Will i ever get over it?!
Question: k well...
When i was 12 i got sexually assaulted, touched and the guy exposed himself to me. All on the back of the bus. Now, nearly 4 years later, i cant sit in that seat on any bus because of fear and i also fear the day i get married. I guess i could say im scared of that body part how and wen will i get over this?
Answers: k well...
When i was 12 i got sexually assaulted, touched and the guy exposed himself to me. All on the back of the bus. Now, nearly 4 years later, i cant sit in that seat on any bus because of fear and i also fear the day i get married. I guess i could say im scared of that body part how and wen will i get over this?
As a former victim of sexual assault I can tell you that you can get over this. You will remember it but you do not have to let it affect you in such a negative way. Talking to a trained therapist helps - alot. You can deal with this - and should get some help with it in the form of therapy.
I'm really glad that I did find a therapist to talk to about what happened to me - the only thing I would change about going to talk to a therapist is that I wish I had done it sooner (I waited about 10 years before I ever told anyone).
I call myself a "former" victim because even though what happened to me was awful and violent and violating, I refuse to live in fear and allow that incident to make me into a permanent victim. Believe me, sweetheart, if I can get over the past - I'm sure you can, too!
Good luck!!!
You will never actually totally get over this. You may worry about it less as time goes on, but you will always remember it in some little way. That happened to my father as a little kid, and to this day he remembers every detail.
I feel for you... you do need help... have ever told anyone who loves you about this... have you taken criminal action against the person who assualted you? were you able to do anything after the fact to help yourself? have you allowed yourself to be angry? have you mourned the loss of innocence you had stolen? these questions are important because they help to take back the control you think you've lost to that person... I was assaulted by my father and it took years for me to put it in a place where it isn't a part of my daily life... being honest to yourself about what happened is crucial... a therapist can help you with this...they can help you to realize it wasn't the bus seat that hurt you, it was that person... I had internalized so much of what happened to me that it had created memories in my body... therapy helped to disconnect me from what happened and how it was causing a
response from my body...as for sex... I wouldn't until you feel safe within yourself to be able to handle your response to it... I was confused for many years and only hurt myself by not waiting...make sure it is with someone you trust who can show that all men aren't bad and neither are their parts or their actions... I really like being with my hubby...it does get better if you take action now and free yourself from the cage you are sticking yourself in... therapy now = happiness later...