I have a severe anxiety disorder & my fiance is pushing me to get a job. What do!


Question: After my second panic attack, I was out of work for a few weeks due to an inner ear infection & they fired me since I wasn't able to go to work. Since then, my anxiety got worse & I've started medication & been to the therapist once (I will be seeing her regularly though). It's gotten so bad that I cannot leave home unless it's to a family member's house, where I still end up having panic attacks. My fiance is really pushing me to go out & get a job, but I'm completely uncomfortable with the idea of spending my days at work having attacks. Even thinking about it causes attacks.

It makes me so upset when he pushes me because I want so badly to be normal & help him as far as income goes, but it just feels impossible & he really doesn't seem to understand the severity of my problem.

What do I do?


Answers: After my second panic attack, I was out of work for a few weeks due to an inner ear infection & they fired me since I wasn't able to go to work. Since then, my anxiety got worse & I've started medication & been to the therapist once (I will be seeing her regularly though). It's gotten so bad that I cannot leave home unless it's to a family member's house, where I still end up having panic attacks. My fiance is really pushing me to go out & get a job, but I'm completely uncomfortable with the idea of spending my days at work having attacks. Even thinking about it causes attacks.

It makes me so upset when he pushes me because I want so badly to be normal & help him as far as income goes, but it just feels impossible & he really doesn't seem to understand the severity of my problem.

What do I do?

Establish an open and honest communication with your therapist and try to find out the root of your panic attacks. Once you become more stable, the best thing you can is to get and keep a job. It gives you a reason to get up every day and a sense that you are making a worthwhile contribution to your relationship. Otherwise, you will wither and your relationship will suffer.
I suffer from depression and anxiety, and some days just getting out the door on time is a huge task. But, once I'm at work, I feel as if I have a purpose in life and I'm not so anxious or depressed. Not to mention, I like getting a paycheck :)
Don't give up. With medication and a good therapist, you can live a happy and productive life.

He doesn't understand what you are going through...That's the problem...When people feel normal, whatever that is, they don't understand the dynamics of anxiety.. They say "snap out of it" etc...you feel like putting them through a wall...Family members and loved ones are the least supportive because they don't know what it feels like to have a panic attack..There are some materials you can research on how to help a loved one who is going through anxiety and/or depression...I suggest you find some material and ask him to read it.. If he's not supportive, then you might need to rethink this relationship...If he keeps harping on you, it will make you feel like total crap...You can actually get disability for this...I would check with your doctor and therapist about it...God Bless and prayers are coming your way....

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