Is my need to be so unlike my parents unhealthy?!
Question: I love my parents for the most part but the way they live their lives and the mistakes they have made have driven me to try and be their opposite. I find myself shying away from anything that is like my father or mother like; gossiping, judging, religion, fighting, worring about money, being dependent on another person. I know some of these things are good, but sometimes I feel to driven and when I fail at being unlike them I feel disgusted with myself. Could my drive to be so unlike them drive me of a cliff, theoretically speaking?????
Answers: I love my parents for the most part but the way they live their lives and the mistakes they have made have driven me to try and be their opposite. I find myself shying away from anything that is like my father or mother like; gossiping, judging, religion, fighting, worring about money, being dependent on another person. I know some of these things are good, but sometimes I feel to driven and when I fail at being unlike them I feel disgusted with myself. Could my drive to be so unlike them drive me of a cliff, theoretically speaking?????
When I was young, I did the very same thing, actually. Young people see things in black and white, so that's why you state that you want to be completely unlike your parents. You see flaws and mistakes, so you want to avoid them, and that's good. It is always better to learn from the mistakes of others instead of making each and every one of them yourself. You are progressing towards building your own identity, and being an adult capable of making his/her own decisions. The first step is what you are doing now, making a stand about being different. Just don't do anything stupid like stealing, vandalizing, having unprotected sex, or taking drugs. THAT would be pushing it too far, and driving yourself off a cliff!
Not at all you see what they do wrong and you dont want to do those things. Nothing wrong with that
I think it's great that you are learning from your parents mistakes. There is nothing wrong with you. I feel the same way with my parents. My parents have been married for 40 years and hate each other. I learned I don't want a relationship like theirs. Plus, if you fail at somthing it's ok as long as you learned somthing from your failure and you are willing to try again from what you have learned.