Have you ever encountered this type of person how did you deal with them ?!


Question: have you ever encountered the type of person that if they sense vunerability they want to exploit it to its maximum, to make you completely break down, lose it or get you upset so that they can act all superior and heroic, like some type of a saviour, like theyve come to rescue you and there in charge and to portray that their stronger and more superior to you because youve broken down, and lost it ?

how do you handle these types of predatory people ?

like they want to see you upset so they can come running along to patronize you like their this some type of ' saving grace ' and that iam lucky that they appeared on the scene....like to thank god for them to be there.

see what i mean ?

i hate it howd you deal with them ?

i dont mind true empathy, true compassion, i much appreciate it and do thankgod...but these types of exploitery individuals i cant stand.

i cant even think of the proper names for these types of people.


Answers: have you ever encountered the type of person that if they sense vunerability they want to exploit it to its maximum, to make you completely break down, lose it or get you upset so that they can act all superior and heroic, like some type of a saviour, like theyve come to rescue you and there in charge and to portray that their stronger and more superior to you because youve broken down, and lost it ?

how do you handle these types of predatory people ?

like they want to see you upset so they can come running along to patronize you like their this some type of ' saving grace ' and that iam lucky that they appeared on the scene....like to thank god for them to be there.

see what i mean ?

i hate it howd you deal with them ?

i dont mind true empathy, true compassion, i much appreciate it and do thankgod...but these types of exploitery individuals i cant stand.

i cant even think of the proper names for these types of people.

Wow !!! I don't even know where to begin. My father abused me severely. When Child Welfare stepped in he convinced them that we (my siblings and me) were totally out of control and it was the only way to keep order in the house. When I was old enough to have a job I was forced to work and hand over my pay check. I even had to ask him if I could get myself any thing (Such as clothing or shoes, under garments , socks) He even tried his damnedest to make me feel that I couldn't make it "in the real world" if it weren't for him and my mom. He would even try to make me feel guilty for even thinking of myself over anyone else. Some stories of the things that happened to me are far to gruesome and long for me to go into.I couldn't escape his tyranny while I was a child but I did escape his grasp. Once I was on my own,however, I knew he had no power over me. I stuck to my guns. I believed in assertiveness and boundaries and I never let him take even an inch. Stand your ground. Those who back down WILL get walked on. Chest up they will back down cause deep down they are the coward.

say go away i dont need you

kill 'em

When you sense this is a person and can't avoid them, don't allow them the cheap thrill of victimizing you. Just do not let anything they say into your head. If they make prodding remarks at your "weaknesses," just blow them off as if the subject is neutral; don't let them get anywhere. They'll probably get bored and move on.

It's Borderline Personality Disorder.......

The proper name for these individuals is a**hole., fill in the blanks. It is difficult, but when I deal with these people, and my brother is one of them, I keep my wits about me and roll with the punches he mentally sends my way. He doesn't like to pretend he is there to save me from my dilemma, he actually tries to go ahead and finish me off while he has me down. So I refuse to let him anger me or frustrate me and laugh it all off as if it were nothing. I have learned through experience that the more I say to him, the worse he will become, so I beat him at his own game. It is something that I really have to work at though, because I have such resentment in my heart for him. He is truly my brother, but I find it hard to believe we had the same parents or the same blood in our veins. I do not claim him, but I will remain social and cordial if forced to be in his company. It is an opportunity I avoid at any cost however. Just hold your head high and do the best you can in life and don't let others opinions bother you. Your own happiness is what matters, so be happy in yourself. If you are trying your best and putting all you can into the world around you then feel free to laugh at the fools who attempt to bring you down. They are the ones who have a problem, not you. Put a great big smile on your face and laugh them away. Let a smile be your umbrella! I know you can, my friend!

Borderline...I think Im going to lose my mind....

I have this same problem with certain people--professionally, and personally.
For example, I've had supervisors patronize me for no reason, and then turn around and ask if Im doing ok . . . in the same sentence!
People who act this way are very insecure about themselves--VERY insecure, and for reasons entirely of their own.
They don't seem to know how to deal with their insecurities in a healthy way, so they take it out on other people, thinking that debasing others will make them feel or look better.
It's never about you, and you should never react to it as if it is. They're trying to drop some of their personal baggage onto you, and all they're looking for is that one reason from you to do it.
Another thing I've noticed is that people who patronize seem to gossip a lot, too. Again, insecurities from their own little world trying to unload themselves onto you.
It's a good idea not to get too personal with people like this--or even involved with them if you can help it. If you must interact because they're family or coworkers, keep your dealings and relations with them very, very brief, and barely on the surface.
Dealing with people like this comes down to your own dignity and self-respect. If somebody is giving you a reason to stand up for yourself--and it doesn't matter what that reason is--then do it.
Don't make it personal. Be tactful, honest, and exact. Just calmly tell them how they're acting towards you, and how it makes you feel.
Then walk away.





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