How can I like myself more?!
Question: I have had problems with depression and low self-esteem, and really struggle to believe that I am worth something and people can actually genuinely like me.
Does anyone have any practical suggestions as to how I can like myself a little more, or at least be a little more accepting of myself? (I have been seeing a counsellor for several months now but have not found it helpful in that respect.)
Answers: I have had problems with depression and low self-esteem, and really struggle to believe that I am worth something and people can actually genuinely like me.
Does anyone have any practical suggestions as to how I can like myself a little more, or at least be a little more accepting of myself? (I have been seeing a counsellor for several months now but have not found it helpful in that respect.)
The best way is to think about what you would like to do, no love to do with your life, and take it from there. does your life feel like you are always trying to please people. if this is the case, maybe the counsellor is not working because you are trying to please him/her as well. and not saying what you really want. if you can find out what parts of you are being suppressed - i dont mean events from the past - i mean like are you an artist, singer, dancer, writer, etc - what deep down do you feel you are - and really listen to it dont put it down as a fantasy. tell your counsellor that is where you think you need to be. how can i get there.
forget about people genuinly liking you. either they do or they dont. it is when you genuinly like and respect you - ie by doing things that enable you to be who you are deep inside - that you will know if you are genuinly liked. in fact you wont care so much because you will be happier with who you are. stop struggling to believe anything. if you dont belioeve it at the moment, why force yourself. it'll come.
you should be happy and talk to some people. if you are felling so bored
Just tell yourself that you are all the you you can be,everyone is beautiful in their own way:) have a great day:)
i say there are two solutions
1)explore your interests...take classes, join clubs, buy rollerblades...whatever your interests are explore them and become a more wellrounded person
2)find a way to volunteer and concentrate on others...doing for others who have it worse than you in any way shape or form is a sure way to appreciate your life and feel better about who you are
You know, sometimes I still struggle with my self- esteem. It took me many years to go from hating myself and wanting to kill myself to getting to the point that I like myself.I used to avoid looking at myself in the mirror. I did figure out that I needed to quit agreeing with those little voices that kept saying your ugly everybody hates you and all that. I learned to quit looking at what I thought were flaws. I started to look deeper to find the things I did like and the few things that I didn't like about myself I told myself that it really ain't that bad cuz nobody is perfect so the imperfections are okay. I started noting that I brought humor to a lot of people and how true it was about how smart I really am. I started to accept compliments that before I felt I did not deserve. Any one who had a negative comment towards me I learned to turn it back to them by saying to myself "that poor pathetic person has to feel good about themselves by putting me down. I feel sorry for them" It really takes practice to get as far as I am. Enough practice makes it easier to do. Its just like learning a sport. The more you do it the better you get. I know that at first you may feel uneasy or maybe stupid when you talk yourself up but really, it is effective. It really works.