Can anyone relate? Moods and Hormones?!
Question: Im 24 years old. I have noticed for the past several months that I have been very moody. It seems like only the smallest thing will set me off and I dont know why. The problem is my husband is the only one there to take the brunt of it and I'm afraid I've been blaming him....like for example he doesn't help with housework. So when I get angry part of it , i feel, is from being tired from work and having to come home and handle everything house related. He feels like I Just gripe all the time. I've never been this way before. I absolutely feel like I can't control my hormones or my anger. Has anyone else felt like this. What do you do???
Answers: Im 24 years old. I have noticed for the past several months that I have been very moody. It seems like only the smallest thing will set me off and I dont know why. The problem is my husband is the only one there to take the brunt of it and I'm afraid I've been blaming him....like for example he doesn't help with housework. So when I get angry part of it , i feel, is from being tired from work and having to come home and handle everything house related. He feels like I Just gripe all the time. I've never been this way before. I absolutely feel like I can't control my hormones or my anger. Has anyone else felt like this. What do you do???
I have felt I can't control my moods and anger before, especially when tired. If you are already overworked and tired, you will have a very short fuse (at least that is what I have noticed with me) I can only imagine that you find it very frustrating to come home and have more work to do, and frustration makes me snap big time. Drives my boyfriend nuts because he feels like he should do something to help, but that kinda just gets me more annoyed since he didn't help in the first place (at least in my eyes, even if he did in some way). I usually try to take a deep breath and remember that a lot of the stuff that is making me feel that way, doesn't really matter in the scheme of things and I try to accept that some things can wait and don't have to get done right away. (after all what is the worst that can happen if you get behind on house work?) I find that very hard to do, but it gets easier with practice. Try to take time to relax with a good book or hot bath or whatever works for you, and just clear your mind. Try to get all the worries to stop for that few minutes and just breathe. I hope this helps.
Been there. Maybe something else is really bothering you deep down that you aren't willing to deal with or talk about yet. Something else bugging you about your hubby? Are you short and crabby talking with other people like friends and family? Just been negative overall or is it pretty much just your husband? Maybe something specific about him/his actions is really bothering you and you probably need to be honest and talk to him about it. Hormones don't bring on most emotions, but intensifies them.....good luck..
Are you on any kind of contraceptive?they can make your moods fluctuate all the time for no reason!
It could be a build up of stress-I'm the same. I am obsessively tidy and have to do all the housework by myself whenever I get in from work whilst my other half just sits on his backside!If I ask him to help he goes a bit stroppy and says I nag him all the time-well I do, but with good reason!
Just talk to him. Explain that you feel like you not only work all day but you have to handle all of the household responsibilities on your own, and would appreciate it if he could help!
Be careful though-blokes have a tendancy to be able to turn it round on you by saying you're nagging all the time and blah blah blah, making you feel like you're the one who is in the wrong-you arent, they are just lazy and manipulating!!!!
I'm sure it will just be a build up of stress-if you do this everyday like go to work then come home to do the household stuff, you expect him to help, but he doesnt. And deep down this will aggrevate you.Alot!
Take some time out for yourself, or come up with somekind of rota, where you have at least one night a week off to yourself, where you can kick back and relax.
Hope this has helped!