What do I tell my bosses after calling out because I am truly and deeply depress!
Question: I hope I have a job tomorrow. I am scared that I am going to feel like a mummy tomorrow again.
I feel like such a failure. I constantly feel like everyone is counting on me and I constantly let them down. I am the best employee there but I am severely depressed. I tried to seek help but I need to miss out on work in order to get help. I am afraid I'm going to lose my job.
I'm 21yrs and it's all I have that keeps me going. I'm not doing well in college (although i'm an honor student), my bff is not around like she used to be and my family doesn't love me.
I'm getting worser every day and am starting to overdose on painkillers.
Please help! What do you tell your job?
Answers: I hope I have a job tomorrow. I am scared that I am going to feel like a mummy tomorrow again.
I feel like such a failure. I constantly feel like everyone is counting on me and I constantly let them down. I am the best employee there but I am severely depressed. I tried to seek help but I need to miss out on work in order to get help. I am afraid I'm going to lose my job.
I'm 21yrs and it's all I have that keeps me going. I'm not doing well in college (although i'm an honor student), my bff is not around like she used to be and my family doesn't love me.
I'm getting worser every day and am starting to overdose on painkillers.
Please help! What do you tell your job?
Forget letting the job down, it sounds like you're letting yourself down. Not by feeling down (welcome to the world) but by the destructive behaviors you're using to cope with these feelings.
Everybody has problems. It's how you deal with them that separate the failures from the successes. It takes A LOT of courage to go get counseling, for example. But you need it-not because you're a bad person, but because you need support right now. Depression is a huge ugly monster that you can't be expected to slay on your own. Trust me, a counselor (usually free on a college campus, I'm sure your college has a program) will be way better for you in the long run than any painkiller.
Maybe you can use this experience of not being able to go to work as a wake up call-a beginning of a new way of taking care of yourself. Taking a walk everyday statistically can do wonders in improving mood. Counseling statistically can cure depression. The right medication-not addictive painkillers (which actually are depressants, meaning they can even make you feel worse than you would without them, over time) but anti depressants can change the world for you.
There is hope. Look at this way. You're only 21, and already seeking answers to a problem that people twice your age have spent their whole lives enduring. You don't sound like a failure to me-a failure wouldn't even ask the question on Yahoo, or acknowledge you're on painkillers. A failure would just sweep the whole thing under the rug.
One more thing-the thing about depression is it's like putting on a pair of dark glasses, and then you wonder why nothing looks sunny. It's not your fault. It's a biochemical health problem. You wouldn't beat yourself up if you had a heart attack and couldn't get to work, would you? So don't beat yourself up now. But just as if you had a heart attack, you would go to get medical care immediately, treat this problem the same way. Call the counseling service tommorrow and schedule an appointment immediately with both a counselor (that's one appointment) and a doctor (that's the second appointment, only a doctor can prescribe the antidepressants you need) -make that your one job, and then you have my permission to lie on the couch and eat ice cream for the rest of the day. Remember, depressed people, just like people with heart disease, aren't lazy-they're depressed!!!!
Hang in there, and come back and let us know what happened. :)
tell them you're gay. They'll never be able to fire you
You need to pray.
you need to go into rehab before you seriously do harm upon yourself or others.
Go to your local community mental health clinic and get help before you die.
first of all if you are feeling depressed you need to seek professional help.. Be honest you need to tell your employer that you need time off for personal or take a stress leave... Really seek help if you are ovedosing on medication talk to a counselor at school ...
First off see a councelor about your depression. as for the calling out to work, is your boss a man? tell him it was menstrual cramps...chances are he won't ask questions lol. or tell your boss you had a very upset stomach. people know what goes along with that and dont want to ask questions.
First of all, sounds like you need to get some help. See a doctor, talk to someone... just tell your job that you had a personal issue to take care of. As long as you're not calling out everyday, it's really not any of their business why you called in. Make you an appt. with your md and notify your boss ahead of time, all they have to know is that you have an appt. and need some time off.
As a supervisor, please note that you do not need to give a reason to call in sick. Just say your not feeling well (which sounds like the truth).
You may be eligible for FMLA (family Medical Leave Act) to cover your time off to treat your depression. Your HR department can give you the information about what to get fill out by your doctor, so you dont have to worry about time taken to get better.
The important thing is it sounds as if you need to talk to someone about whats going on. I will tell you that I think you may be judging yourself too harshly.
Depression is an illness like any other and requires treatment. Go see a doctor. God luck and best wishes.
Liz? This is your boss. Just be honest with me, and let me know if you need help. You are a very valuable employee, and I don't want to lose you! If you need some time to take care of your psyche, I'll hold your job for you.
Please don't lie, because then you won't get the help you need. I take an anti depressant which was described for me from a psychologist. You might need something similar.
I'll see you in the morning, and as long as you are honest with me, we'll work this out.
THANKS!!!!!!
i feel your pain. you must go to work and be honest. tell the boss you need to see a doctor as your having some personal issues and you feel as tho it is affecting your work and you'll feel much better after seeing your doc. get on some medication first of all then seek other help from councellors, etc.
my mum just died and i felt like i was losing it. i have a husband, im pregnant with my third child, so i have a family to look after as well as myself and i couldnt even get outta bed.. but in saying that, no one understands what YOU are going through, only you do. thats why you need to seek help, to talk about your fears and feelings.
i hope you do. for your sake. because you cant keep going around and around in circles.
<>< You need to get some medical help with this. You probably need some medicine to get you over the hump. You will find as you go along in life that sometimes things seem really bad and once you get past it, life can be good. There is always going to be an occasional trial. Just sounds like it is hitting you all at one time now. I would tell you boss or better yet, HR department if you have one. I don't know what kind of company you work for, but at mine they cannot fire you because of depression if you are actively seeking help for it.
I went through my first depression at about your age too. I did not know what I wanted from life and my school was not doing all that well. Please stay away from the painkillers and anything else that you are doing to get by (meaning alcohol, pot, etc) as I tried to drink my sorrows away and it only made it worse. I will pray for you.
See a doctor ASAP and quit taking the painkillers.
If you are diagnosed with depression, get a note from your doctor.
It is illegal for your job to fire you for having a mental illness; but you have to be open about it. If you don't explain what's going on and get a note from your doctor, it might look like you are just being unreliable.
Why would you feel the need to tell your job? You've done nothing wrong thee for you to hve to tell them anything. I think you're overreacting because you're paranoid. You need to seek professional help and keep this to yourself. Don't tell your work, they'll just think you're crazy.
Talk to your boss or HR representative about time-off for medical issues.
how about a therapist and a rehab?
bu thw way: if you'lll say to you boss that your lesbian she won't fire you because you may sue her
Go to a doctor now!!