Can you just stop being depressed if you want?!
Question: I'm not positive that i am suffering from depression, all I know is that I am constantly tired and I just moved this year and I hate it here and haven't exactly been loving life, to say the least. I try to get enough excersise and eat healthy but i'm not the best at it. Just today I realised that I needed to make a life style change so I will try to get atleast 20 minutes of excersise a day, eat better ,go to sleep sooner and take iron supplements. Anyways, my question is if I am suffering from depressioin can I just stop by myself? I've tried to tell myself about all the positive things in life and to be happy but every day seems so dull and empty. I feel like i'm living for nothing. I know I should go to a therapist if this continues, but in the mean time can anyone give me some suggestions about what to do? Like how to stop being so tired and feel better. Anything.....
THANKS!
Answers: I'm not positive that i am suffering from depression, all I know is that I am constantly tired and I just moved this year and I hate it here and haven't exactly been loving life, to say the least. I try to get enough excersise and eat healthy but i'm not the best at it. Just today I realised that I needed to make a life style change so I will try to get atleast 20 minutes of excersise a day, eat better ,go to sleep sooner and take iron supplements. Anyways, my question is if I am suffering from depressioin can I just stop by myself? I've tried to tell myself about all the positive things in life and to be happy but every day seems so dull and empty. I feel like i'm living for nothing. I know I should go to a therapist if this continues, but in the mean time can anyone give me some suggestions about what to do? Like how to stop being so tired and feel better. Anything.....
THANKS!
When I read your first line, I thought you were going to suggest that being depressed is just self-indulgent and you could make it stop if you wanted. That isn't true, of course, as the detail of your question makes clear. You've made a superb start by realising you need to do something yourself, and the exercise, food, sleep and supplements are all sensible and useful things to do. You know that therapy is the answer, ultimately, and I don't know what's keeping you from it now :-)!
I think you will find that the regular sleep and exercise and good diet and iron supplements WILL lift your mood a bit. Also avoid alcohol and drugs, excess coffee and sugar (as all of these lift your mood only to drop you down lower than where you started).
What is also needed, I think, is to find some people whose company you enjoy. The easiest way, as a rule, is to join some group or class that you are really interested in. This could be a language class, a woodworking class, a film club, a tennis club, tango group, etc etc. You'll have the possibility of talking to people who share at least one interest with you. Even though depression makes one feel like withdrawing, being in contact with people is an important part of recovery. It might not feel great at first, but stick with it and it's likely to show results.
Also, do let yourself know about what feels bad. I know there is a lot of stuff around about 'being positive' and in essence there's nothing wrong with that, but when (as often) it means pushing away the difficult and down feelings and feeling bad about yourself for having them, you only make the situation worse. I'd suggest writing down or drawing all the miserable, upset, distressed, flat, bored feelings. Do it regularly, preferably at a regular time, every day. Gradually, your inner self will begin to know that there is a time and place for all this to be expressed (but whatever you do, DON'T try to push feelings away at other times - acknowledge them, treat them with respect, and ask them to stand to one side and be available to be written about at your writing time/drawn at your drawing time). If you keep telling yourself off for having certain feelings, and push them away, you'll feel worse (as we always do when told off!) and those feelings will work even harder to get attention.......
If you've tried the obvious things (exercise, good diet, therapy perhaps), I don't think you can "think yourself" out of it.
There are a number of medical conditions (hormonal problems, e.g.,) that can cause it, so it makes sense to me to consider ruling them out.
socialize..you'll feel a lot comfortable since you are in a new place...
Not sure your age, but there could be a medical condition that is causing you to be so tired. (even teens can have certain conditions.) You really need to visit your doctor and explain what is going on. If you are honest with your Dr. about everything he /she will point you in the direction you need to be in ..You are right about seeing a therapist. If you are suffering from depression you need help and the sooner the better. Making all the changes you are making is great, but with the iron supplement, if you do not have iron deficiency, your body will just rid itself of the unneeded iron , so you may be just wasting money buying them. Like I said there are alot of reasons for the way you feel, and some illnesses can cause alot of other symptoms, so that maybe why you feel so tired. Please go to your doctor and let them help you. I was like you at one point about 2 years ago, and being a nurse I should have known what was wrong, but I just did not listen to my body.. I was so tired, but thought it was just working alot.. It was actually a B12 deficiency. My body does not assorb that vitamin so I have to take a B12 shot each month for the rest of my life. Best of luck to you .. You are in my prayers.
plan stuff to do, wake up in the morning with exciting stuff to do. ( i should be telling myself this. lol) go do stuff that you normaly wouldnt do
It's easier said than done. I don't have the answer you're looking for but life is so amazing, just live it to the fullest, really...it's so short! Enjoy the world, love your family and friends and treat everybody the way you would want to be treated. I hope the best for you, good luck hon! God bless!
