them all the thingz and that i didnt want to talk to them about it just a doctor. and they just brought me a few dayz later to a phyciastrist and i've been alot happier since
Full disclosure... I am a parent. If you can't tell your parents right now, find some adult that you trust and tell them. Maybe an older cousin or family friend or some such person. A teacher or school psychologist might be OK too.
If you think you (and they) can handle it, try to find someone that may be able to help you bring it up with your parents.
Depression sucks (personal experience) and counseling and meds do help, although the side effects of meds in teens can be worse than in adults.