I'm no professional, so I'm not going to begin to try and tell you if your suffering from any kind of depression..I don't even know you or what you've gone through, all I can say is find something that brings you joy, a hobby, music...anything and IMMERSE yourself in that...just make sure whatever it is isn't against the law,<joke>.......but seriously there has to be something that puts a smile on your face...something that makes you forget that you think you may be suffering from depression.
Good luck to you.
i use to suffer from severe depression, the thing with depression
its a passing like sympton, that will pass altogether after time, the 1st step is to recgonise that u have depression like u said u may have, tierdness is one thing, constant sadness is also a possibilty.. depression can be overcome by positive
re-affimations but the thing most people dont relise with depression is people who suffer from it eg; 6 weeks or more
are actually in a ..how can i say this , in a depressive state, what i mean is the depression is like an umbrella on a hot day when u open the umbrella it only allows a certain amount of light in when in actual fact theres alot more light then u think, do u understand..?
what i found best was eating well, listening to my favorite music, doing something i've always wanted to do but never go to do becuse of whatever reason..visiting someone, i never had any friends ,so i would go to the shopping centre and walk amongst people, just so i was with others and not alone, get yourself a piece of paper, and on the top write down all the things youve wanted to do...then below it write down the most realistic thing you would do...next find out where u can do this ,times etc, then just go and do it, depression will make excuses for u, but u have to reaffirm yourself that this thing your going to do isnt going to be forever, try and force yourself to do it because if you dont depression will find a way around it..believe me...next check yourself in to see a clinical shrink, i know people say this and that about shrinks but i had my depression for 5 years ,it was horrible i would lock myself in my room and wouldnt go out, at one stage i had 4 shrinks, and 1 mental shrink that continued for 3 years on and off, all i can say is these people are trained in there chosen field, thats all the do all day everyday they are there to help.
Another great depression lifter is exercise, 30 mins in morn and 30 in afternoon can do wonders, a good dose of seriton everyday is great for ur well bieng, and it keeps depression away...i know u stated that you feel as those your living for nothing,but you know even though its been a few years since i overcame depression yet i too have those days when life is totally bleak...but what i do is i say to myself "Tomorrow no matter how im feeing, im going to do this and this and im going to have fun doing it... This sounds Kinda silly but talk to yourself (in your head) make jokes... go to the shopping mall and look at people and laugh at them, although that sounds mean, i did that and i still do it, youll be suprised how many funny looking people are out there, old ones complaing at eachother, children running amuck on there parents in the supermarket, couples walking together checking other people out, cafe workers looking out to space, there are so many things to laugh at, you know when its raining and im driving and i pull up at the traffic lights ,most people would look straight ahead across the street at the other drivers waitting there in there cars, looking all gloomy...but what i do is laugh at all the window wipers moving up and down, i dont know why though but it makes me laugh...anyway i found my shrinks the best people to talk too, i even made friends with them, the good thing about them is i felt when ever i nedd someone to talk too or just listen to me they were more them happy to have me visit them...and not because they were getting payed...most people who are not trained in that kind of field can only give you what they have experienced and sometimes you may even feel they dont understand u..as i did...u know only 6mnths ago i saw one of my old shrinks, he was in a hardware store and he asked me how i was going and i told him..and he was so pleased how better i got..its was actually really wierd because i didnt see him for about 3 years and when i saw him he was amazed how life turned better...and its the same with you, u may feel life is bleak now but things will get better, just take each day as it comes..depression will leave and the best way to get rid of it, is to introduce new things in your life and and make it a regular...as your activities change so will u....oh do u like comedy movies...theres a old movie i like to watch when im depressed its called 'Dumb and Dumber' with Jim Carrey...
Theres a bit in the movie where jim carrey sells this lil blind boy a budgie and the blind boy is sitting there in his wheel chair saying
" good birdie...thats a good birdie" but the birdies dead with sticky tape wrapped around its neck hahaha, hire that movie out its soo funny..and go see a clinical shrink,someone u can see a few days a week, and good luck, if you want to email me or chat about anything anytime, write to me ok Im in Australia.. and ill get back to u pronto...good luck,bye
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